we aren\u2019t friends anymore<\/a> e forse non si capisce bene perch\u00e9.<\/p>\nI recently read To The Bestfriend Who Decided We Aren\u2019t Friends Anymore and it struck a chord with me. I realized that I was that friend who walked away, who gave up. I hurt you and that hurts me. But, the reality is, I decided we aren\u2019t friends anymore because\u2026 we just weren\u2019t.<\/p>\n
I think about all of the memories we shared, too. I haven\u2019t forgotten all of the years we were never without each other. And if we were apart, we were texting or counting down the minutes until we would be together again.<\/p>\n
I think about the times when it wasn\u2019t even a question if you were going to celebrate my birthday with me, binge watch Netflix and eat junk food, or hug me until I stopped crying and forgot his name. Because all that mattered was us. We were like Blair and Serena. Everything would be OK as long as we were together, right?<\/p>\n
But we aren\u2019t together.<\/p>\n
My heart is broken when I see you post pictures with other friends tagged #bestfriend #rideordie #girlfriend, when I hear one of our songs and you\u2019re not there to sing horribly with me, when I am alone or scared and you aren\u2019t there like you\u2019re supposed to be.<\/p>\n
You\u2019re just not there anymore and you haven\u2019t been for over a year.<\/p>\n
I moved away. I will take responsibility for leaving, for transferring colleges, for making new friends, for growing up. I know I left you, but that didn\u2019t change our friendship for me. I never stopped being your best friend.<\/p>\n
I know I had to go days at a time without texting you back. I know I had to go months without visiting. I go to a new college, I have new friends and I don\u2019t live 15 minutes away anymore, but when did that stop me from being there for you?<\/p>\n
Quando un altro idiota ti ha spezzato il cuore, sono stato al telefono con te finch\u00e9 non hai smesso di piangere. Quando hai subito una perdita, ho coperto il mio turno e sono venuta da te appena ho potuto. Non ho mai chiamato nessun altro migliore amico, sei sempre stato tu; lo sapevano anche i miei nuovi amici. Ma non era mai abbastanza per te.<\/p>\n
Maybe I am the one who officially decided we aren\u2019t friends anymore, but you decided too.<\/p>\n
You decided we weren\u2019t friends anymore when you stopped being my best friend, but expected me to be yours. You decided we weren\u2019t friends anymore when you intentionally tried to hurt me because you felt justified in doing so.<\/p>\n
You decided we weren\u2019t friends anymore when you chose a boy over our friendship \u2014 over and over and over again. You decided we weren\u2019t friends anymore when you chose to be jealous instead of happy for me. You decided we weren\u2019t friends anymore when you made our friendship a one-way street.<\/p>\n
Friendship, like any relationship I have learned, can\u2019t be a one-way street. It isn\u2019t petty, it isn\u2019t cruel. True friendship is supportive, accepting, understanding and is never less important than a boy. Best friends never, ever intentionally hurt their best friends , no matter what the reason may be. Once you do that, you just aren\u2019t best friends anymore.<\/p>\n
Ora, so che quando si ama qualcuno, si combatte. So che ci saranno momenti difficili, ma io ho resistito pi\u00f9 a lungo di quanto avrei dovuto. Tu lo sai. So che lo sai. Ti ho perdonato pi\u00f9 e pi\u00f9 volte.<\/p>\n
I forgave you for things that I never in a million years could imagine myself doing to you, or anyone for that matter; because I love you. Even when you did the unspeakable, I still loved you. You were my best friend. That meant commitment to me. That meant loyalty and unconditional love. Until it didn\u2019t to you.<\/p>\n
Ho continuato a scegliere te quando avrei dovuto scegliere me. Ebbene, ora scelgo me.<\/p>\n
I stand by my decision in deciding we aren\u2019t friends anymore, but it will hurt me every day. I just know that it will hurt less than it did desperately trying to save our friendship, trying to save you. You have made it clear that to you, our friendship isn\u2019t worth saving.<\/p>\n
You have made it clear that you don\u2019t want to be saved. So, I have no choice but to let go. I have nothing to hold on to anymore.<\/p>\n
Despite how it has ended, I still thank you. Thank you for our years of friendship. Thank you for all of the amazing memories \u2014 memories that I, to this day, can\u2019t imagine being topped. Thank you for showing me what true friendship is and what it isn\u2019t.<\/p>\n
Grazie per avermi insegnato a essere altruista, a perdonare e a essere un'amica leale. Soprattutto, grazie per essere stata la persona che mi ha finalmente spinto a scegliere me stessa.<\/p>\n
Amore,<\/p>\n
Il migliore amico che hai allontanato<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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