{"id":20473,"date":"2019-07-04T08:27:06","date_gmt":"2019-07-04T08:27:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=20473"},"modified":"2021-08-12T06:54:47","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T06:54:47","slug":"7-cose-per-cui-mi-sono-accontentato-una-volta-e-mai-piu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/7-cose-per-cui-mi-sono-accontentato-una-volta-e-mai-piu\/","title":{"rendered":"7 cose per cui mi sono accontentata una volta (e mai pi\u00f9)"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2>1. Pessimi amici<\/h2>\n<p>Molti di noi hanno quegli amici che ti chiamano solo quando non hanno niente di meglio, o niente altro da fare.<\/p>\n<p>Or, there are people who always blame you somehow for the mistakes they have made. Well, those are lousy friends and they don\u2019t deserve a place in your life.<\/p>\n<p>You settled for shitty friends when you were younger, but you don\u2019t have to do it anymore. You\u2019re a grown person now and you don&#8217;t need someone who will make you feel bad and only take advantage of you.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re worthy of true friends and by eliminating all those fake ones, you\u2019ll make room for those who deserve you.<\/p>\n<h2>2. Quasi relazioni<\/h2>\n<p>That is the train I\u2019m not boarding anymore. I had my share of broken hearts and I\u2019m not planning on continuing the streak.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s understandable when you date and you break up. Of course, you\u2019re going to have a broken heart, but when you don\u2019t date someone and you still get your heart broken, then it\u2019s a problem. Someone you thought loved and cared about you hurts you the most in the end.<\/p>\n<p>Ho aperto loro il mio cuore e li ho fatti entrare, solo per scoprire che avevano iniziato a frequentare un'altra persona.<\/p>\n<p>In un certo senso cercavano sostegno emotivo e amore con me, ma non appena hanno trovato qualcuno che mi sostituisse, mi hanno spezzato il cuore.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m not buying that shit anymore. I\u2019ve learned my lesson.<\/p>\n<h2>3. Relazioni tossiche<\/h2>\n<p>I\u2019m na\u00efve and I trust people. That\u2019s why I\u2019m so easily manipulated. I\u2019ve been lied to and I\u2019ve been played.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ve always failed to see someone\u2019s true face because of infatuation, because of something I thought was love.<\/p>\n<p>I forgave those people a long time ago, but I had trouble with forgiving myself. I was so mad at myself for falling for their tricks and for not seeing straight, but in time, I managed to move on. I know it wasn\u2019t my fault and that I didn&#8217;t do anything wrong.<\/p>\n<p>Mi hanno usato insieme a tante altre persone. Sono loro che hanno bisogno di aiuto, non io. L'unica cosa che posso fare \u00e8 promettere a me stessa di non cadere mai pi\u00f9 in questi trucchi.<\/p>\n<h2>4. Fidanzati di merda<\/h2>\n<p>I\u2019m done being the only one trying. <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/life\/essere-single-e-sempre-meglio-che-essere-trattati-di-merda\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">I\u2019m done living in a relationship where I\u2019m treated like shit<\/a>. I\u2019m done dating selfish men who only know how to take care of themselves.<\/p>\n<p>Tante volte gli sono stata vicina e tante volte se n'\u00e8 andato quando avevo pi\u00f9 bisogno di lui. Non si \u00e8 mai pentito e non si \u00e8 mai fermato a riflettere sul suo comportamento.<\/p>\n<p>He felt it\u2019s a normal relationship because, from his standpoint, everything was just fine.<\/p>\n<p>Well, this is one mistake I will never do again. This was an experience from which I\u2019ve learned a lot. I learned how strong and worthy of true love I am.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ve learned that no one has the right to treat me like he did.<\/p>\n<h2>5. Relazioni unilaterali<\/h2>\n<p>Ho sacrificato cos\u00ec tanto per lui. Ho fatto di tutto per compiacerlo. In pratica, seguivo le sue regole.<\/p>\n<p>I was never truly happy in that relationship but I thought I was because I didn\u2019t know what true love is.<\/p>\n<p>I didn\u2019t know what it is like to be loved and cherished by someone. I didn\u2019t know what it is like to wake up happy in the morning.<\/p>\n<p>Mi sono trascurato psicologicamente e mi sono trascurato fisicamente. Mi sentivo e sembravo un pezzo di merda.<\/p>\n<p>I took care of him and ignored my needs, but every time I was taken for granted. I got nothing in return. Why? It\u2019s simple\u2014I was the only one who loved in that relationship. He never cared, not even a bit.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s my fault because no one forced me to stay. It\u2019s just that I underestimated myself and I voluntarily let him abuse me with his neglect.<\/p>\n<p>Avrei dovuto imparare che merito di pi\u00f9, ma per fortuna ora lo so.<\/p>\n<h2>6. Chiamate di bottino<\/h2>\n<p>I \u2018ve given up answering late night, drunken calls and opening the door in the middle of the night. I\u2019ve found some self-respect which I lacked when I was younger.<\/p>\n<p>Non ho mai avuto fiducia o creduto in me stessa, quindi mi sono accontentata di tutto ci\u00f2 che c'era l\u00e0 fuori. Quando mi piaceva qualcuno, avrei fatto letteralmente di tutto per attirare la sua attenzione e loro mi avrebbero usato.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m not going to do the same thing over again. Through the years, I have realized that I don\u2019t need to beg for anyone\u2019s attention. I\u2019m smart. I\u2019m fun to be with and there are people who like me without me asking for it.<\/p>\n<p>Ci sono persone che rinuncerebbero al loro tempo solo per passarlo con me.<\/p>\n<h2>7. Essere sempre l'ultimo della lista<\/h2>\n<p>I\u2019m really sick and tired of <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/ha-dato-priorita-al-tentativo\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">essere l'ultima priorit\u00e0 per tutti<\/a>, especially men I used to date. I\u2019m tired of being treated the way I don\u2019t deserve. The way nobody deserves.<\/p>\n<p>I had no idea who I was in the past. I didn\u2019t know how to appreciate myself. I didn\u2019t know how to love myself, so I searched for validation everywhere I could\u2014unfortunately in wrong men, too.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m not that young na\u00efve girl anymore. I became a woman. I became aware of my own worth. I\u2019ve slapped the world back for every slap it gave me.<\/p>\n<p>There is no more screwing around with me. There is no more setting for things I don\u2019t deserve because I deserve everything I wish for.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>1. Lousy friends Many of us have those friends who only call you when they have nothing better\u2014or nothing else\u2014to do. Or, there are people who always blame you somehow for the mistakes they have made. Well, those are lousy friends and they don\u2019t deserve a place in your life. You settled for shitty friends&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":20474,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-20473","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/ryan-jacobson-679843-unsplash.jpg",800,550,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20473","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=20473"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20473\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/20474"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=20473"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=20473"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=20473"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}