{"id":19741,"date":"2018-06-12T10:05:04","date_gmt":"2018-06-12T10:05:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=19741"},"modified":"2021-08-12T07:58:09","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T07:58:09","slug":"8-cose-da-fare-per-mettersi-sulla-strada-giusta-per-trovare-lamore","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/8-cose-da-fare-per-mettersi-sulla-strada-giusta-per-trovare-lamore\/","title":{"rendered":"8 cose da fare per mettersi sulla strada giusta per trovare l'amore"},"content":{"rendered":"

The truth is sometimes we sabotage our chances of finding love. So much so that we stray from the right path, and our love life looks like a line of disastrous crashes we barely survive. We are usually not even aware that we are doing something wrong. That\u2019s why we keep repeating the same mistake over and over again.<\/p>\n

That is why it’s high time to change some things. It\u2019s time we stop standing in our own way of finding true love and get right back on the right path. It won\u2019t be easy and we might not get where we want the first time around, but our efforts will pay off eventually. So, let\u2019s start with things we should do to make that happen.<\/p>\n

1. Dare l'ultimo saluto al passato<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

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It\u2019s not so easy to leave the past in the past. Sometimes it bruises us so much that we carry it with us. It makes so much damage that we feel like we have to build muri emotivi<\/a> intorno a noi, in modo da sentirci sicuri e protetti. Ma se da un lato ci troviamo in una zona sicura, dall'altro impediamo all'amore di trovarci.<\/p>\n

We get so scared that the same thing will happen again. We\u2019ve developed trust issues and every new relationship we start, we start it with our emotional baggage from the past and that\u2019s not a good way to start a new relationship. Not all people are your ex. Not everybody wants to play games or have hidden agendas.<\/p>\n

I know it\u2019s scary to open up and be vulnerable again, but that\u2019s the only way you can find someone else. There is a great risk there of getting hurt, but it\u2019s even with the chances of finding love and happiness. And if you ask me, love is always worth the risk.<\/p>\n

The other thing we might be doing wrong with the past\u2014aka our ex\u2014is hoping that they will come back or that things might be different the second time around. If we are serious about getting on the right path, we have to cut all cords with our past, acknowledge that some things are over and usually that\u2019s the best thing that could have happened to us<\/p>\n

2. Smettere di concentrarsi sulla ricerca dell'amore e iniziare a concentrarsi su se stessi<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

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The rule is: When you chase after something, it keeps slipping away. It\u2019s the same with all things in life, especially love. Sometimes we are so focused on finding love that it\u2019s almost the only thing we ever think about. We want is so badly that we become desperate in our search. And that odour of desperation is what keeps love away.<\/p>\n

La cosa da fare \u00e8 riorientare l'attenzione dalla ricerca della persona giusta alla scoperta di se stessi. Dal fare dei cambiamenti nella propria vita per impressionare qualcuno al farli per impressionare se stessi e, in definitiva, migliorare la propria vita. Dobbiamo costruire e creare il rapporto che abbiamo con noi stessi per poterne avere uno con qualcun altro. Dobbiamo prima innamorarci di noi stessi e della nostra vita, in modo che qualcuno possa poi innamorarsi di noi.<\/p>\n

3. Eliminate la lista dei requisiti indispensabili per il vostro partner perfetto.<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

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Sometimes, we create in our heads (or write down the actual list) of things we want our ideal partner to be. Doing this, we severely drift from the right path for finding love. For starters, there is no such thing as perfection. We are not perfect, so we shouldn\u2019t expect it from anybody else. Secondly, we will most probably appreciate and value the most things we haven\u2019t expected from our partner.<\/p>\n

So relax and stop with those great expectations. Just because someone looks good on paper and checks all the boxes doesn’t mean they are right for you. Allow someone to positively surprise you. In the end, all we want is someone to accept us just as we are. That\u2019s why we should do the same for them.<\/p>\n

