{"id":19184,"date":"2019-12-28T13:13:32","date_gmt":"2019-12-28T13:13:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=19184"},"modified":"2021-08-12T13:41:23","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T13:41:23","slug":"la-verita-e-che-non-e-emotivamente-distrutto-e-solo-uno-stronzo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/la-verita-e-che-non-e-emotivamente-distrutto-e-solo-uno-stronzo\/","title":{"rendered":"La verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che lui non \u00e8 emotivamente distrutto: \u00e8 solo uno stronzo"},"content":{"rendered":"

La buffa verit\u00e0 su tutti i rapporti umani \u00e8 che abbiamo la tendenza a giustificare le azioni delle persone a cui teniamo profondamente. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Actually, we want to justify to ourself the fact that we love someone who clearly doesn\u2019t deserve our love and who doesn\u2019t deserve a place in our life so we make excuses for that person\u2019s behavior. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

We feel humiliated and foolish for caring for someone we know is not good for us and maybe is not even a good person in general but our heart refuses to accept this notion and constantly tries to see what lies behind this person\u2019s behavior toward us.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

It\u2019s the same with you and this one guy in your life. From the moment you met him, he made some things clear. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Ha detto chiaramente che non \u00e8 una persona disposta a impegnarsi e che pu\u00f2 darti la possibilit\u00e0 di fare un'esperienza di vita. <\/span>l'amore che meriti<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Anche se probabilmente non vi ha mai detto una cosa del genere ad alta voce, di sicuro ve l'ha dimostrata con le sue azioni.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

And ever since you met him, he has done nothing but cause you pain. You suffered a lot because of him and the way he\u2019s been treating you but even all of that didn\u2019t chase you away from him. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

S<\/span>o it\u2019s evident you have something that keeps you around this guy.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

\u00c8 evidente che provate dei sentimenti profondi per lui. Lo amate e fareste di tutto perch\u00e9 lui vi ricambiasse. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

But somehow, that isn\u2019t happening, despite all of your efforts.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Anche se quest'uomo \u00e8 un idiota con voi per la maggior parte del tempo, ogni volta che volete lasciare questa situazione, lui fa qualcosa per farvi ripensare alla vostra decisione. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

He does something which makes you give him another chance, even though he clearly doesn\u2019t deserve it. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Vi d\u00e0 un po' del suo amore e delle sue attenzioni.<\/span>\u2014<\/span>quanto basta per tenerti con s\u00e9. E questo \u00e8 qualcosa che si tiene per mesi.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

After a lot of thought, you\u2019ve reached a conclusion. You\u2019ve come to think that this man is actually <\/b>emotivamente danneggiato<\/b> <\/a>e rotto e che questa \u00e8 la causa di tutti i suoi problemi. <\/b><\/p>\r\n

Questa \u00e8 la causa del suo comportamento nei vostri confronti e questo \u00e8 ci\u00f2 che lo ha reso l'uomo che \u00e8 oggi. <\/b><\/p>\r\n

This is why he doesn\u2019t want to commit and why he doesn\u2019t want to open up to you or show you his life. <\/b><\/p>\r\n

Perch\u00e9 \u00e8 evidente che \u00e8 stato ferito in passato e non \u00e8 disposto a permettere che questo accada di nuovo.<\/b><\/p>\r\n

\u00c8 qualcosa che vi fa pensare che non sia cos\u00ec cattivo come sembra e che vi fa giustificare il suo comportamento nei vostri confronti. <\/b><\/p>\r\n

You simply assume that this guy needs your love to change, that he needs your guidance and support through life and that you can\u2019t leave him hanging. <\/b><\/p>\r\n

Lei si vede come una superdonna il cui compito \u00e8 salvare quest'uomo e guarire il suo cuore.<\/b><\/p>\r\n

Beh, mi dispiace essere io a dirtelo, ma \u00e8 probabile che quest'uomo non sia emotivamente danneggiato o distrutto. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

\u00c8 probabile che sia solo un <\/b>uomo tossico che fa giochi mentali<\/b><\/a> senza alcun motivo.<\/b><\/p>\r\n

I know you are trying to get to the bottom of his behavior and that you are trying to find the reason for the way he\u2019s been treating you but it\u2019s time to accept that some men do this and there is nothing you can do about it.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

I know this is painful for you to hear but I don\u2019t want you to think that this guy loves you somewhere in the depths of his heart and that you just need to try a little bit harder for this love to come to the surface. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

I don\u2019t want you to think that he is actually running away from his feelings for you because he is scared of their intensity. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

I don\u2019t want you to think that he is petrified that you would hurt him and that this is why he refuses to give himself completely to you. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

I don\u2019t want you to think that there is a vulnerable, little boy, waiting to be loved, hidden inside of this man.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Perch\u00e9 nulla di tutto ci\u00f2 \u00e8 vero.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Quest'uomo si \u00e8 semplicemente servito di voi, del vostro amore e della vostra gentilezza per tutto il tempo. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Ti sta usando per il suo ego, per il sesso o solo perch\u00e9 gli piace essere amato da te o avere sempre qualcuno accanto a s\u00e9.<\/b><\/p>\r\n

In ogni caso, il punto \u00e8 lo stesso<\/span>\u2014<\/span>smettere di giustificarlo<\/span><\/a> because it\u2019s about time you look the truth in the eyes.<\/span> <\/p>\r\n\r\n

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The funny truth about all human relations is that we have a tendency to justify the actions of the people we care for deeply. Actually, we want to justify to ourself the fact that we love someone who clearly doesn\u2019t deserve our love and who doesn\u2019t deserve a place in our life so we make…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":42,"featured_media":19185,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29646],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-19184","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-understanding-men"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29646,"label":"understanding men"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/05\/marcelo-matarazzo-303795-unsplash.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Selma June","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/selmajune\/"},"comment_info":1,"category_info":[{"term_id":29646,"name":"understanding men","slug":"understanding-men","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29646,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Wondering about what's going on inside his head? Or do you need explanations for his actions? Learn to understand men, and your life will become easier.","parent":29643,"count":570,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29646,"category_count":570,"category_description":"Wondering about what's going on inside his head? Or do you need explanations for his actions? Learn to understand men, and your life will become easier.","cat_name":"understanding men","category_nicename":"understanding-men","category_parent":29643}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19184","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/42"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=19184"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19184\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/19185"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=19184"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=19184"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=19184"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}