Until one day, they come and make your whole world collapse with only one sentence: \u201cWe need to talk.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n
Then pops up those 5 heartbreaking words: \u201c<\/b>It\u2019s not you, it\u2019s me,<\/b>\u201d with your soon-to-be-ex wearing that puppy-eyed look.<\/b><\/p>\n
Cominciate a sentirvi travolgere da una montagna russa di emozioni e le lacrime iniziano a scendere sulle guance.<\/p>\n
You’re not sure how to interpret those words… Is it truly the way your partner feels, or is it just a regular rottura<\/a> excuse? And I’m here for you today to help you find out and clear your doubts.<\/p>\n I don’t know what is with these ‘men,’ if I can call them that anymore, nowadays… It’s like the bed is the only place they actually have balls.<\/i><\/p>\n If you don’t like someone anymore, come clean about it. If you’ve cheated on your partner<\/a>, you owe them an apology \u2013 you can’t use a breakup to get away with it.<\/p>\n You’re guilty of someone’s<\/b> strazio,<\/b> <\/a>e tutto quello che hai fatto \u00e8 stato inventare una pessima frase di rottura. Voglio dire, davvero, <\/b>amico<\/b>? That’s a real cowardly act.<\/b><\/p>\n It also may have several ambiguous meanings… Ironically, it almost never means what it actually means because most people only use it as a breakup excuse.<\/p>\n In most cases, this breakup phrase simply means…<\/i><\/p>\n ‘You did absolutely nothing that could make me break up with you, but still, I have to do it because I feel <\/i>l'erba \u00e8 pi\u00f9 verde <\/i><\/a>on the other side’ <\/i>\u2013 I’m sure this is the scenario that has been playing in the heads of all those who use ‘It’s not you, it’s me’ as an excuse to leave someone in a “nice way.”<\/p>\n On the one hand, they’re actually right because it is them \u2013 they’re colui che ha iniziato la rottura<\/a> perch\u00e9 hanno altri interessi.<\/p>\n On the other hand, they also use it so they don’t complicate things any further and so they don’t look bad for leaving their partner for someone else.<\/p>\n Anche se questa frase sembra chiara, pu\u00f2 avere una <\/b>significato nascosto<\/b><\/a>.<\/b> Potrebbe essere solo una forma di manipolazione. Una manipolazione di cui non dovreste mai innamorarvi.<\/p>\n I’m sure they did not only leave you with this awful breakup line but that they also did it via social media… Am I right? Well, you’re obviously dealing with a chicken here who doesn’t have the guts to break up with you in person.<\/p>\n Pensano che se si assumono tutta la colpa, allora tutto andr\u00e0 bene. <\/b>S\u00ec, sarebbe giusto se tu fossi un fottuto idiota!<\/p>\n But with your common sense, you can\u2019t and shouldn’t accept that <\/b>vi stanno solo illudendo<\/b><\/a>. <\/b>Il mio consiglio per le relazioni \u00e8 di affrontarli. Fagli ammettere il vero motivo della rottura con te.<\/p>\n “Why are you such <\/i>un codardo<\/i><\/a>? Why don\u2019t you stand in front of me and have your heart on your sleeve?<\/i><\/p>\n Ditemi se non siete pi\u00f9 attratto da me<\/a>. Tell me if I gained some weight and you don\u2019t consider me hot anymore.<\/i><\/p>\n Whatever the reason is just tell me, okay? Because I won\u2019t buy that clich\u00e9 that it\u2019s all about you.”<\/i><\/p>\n The relationship is made of two people (3, 4, 5\u2026as you like it) and the point is that each and every person has something to do with the breakup.<\/i><\/p>\n It\u2019s not as simple as you think.<\/p>\n If you’re someone who used this <\/b>linea di rottura<\/b><\/a> per porre fine alla vostra relazione, basta tirare il freno e pensare al vostro partner per un secondo. <\/b>Vorrebbero sapere dov'\u00e8 il problema. Per i giorni a venire. Per i partner di cui innamorarsi.<\/p>\n That won’t make you feel better about your mistake. So, just be honest. That\u2019s the least you can do for the person you shared everything with.<\/p>\n Dovete tenere presente che alla fine tutto sar\u00e0 rivelato.<\/b><\/p>\n Every lie, every secret. Everything will be revealed and you can\u2019t do anything to make it stop.