4. Stabilite nuove regole per voi stessi<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

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While a checklist to finding a partner won\u2019t do you any good, some rules and guidelines on what you should and shouldn\u2019t tolerate from your partner are more than welcome. Love has this way of clouding our judgment, so we end up forgiving the unforgivable, tolerating everything and getting hurt in the end.<\/p>\n

Avere degli standard in una relazione \u00e8 obbligatorio<\/a>. You shouldn\u2019t allow somebody to treat you poorly just because you love them. Love goes both ways. It demands trust, respect, mutual involvement and reciprocity all the way. Don\u2019t settle for anything else.<\/p>\n

You are probably in that stage right now where you think about why your previous relationship didn\u2019t work out.I made an effort. I invested. I was all in. Maybe that\u2019s the problem. You overinvested in somebody who didn\u2019t do the same for you. You gave your best to somebody who gave you only bits and pieces. Don\u2019t settle for half-assed loves and do things differently next time around. Don\u2019t let anybody who doesn\u2019t treat you right stay in your life.<\/p>\n

5. You deserve to be loved and don\u2019t ever allow yourself to think otherwise<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

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Our past influences our future. That is inevitable. Toxic relationships can ruin our self-esteem. They can make us feel like we are not enough and that we are unworthy of love. That\u2019s obviously not true. Our exes transferred their insecurities onto us. They had to make us feel less, so they could feel superior. They messed up your past. Don\u2019t let them mess your future, too.<\/p>\n

If this feeling doesn’t have to do anything with your exes and something to do with you, you should get to the bottom of things and see why you feel that way. Work on that. Work on yourself and find your self-love. You have to be able to receive the love coming towards you and you are not going to be able to do that until you realize that you are just self-sabotaging yourself. You are enough. You are unique and definitely worth of love. Never doubt that.<\/p>\n

6. Creare opportunit\u00e0 di incontro con nuove persone<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

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Love won\u2019t literally come knocking on your door. You have to put yourself out there. The best way to achieve that is by improving your life. Take up some course you are interested in like language, cooking, dancing. Travel. Find a place to volunteer\u2014whatever you want\u2014just so it pulls you out from the rut you are stuck in. It will make you feel better. You will be doing something for yourself, maybe helping other people along the way and improving your chances of meeting someone new.<\/p>\n

Explore the Internet dating scene. It can be very helpful when you want to meet new people. They can match you according to your common interests and increase your chances of finding someone. However, not everybody on the online dating scene is honest and trustworthy\u2014good thing you can filter those people out.
\nDon\u2019t roll your eyes on good old blind dating either. Sometimes a blind date can be just the thing that can open your eyes and make your heart skip a beat. The worst thing to do is exclude all the possibilities, stay in and expect love to find you.<\/p>\n

7. Don\u2019t rush into things<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

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Come tutte le cose belle della vita, anche l'amore richiede tempo. Nulla pu\u00f2 accadere da un giorno all'altro. Bisogna lavorarci su e costruire. Assicuratevi di stringere prima un'amicizia con il vostro nuovo partner. A volte aspettiamo cos\u00ec tanto per iniziare qualcosa di nuovo che, una volta successo, ci facciamo prendere la mano. Saltiamo le tappe e passiamo dall'inizio promettente al matrimonio con figli.<\/p>\n

So take it slowly. Don\u2019t rush into things. It will only scare the other person away. Let things be. Costruire lentamente<\/a>. Start with mutual respect and trust. Then, move on to more complex things. See if you are really made for each other or it\u2019s just an initial infatuation that is clouding your judgement.<\/p>\n

8. Avere un po' di fiducia che tutto si risolva<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

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In the end when all is said and done and you have kept your end of the bargain, you have to have a little faith. You have to know that the right path to love includes relying on destiny to take its course, too. Love comes in the moment that it\u2019s supposed to and not a minute earlier.<\/p>\n

No matter how tired of waiting we might be, we have to believe that the right person is somewhere out there waiting for us to. Unfortunately, right things in life don\u2019t come so easily. They take time and patience. So in the meanwhile, don\u2019t just sit and wait. Work on yourself for yourself. Love and respect yourself and be ready when love comes your way.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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