{"id":19508,"date":"2018-06-05T10:36:53","date_gmt":"2018-06-05T10:36:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=19508"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:04:14","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:04:14","slug":"alla-ragazza-che-non-chiede-mai-aiuto","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/alla-ragazza-che-non-chiede-mai-aiuto\/","title":{"rendered":"Alla ragazza che non chiede mai aiuto"},"content":{"rendered":"

I know you. I know your heart. You\u2019re the girl in the invisible armor\u2014the girl who wears her heart on her sleeve but still somehow finds a way to shield that from the rest of the world. You\u2019ve been through hell and back and, at times, it seemed that it would never end. Maybe you\u2019ve been surrounded by family, friends and acquaintances, maybe you haven\u2019t or maybe you just knew that all of those people around you weren\u2019t really there for you. You have a keen intuition that many don\u2019t understand or give you credit for.<\/p>\n

You have an incredibly giving spirit and heart and perhaps the deep, internal longing for someone to be there for you drives you to be as giving of yourself to others as possible, and at times, even to your own detriment. You know things that you don\u2019t understand and you feel things so deeply that they burn into your soul, creating an ache for the ability to be able to do something about all the injustices, both small and large, that you see happen on a daily basis.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re the girl who cries on her way to work but walks in with a smile on her face and has kind words to anyone who crosses her path, never giving anyone a reason to think that she is hurting or going through her own personal struggles. You are the girl who carries on and somehow finds a way to get through your struggles, never letting anyone in, never letting anyone know and never asking for help.<\/p>\n

I know you because I am you. We are the iron women\u2014the women hiding our true inner identity, hiding behind the armor we create for ourselves, fighting for everyone else but ourselves. We feel, we hurt and we experience loss, sadness, and personal tragedies just like everyone else. Yet we treat ourselves almost as if we aren\u2019t allowed to be like everyone else\u2014to be human. We feel as if our problems are our own to figure out and we are best not to put the burden of our problems on others\u2014as if expressing ourselves and being honest about our struggles would be some kind of punishable offense or crime. It makes no sense, really. How could someone who feels so deeply for others, who cares so deeply about others and who is so generous and passionate, feel so badly about reaching out for help themselves? It\u2019s a question that I still cannot answer. It\u2019s illogical and elusive.<\/p>\n

At times, when I look back on my own life, I find myself wondering how I came out of the nightmare experiences I\u2019ve had, unbroken and still breathing. So many of these experiences had me feeling like I was holding my breath until it was over, holding on by a string of strength. I never reached out to anyone for help in any way\u2014whether it be a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on or just some advice, support and borrowed strength. And I know that many reading this have been there as well. How did we do it? How did we make it through? The answer to that lies within each of us.<\/p>\n

Siamo molto pi\u00f9 forti di quanto crediamo e molto pi\u00f9 resistenti di quanto pensiamo. Tutti noi abbiamo incredibili potere in noi stessi<\/a> that can move mountains and be the catalyst to positive change. Where we fall short is not realizing that we don\u2019t have to get through it alone so often. The strength we hold is so powerful when harnessed correctly but we deprive ourselves of the replenishment we need when we refuse to ask for help and end up completely depleting ourselves, leaving us running on fumes and with barely anything left to give ourselves, let alone anyone else.<\/p>\n

I am a girl who never asks for help. I am you. We are not so different. But I am morphing into the girl who is learning to ask for help and by doing so, I am learning to love myself and accept myself for exactly who I am. There is no shame in reaching out to a friend, a family member, or even a complete stranger\u2014just to vent, to have someone listen to you and to perhaps give you a different perspective on what you\u2019ve been grappling with.<\/p>\n

You are only human and you are not expected to be any more than that. Maybe it was something we experienced in our childhoods, maybe it was the abusive relationship(s) we were in or maybe it was just the lack of any kind of self-confidence being instilled into us by those who should have, that led us to feel like we need to be invincible\u2014to be embarrassed to ask for the help that we need. Whatever the case may be, I can assure you that it is not wrong or shameful, nor does it make you any less of a person, to just reach out and ask for help when you need it.<\/p>\n

We all need to cry sometimes and just let it all out and some of us actually prefer to be alone, and that\u2019s okay. But how much better would it feel if sometimes we could cry and have someone there who would listen to us and give us a hug? Even if you feel like you have no one in your life who would do that for you and let me tell you, I\u2019ve been there too\u2014I can promise you, you do. There is someone out there who wants to be there for you, who wants to help you and who wants to just, if nothing else, let you know that you are not alone. You are not alone. I am here with you all and I\u2019ve been through it all, too.<\/p>\n

I write this for all of you who feel like you need to do it all and be everything to everyone, all while suppressing your human need to have someone be there for you. Let my words envelop you as one, big, tight bear-hug and speak to your heart\u2014letting you know that you are so strong, beautiful and resilient. Letting you know that you have so much power within you that is meant to do great things and is meant to help others. Letting you know that you have a beautiful soul and an amazing heart and that you, too, are so deserving of the love, generosity and graciousness that you so openly shower others with.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s okay to ask for help. Reach out. Speak up and don\u2019t be afraid to just take that armor off for a while and rest in the beautiful mess of emotions you feel. Let the world see you for who you are and watch what great things can happen when we learn that it\u2019s okay to be strong and vulnerable. It\u2019s okay to be open to the help that is awaiting us and it\u2019s okay to start saying no to the things that deplete you and yes to the things that VOI<\/strong> necessit\u00e0, che VOI<\/strong> desiderio.<\/p>\n

Be the girl who learns to ask for help when she needs it and never feels guilty about it, because she is a beautiful, strong goddess who deserves every good thing the universe has to offer. And don\u2019t ever forget it.<\/p>\n

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