{"id":19189,"date":"2020-06-28T13:38:29","date_gmt":"2020-06-28T13:38:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=19189"},"modified":"2021-08-11T11:15:48","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T11:15:48","slug":"5-cose-che-fai-per-sbaglio-perche-hai-avuto-il-cuore-spezzato-troppe-volte","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/5-cose-che-fai-per-sbaglio-perche-hai-avuto-il-cuore-spezzato-troppe-volte\/","title":{"rendered":"5 cose che fai accidentalmente perch\u00e9 hai avuto il cuore spezzato troppe volte"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Tutti cambiamo quando il nostro cuore si spezza, soprattutto se succede pi\u00f9 di una volta. E anche se non lo sai, non fai eccezione a questa regola.<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t notice these things because they\u2019ve become a part of who you are and because these changes didn\u2019t happen overnight.<\/p>\n<p>But it is simple\u2014some of your behavior patterns which you may not be aware of are a direct consequence of your heartbreaks and here are 5 of them.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Sei negativo<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-110288\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/sad-blond-woman-sitting-outside6.jpg\" alt=\"donna bionda triste seduta fuori\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/sad-blond-woman-sitting-outside6.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/sad-blond-woman-sitting-outside6-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/sad-blond-woman-sitting-outside6-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/sad-blond-woman-sitting-outside6-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/sad-blond-woman-sitting-outside6-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/sad-blond-woman-sitting-outside6-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/sad-blond-woman-sitting-outside6-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/sad-blond-woman-sitting-outside6-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Una delle cose che potreste non notare e che sono cambiate in voi da quando vi siete trasferiti in Italia. <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/life\/8-lezioni-che-ho-imparato-dopo-che-mi-hanno-spezzato-il-cuore\/\">ti hanno spezzato il cuore<\/a> is that you\u2019ve become too negative.<\/p>\n<p>Prima di tutte le delusioni che avete vissuto in passato, eravate sempre ottimisti e positivi su tutto. Ma ora le cose sono cambiate.<\/p>\n<p>Vi aspettate semplicemente il risultato peggiore in ogni situazione possibile e date sempre per scontato il peggio di tutti e di tutto.<\/p>\n<p>Anche se non lo sapete, si tratta in realt\u00e0 di un meccanismo di difesa.<\/p>\n<p>You simply had your hopes up too many times before and you always ended up disappointed so you don\u2019t allow yourself for this to happen again.<\/p>\n<p>You think you\u2019ll be less hurt if you expect the worst.<\/p>\n<p>E se succede qualcosa di buono, sar\u00e0 una sorpresa positiva per voi. Ma se le vostre ipotesi si avverano, allora lo sapevate fin dall'inizio.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Siete scettici<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-110289\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/beautiful-woman-standing-in-park-alone.jpg\" alt=\"bella donna in piedi nel parco da sola\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/beautiful-woman-standing-in-park-alone.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/beautiful-woman-standing-in-park-alone-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/beautiful-woman-standing-in-park-alone-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/beautiful-woman-standing-in-park-alone-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/beautiful-woman-standing-in-park-alone-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/beautiful-woman-standing-in-park-alone-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/beautiful-woman-standing-in-park-alone-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/beautiful-woman-standing-in-park-alone-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Another thing that has changed about you and your world views is the fact that you\u2019ve become too skeptical and cynical, although you try to fight it.<\/p>\n<p>You simply don\u2019t believe in love and you secretly think that people who believe in romance and in a fairy tale kind of love are actually foolish to believe in such things.<\/p>\n<p>Sebbene siate felici quando le persone intorno a voi sono felicemente innamorate, il fatto \u00e8 che avete sempre segretamente paura che finiscano per essere ferite e che debbano vivere le stesse esperienze che avete vissuto voi.<\/p>\n<p>You simply can\u2019t make yourself believe in love and your behavior and comments reveal what you really think about it.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Avete problemi di fiducia con le persone che meritano la vostra fiducia.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-110290\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/pensive-woman-sitting-by-the-window.jpg\" alt=\"donna pensierosa seduta alla finestra\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/pensive-woman-sitting-by-the-window.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/pensive-woman-sitting-by-the-window-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/pensive-woman-sitting-by-the-window-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/pensive-woman-sitting-by-the-window-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/pensive-woman-sitting-by-the-window-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/pensive-woman-sitting-by-the-window-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/pensive-woman-sitting-by-the-window-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/pensive-woman-sitting-by-the-window-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Quando si viene feriti e abbandonati dalle persone di cui ci si fidava di pi\u00f9, \u00e8 naturale che si abbia fiducia e che si abbia paura di essere abbandonati. <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/life\/ad-ogni-ragazza-con-problemi-di-abbandono\/\">problemi di abbandono<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Erano le persone su cui pensavate di poter sempre contare e le persone nelle cui mani eravate pronti a mettere la vostra vita.<\/p>\n<p>Ma alla fine sono stati loro a causarvi il dolore maggiore.