{"id":19087,"date":"2018-05-23T07:18:20","date_gmt":"2018-05-23T07:18:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=19087"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:25:39","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:25:39","slug":"5-modi-per-aiutare-il-vostro-uomo-distrutto","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/5-modi-per-aiutare-il-vostro-uomo-distrutto\/","title":{"rendered":"5 modi per aiutare il vostro uomo distrutto"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Non posso promettere di risolvere tutti i vostri problemi, ma posso promettere che non li affronterete da soli\".<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Sometimes, love alone is not enough to make a relationship succeed. Sometimes, there are open wounds from the past that need healing. Sometimes, there are wrong people from the wrong times trying to destroy the right ones. And sometimes, there are scars that are still aching and need someone\u2019s help to mend them completely. You never truly know how damaged a person is until you try to love them.<\/p>\n

Mentre siamo abituati a leggere di donne distrutte, gli uomini possono essere spezzati<\/a>, too. But unlike women, men tend to ignore it and hide it until it completely destroys them so that they don\u2019t know how to express the love they are feeling or they just don\u2019t want to admit it\u2019s even there.<\/p>\n

Opening up to someone after you\u2019ve been through hell is hard, but sometimes, the broken man we fell in love is worth the fight. And here is how you can help him:<\/strong><\/p>\n

1. Dagli tempo<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

Questa \u00e8 probabilmente una delle cose pi\u00f9 difficili da fare: dargli tempo quando tutto ci\u00f2 che vuoi \u00e8 stare con lui. Ma se volete che stia con voi con tutto il cuore, dovete dargli un po' di tempo per guarire. Dovete dimostrargli che siete l\u00ec per lui e che non siete la sua ex che lo ha spezzato; che state con lui grazie a lui, non per le cose che pu\u00f2 fare per voi. A volte la migliore medicina per un cuore spezzato \u00e8 il tempo, ma il tempo in combinazione con l'amore \u00e8 una vera e propria combinazione vincente!<\/p>\n

2. Ascoltarlo<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

Listen to him\u2014not just so you can answer something, but to truly hear what he is saying. To him, opening up is like reliving those memories again. It\u2019s like going through that hell over and over again and he is doing it so you could understand what he been through. He is doing it so you know that he can be better, that he is vale la pena di lottare<\/a> dopo tutto. Ha solo bisogno di pi\u00f9 tempo e del vostro amore. Se si sta aprendo con voi, \u00e8 gi\u00e0 a met\u00e0 strada per migliorare.<\/p>\n

3. Understand that you won\u2019t understand and give him some space<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

No one has lived through the same things and sometimes the hardest part of a relationship is trying to walk in someone else\u2019s shoes. Trying to understand what is bothering our partner and then trying to fix it is what keeps the relationship going, but in this case, understand that you won\u2019t always understand. Talking about it to him is hard and sometimes not even he can understand it, which is why you need to give both him and yourself some space to heal and move on.<\/p>\n

Giving him and yourself some space might be crucial in helping him because there\u2019s a high possibility that you might be overwhelmed with all the failed attempts of helping him and your relationship. Taking some time and space could be the thing that will save your man and your relationship in the end.<\/p>\n

4. Mostrare empatia<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

Sometimes, all you can do is to emphasize with him. If it\u2019s hard for him to talk about it, don\u2019t push him to do it\u2014the same like you wouldn\u2019t like him to push you into doing things you don\u2019t want or simply can\u2019t do. Just, be there for him and share silence with him when he needs you to.<\/p>\n

5. Don\u2019t try to change or fix him \u2013 he needs to do it on his own<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

The decision about making changes should be completely up to him. If you are doing it for him or even trying to fix him, it will only break you. If he doesn\u2019t make that decision on his own, there is a high possibility of him resenting you or even pushing you away, simply because he is still afraid and hurting because of his ex. Relationships to him are still the scariest things in this world.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, if he is not interested in changing himself, maybe it\u2019s time you stopped putting effort in him. Sometimes, the best thing you can do is to let go because not all people can be saved. And not everyone WANTS to be saved. No matter how much you love him, sometimes you need to love yourself more.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u201cI can\u2019t promise to fix all of your problems, but I can promise you won\u2019t face them alone.\u201d Sometimes, love alone is not enough to make a relationship succeed. Sometimes, there are open wounds from the past that need healing. Sometimes, there are wrong people from the wrong times trying to destroy the right ones….<\/p>","protected":false},"author":42,"featured_media":19088,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29646],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-19087","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-understanding-men"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29646,"label":"understanding men"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/05\/priscilla.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Selma June","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/selmajune\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29646,"name":"understanding men","slug":"understanding-men","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29646,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Wondering about what's going on inside his head? Or do you need explanations for his actions? Learn to understand men, and your life will become easier.","parent":29643,"count":570,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29646,"category_count":570,"category_description":"Wondering about what's going on inside his head? Or do you need explanations for his actions? Learn to understand men, and your life will become easier.","cat_name":"understanding men","category_nicename":"understanding-men","category_parent":29643}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19087","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/42"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=19087"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19087\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/19088"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=19087"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=19087"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=19087"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}