<\/i><\/p>\n That\u2019s the way that cookie crumbles. So, if you\u2019ve stopped loving your partner, you need to admit it to them. That’s the only way you’ll ease your conscience.<\/p>\n Pi\u00f9 facile per chi? Per <\/i>il <\/i>dumpee<\/i><\/a>? For the person who didn’t deserve it at all because all they did was love you too deeply and without any limits?<\/i><\/p>\n Non c'\u00e8 modo di rendere le cose pi\u00f9 facili per loro. <\/b>And if you’re trying to ease their pain by leaving them in this awful way, you’re only complicating things even more and only prolonging their agony and pain.<\/p>\n That’s not how things function in real life. Essere lasciati da qualcuno che si ama di pi\u00f9 fa male, indipendentemente dal modo in cui avviene la rottura. <\/b>That’s the kind of pain that can’t be reduced or eased in any way.<\/p>\n On the flip side, it may also mean…<\/i><\/p>\n This is the literal meaning behind this phrase. ‘It’s not about you, it’s about me’ may really mean that the problem is with them, that they did something and aren’t able to forgive themselves.<\/i><\/p>\n Forse hanno anche provato a lasciarselo alle spalle e ad andare avanti, ma ha continuato a perseguitarli.<\/b> They couldn’t stay with you under such pressure and decided that ending things would be the best thing.<\/p>\n But again, their actions are still deeply unfair, and they’re still (unintentionally) hurting you.<\/b> Ammettere i propri errori e assumersene la piena responsabilit\u00e0 era l'unica cosa giusta da fare in questo caso.<\/p>\n Questo \u00e8 il motivo pi\u00f9 comune per cui la maggior parte <\/i>fine delle relazioni<\/i><\/a>: <\/i>comunicazione malsana e irregolare.<\/b><\/p>\n Penso che tutti <\/i>esperti di relazioni<\/i> concordano sul fatto che non c'\u00e8 <\/i>relazione sana <\/i><\/a>senza una sana comunicazione.<\/i> There has to be understanding in relationships, but that doesn’t mean that your partner must read your mind because none of us have those abilities.<\/p>\n The thing is that if you don’t address things that are bothering you in your relationship in time, you’ll end up bottling them up inside. <\/b>You’ll keep bottling and pilling them up inside until one day…<\/p>\n BOOM<\/b> ? Un'enorme esplosione brucia la vostra relazione.<\/p>\n Inoltre, quelli questioni irrisolte<\/a> may create an aversion to your partner. You’ll understand that your feelings have changed, which will lead you to make this decision.<\/p>\n If you’ve noticed that your partner has <\/i>salute mentale<\/i> o <\/i>autostima<\/i><\/a> o alcuni problemi con i loro <\/i>migliori amici<\/i> and family, there is a possibility that is the real reason why they’re dumping you.<\/i><\/p>\n Quando una persona \u00e8 alle prese con <\/b>basso <\/b>autostima<\/b><\/a>, diventano inclini a pesare <\/b>relazioni<\/b> che hanno con altre persone.<\/b> Si chiedono costantemente se meritano davvero di essere amati e, purtroppo, questo non finisce quasi mai bene.<\/p>\n If you feel that this may be the case with your partner, then don’t insist on finding out the real reason for your breakup. Leave them alone, give them time to think about it all, and sort out their feelings in peace.<\/p>\n Il vostro partner potrebbe anche essere <\/i>in difficolt\u00e0 con l'impegno<\/i><\/a>, and maybe it’s really about them. They just can’t enter into a <\/i>relazione seria,<\/i> and they don’t want to keep leading you on.<\/i><\/p>\n Chimica forte<\/b><\/a> e <\/b>compatibilit\u00e0<\/b><\/a>… Love… Trust… You see, all those things are irrelevant if someone doesn’t sincerely feel ready to commit to someone else.<\/b><\/p>\n There is that inner voice in them that keeps telling them they’re making a mistake. That they should enjoy their single life a little while longer.<\/p>\n Se avete notato i modelli di <\/b>fobia dell'impegno<\/b><\/a> in your partner, it’s possible that they didn\u2019t use ‘<\/b>it’s not you, it’s me<\/b>‘ as a <\/b>scusa per la rottura<\/b> \u2013 it\u2019s a <\/b>scappare dalla scusa dell'impegno<\/b><\/a>.