<\/p>\n<p>And after this happened, you felt like you couldn\u2019t trust anyone, let alone someone who had just walked into your life.<\/p>\n<p>Quindi avete semplicemente deciso di non dare fiducia a nessuno nella vostra vita, anche se lo fate inconsciamente e probabilmente non siete consapevoli di farlo.<\/p>\n<p>But what you don\u2019t know is that not every man is the same; there are guys who deserve your trust and you are keeping these guys out because of your fears.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Ti saboti da solo<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-110292\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-the-bench-alone.jpg\" alt=\"donna seduta su una panchina nel parco da sola\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-the-bench-alone.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-the-bench-alone-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-the-bench-alone-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-the-bench-alone-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-the-bench-alone-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-the-bench-alone-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-the-bench-alone-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-the-bench-alone-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Anche se gli uomini della vostra vita passata vi hanno ferito pi\u00f9 volte, quello che forse non sapete \u00e8 che ora siete l'unica che vi impedisce di essere felici.<\/p>\n<p>Ci\u00f2 significa che siete voi a sabotare voi stessi permettendo loro di avere ancora un effetto sulla vostra vita.<\/p>\n<p>You do it every time you let your past demons get to you, every time you remind yourself of everything you\u2019ve been through and every time you give any significance to people who don\u2019t deserve it.<\/p>\n<p>But not only that\u2014you do it every time you assume the worst of people and every time you think a new guy you meet will be the same as a man from your past.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">A volte sembrate scortesi<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-110291\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/confident-blond-woman-sitting-by-the-window.jpg\" alt=\"sicura di s\u00e9 bella donna bionda seduta alla finestra\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/confident-blond-woman-sitting-by-the-window.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/confident-blond-woman-sitting-by-the-window-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/confident-blond-woman-sitting-by-the-window-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/confident-blond-woman-sitting-by-the-window-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/confident-blond-woman-sitting-by-the-window-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/confident-blond-woman-sitting-by-the-window-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/confident-blond-woman-sitting-by-the-window-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/confident-blond-woman-sitting-by-the-window-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Nel profondo, siete una persona gentile e amorevole. <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/privilegio-capace-di-amare-ragazza-cuore-grande-2\/\">ragazza dal cuore grande<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Ma la vita vi ha insegnato a non mostrarlo al mondo, perch\u00e9 le persone lo vedrebbero come una vulnerabilit\u00e0 e lo userebbero contro di voi.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ve figured out that you have to protect yourself so you\u2019ve built walls all around you to keep toxic people out.<\/p>\n<p>You simply don\u2019t open up to almost anyone and you refuse to allow new people to become a part of your life.<\/p>\n<p>Ma a volte le persone intorno a voi lo scambiano per maleducazione e scortesia. A volte venite percepiti come poco amichevoli, anche se non ne siete consapevoli.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-110285\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/5-Things-You-Accidentally-Do-Because-You-Had-Your-Heart-Broken-Too-Many-Times-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"5 cose che fai accidentalmente perch\u00e9 hai avuto il cuore spezzato troppe volte\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/5-Things-You-Accidentally-Do-Because-You-Had-Your-Heart-Broken-Too-Many-Times-pinterest.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/5-Things-You-Accidentally-Do-Because-You-Had-Your-Heart-Broken-Too-Many-Times-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/5-Things-You-Accidentally-Do-Because-You-Had-Your-Heart-Broken-Too-Many-Times-pinterest-150x225.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>We all change when our heart gets broken, especially if it happens more than once. And although you don\u2019t know it, you are no exception to this rule. You don\u2019t notice these things because they\u2019ve become a part of who you are and because these changes didn\u2019t happen overnight. But it is simple\u2014some of your&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":110287,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29632],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-19189","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-abuse-and-trauma"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29632,"label":"abuse &amp; trauma"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/5-Things-You-Accidentally-Do-Because-You-Had-Your-Heart-Broken-Too-Many-Times-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29632,"name":"abuse &amp; trauma","slug":"abuse-and-trauma","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29632,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","parent":22911,"count":138,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29632,"category_count":138,"category_description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","cat_name":"abuse &amp; trauma","category_nicename":"abuse-and-trauma","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19189","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=19189"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19189\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/110287"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=19189"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=19189"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=19189"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}