It was only a few weeks after the breakup and my ex’s relationship status went from \u201cin a relationship\u201c to \u201csingle\u201c. Photos of him partying with friends and some unknown women were cluttering my news feed. His texts stopped coming and it seemed like he was over me just like that. In the blink of an eye, all the love he swore he had for me was gone and he moved on.<\/p>\n
Nel frattempo, ero ancora a met\u00e0 del mio secondo gelato, lottavo contro l'insonnia, piangevo senza sosta, parlavo con i miei amici, analizzavo in modo eccessivo la rottura e la relazione, cercando di dare un senso a ci\u00f2 che era appena accaduto. Cercavo di andare a fondo delle cose.<\/p>\n
\u201cHow can he move on so fast? Did he ever love me? How can he be so heartless? Where did his love go?\u201d<\/em> e sicuramente abbastanza \"<\/em>Gli manco almeno?<\/a>\u201d <\/em>were just some of the questions echoing in my head and making everything so much more difficult for me. But they wouldn\u2019t stop. I couldn\u2019t silence my mind. I couldn\u2019t stop the pain that was just getting deeper.<\/p>\n My world was falling apart and he was having the time of his life. I couldn\u2019t grasp it. For the life of me, I couldn\u2019t understand what was going on in his head. It\u2019s maybe not a good thing to confess but if I had known I wasn\u2019t the only one hurting, if I had known that he was going through something similar, maybe it would have been easier to get over the breakup.<\/strong><\/p>\n I know that a lot of women can relate. And a lot of them are wondering, \u201cWhy is this so? Why do men and women handle breakups differently?\u201d This is what I have found out:<\/p>\n Subito dopo la rottura, una donna analizza e cerca di dare un senso alla situazione. Ne parler\u00e0 apertamente con i suoi amici in modo da rendere le cose pi\u00f9 facili per se stessa. D'altro canto, gli uomini combattere i propri sentimenti<\/a>. They will ignore them and put them aside. They will avoid the subject and try to move on as fast as they can because that\u2019s what men do. They don\u2019t display their feelings publically or go into in-depth analyses with their friends.<\/p>\n Se si guarda al lungo termine, le donne hanno risultati migliori nel superare una rottura. Potrebbe volerci molto tempo, ma le donne elaborano i loro sentimenti. Parlandone, in un certo senso, lasciano che il dolore abbandoni lentamente il loro sistema. Giungono a conclusioni significative che le aiutano a vivere meglio.<\/p>\n While that initial blow is harder on women, that doesn\u2019t mean men are unaffected. A breakup doesn\u2019t spare anybody\u2014it\u2019s just the difference in timing. Women are more affected at the beginning and men later on.<\/p>\n Mentre le donne attraversano il periodo di lutto e analizzano l'intera relazione con le loro amiche, in realt\u00e0 stanno guarendo se stesse in quel processo. Si rendono conto che \u00e8 finita e del perch\u00e9 \u00e8 andata cos\u00ec. D'altro canto, gli uomini sono troppo impegnati a fuggire dai loro sentimenti e a distrarsi, cos\u00ec che la consapevolezza della rottura e del fatto che non si pu\u00f2 tornare indietro arriva dopo.<\/p>\n This is probably one of the most important differences. After the breakup, men are guarding their pride and self-esteem. They can experience anger and resentment if they weren\u2019t the ones who did the breaking up. So their coping mechanisms are bit more destructive. They hide their feelings, go out partying, are more prone to rebound relationships, etc. So, they don\u2019t solve the problem. They are not healing\u2014they are avoiding dealing with the breakup.<\/p>\n Women, however, do the complete opposite and most of the relationship experts agree that women\u2019s way of coping with breakups is more constructive. By turning to other people in their lives, by talking about their feelings and analyzing them, they try to give themselves some kind of closure. They learn their lessons, try to see the silver lining in all the pain and grow as the individuals.<\/p>\n Gli uomini e le donne hanno una visione totalmente diversa dell'intero concetto di relazione e del tutto diversa da quella delle donne. aspettative diverse<\/a>. La maggior parte delle donne, di solito senza alcuna reale intenzione di farlo, guarda a una relazione come a qualcosa di duraturo fin dall'inizio. Per questo motivo, investono molto di pi\u00f9 nelle relazioni rispetto agli uomini. Questo \u00e8 del tutto naturale e normale, ma un ottimo inizio di relazione non garantisce che siate dove siete destinati ad essere.<\/p>\n That\u2019s why when the relationship breaks up, women have this feeling that they have lost so much more\u2014the potential of the relationship and everything they thought that relationship could become has gone down the drain. By default, the pain is so much greater for it. On the contrary, men are less affected and less hurt because of their perception of a relationship. They go one day at a time without thinking too much of where the relationship is headed, especially early on.<\/p>\n1. Reazioni iniziali<\/span><\/strong><\/h1>\n
2. Tempo di realizzazione<\/span><\/strong><\/h1>\n
3. Meccanismi di coping<\/span><\/strong><\/h1>\n
4. Percezioni specifiche di una relazione<\/span><\/strong><\/h1>\n
5. Emozioni contro ragione<\/span><\/strong><\/h1>\n