<\/b> They really feel that way and don’t want to hurt you anymore.<\/p>\n Se il vostro partner viene da voi con questo <\/i>linea di rottura<\/i>, the most important thing for you is to keep calm. Don’t react immediately.<\/i><\/p>\n Prendete un <\/b>respiro profondo<\/b> prima di dire qualcosa. E poi, dite tutto ci\u00f2 che avete nel cuore.<\/b><\/p>\n Tuttavia, se avete bisogno di aiuto, eccone due risposte impertinenti<\/a> a questa battuta di rottura davvero penosa.<\/p>\n Avete lottato duramente per mantenere la vostra relazione. Quindi, non c'\u00e8 motivo di essere tristi, n\u00e9 di rimpiangere qualcosa.<\/p>\n You’re the one that can leave the relationship with their head held high because you know you did absolutely nothing wrong.<\/b><\/p>\n That’s why you should agree with your partner that it’s not you \u2013 it’s them. And you shouldn’t feel bad about anything.<\/i><\/p>\n There is no need for name-calling and insults… There is no need for vendetta<\/a>… Keep the beautiful memories from your relationship, accept the reality, and continuare ad andare avanti<\/a>.<\/p>\n You are the person on the receiving end, but you’re also strong enough, and I know you can handle the truth. Non siete fatti per essere<\/a>, and that’s a fact you’ll need to come to terms with.<\/p>\n Tuttavia, provate a premere il tasto replay nella vostra mente su tutta la vostra relazione. Pensate a tutte le cose a cui avete dovuto rinunciare a causa loro. Pensate a tutti i sacrifici che avete dovuto fare per renderli felici.<\/i><\/p>\n Hanno perso qualcuno che li amava veramente ed era pronto a rinunciare a tutto per loro. Voi, invece, avete perso qualcuno che non \u00e8 mai stato pronto a ricambiare questi sentimenti.<\/b><\/p>\n Il punto fondamentale \u00e8 che \u00e8 abbastanza ovvio di chi sia la perdita, quindi smettetela di rimuginarci sopra. Se vogliono andarsene, tenete la porta aperta.<\/a> per loro.<\/p>\n \u25fe And one thing you should not by any means say when someone is using this breakup excuse to get rid of you is…<\/p>\n Who cares now? It’s over, they’re leaving you, and that’s all that is important. That’s the only focus right now.<\/p>\n And the absolute worst thing you could do at that moment is to say ‘<\/b>Ti amo<\/b><\/a>‘ to them, to the person who’s leaving you. <\/b>That’s a huge no-no that will only make you look miserable. That’s not how you’ll vincere la rottura<\/a>.<\/p>\n Ho avuto una situazione simile nella mia vita e, credetemi, cercare di trattenere la persona che mi ha abbandonato tanto tempo fa \u00e8 ancora il mio pi\u00f9 grande errore e rimpianto.<\/p>\n They’re breaking up with you, and there is your answer. Know that<\/i> se ti amano, non ti volterebbero mai le spalle<\/i><\/a>, a prescindere da tutto.<\/i><\/p>\n If your partner gives you the ‘It’s not you, it’s me’ discorso di rottura<\/a>, try to understand them. After all, the truth is, it’s difficult to live with someone who wants all or nothing.<\/p>\n Eravate innamorati, affascinati e ossessionati da qualcuno che non lo meritava, che non vi meritava affatto.<\/p>\n Ora dovete accettarlo e accettare il fatto che i vostri cuori hanno smesso di battere l'uno per l'altro. Il gioco \u00e8 finito.<\/i><\/p>\nWhat Does It Mean When They Say, ‘It’s Not You, It’s Me’?<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n\u2022 Classic breakup excuse<\/b><\/h3>\n
\u2022 Cowardly act<\/h3>\n
\u2022 Relief of conscience<\/h3>\n
\u2022 Making it easier<\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\n\u2022 Admission of guilt<\/h3>\n
\u2022 Unaddressed and unresolved issues<\/h3>\n
\u2022 Emotional\/physical\/mental health issues<\/h3>\n
\u2022 Commitment issues<\/h3>\n
How Do You Respond To ‘It’s Not You, It’s Me’?<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n\u2714\ufe0f You’re damn right; it’s not me, it’s you<\/h3>\n
\u2714\ufe0f It’s your loss, not mine<\/h3>\n
\u2716\ufe0f \u201cI just want to know, do you still love me?\u201d<\/h3>\n
In breve<\/h2>\n
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