{"id":20584,"date":"2020-02-06T08:06:21","date_gmt":"2020-02-06T08:06:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=20584"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:32:37","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:32:37","slug":"tratti-che-fanno-si-che-un-narcisista-vi-insegua","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/tratti-che-fanno-si-che-un-narcisista-vi-insegua\/","title":{"rendered":"5 tratti che fanno s\u00ec che un narcisista vi insegua"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I narcisisti sono predatori e sono sempre alla ricerca di nuove vittime.<\/p>\n<p>They never stop and relax because they can\u2019t live without someone to draw all the energy from.<\/p>\n<p>Le persone innocenti, gli empatici, sono le loro prime vittime. Hanno molta energia da dare e questo avvicina il narcisista a loro.<\/p>\n<p>An empath\u2019s energy is the source of their narcissistic life. I met a guy once and he was everything I ever dreamed of. He was just perfect.<\/p>\n<p>His jokes were funny, he was considerate and he was good-looking. He had it all. Even my mother liked him and that\u2019s not an easy thing to achieve.<\/p>\n<p>Quando \u00e8 apparso nella mia vita, tutto \u00e8 improvvisamente migliorato, tutto era proprio nella mia strada.<\/p>\n<p>Era quasi troppo bello per essere vero. Avrei dovuto aspettarmi che succedesse qualcosa di grave, perch\u00e9 era impossibile che tutto fosse cos\u00ec dannatamente perfetto.<\/p>\n<p><strong>I primi mesi sono stati un sogno.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Ok, ha avuto dei momenti che mi hanno fatto dubitare per un attimo della sua integrit\u00e0 e della sua bont\u00e0, ma si \u00e8 sempre scusato per tutto quello che ha fatto e ha promesso di non farlo mai pi\u00f9.<\/p>\n<p>Inoltre, pensavo che tutti avessero il diritto di sbagliare e di avere una giornata storta.<\/p>\n<p>There have to be a few bumps in the road. It\u2019s how relationships work. You hit a bump and you solve it, so you move on.<\/p>\n<p><strong>But after a while, you realize that it\u2019s not him who\u2019s apologizing anymore, it\u2019s you all the time.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Something must be wrong in this picture. It was all perfect in the beginning but now you can\u2019t seem to catch a break.<\/p>\n<p>Tutto ci\u00f2 che fai sembra cos\u00ec sbagliato perch\u00e9 le sue reazioni te lo dimostrano.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c8 costantemente insoddisfatto di voi e vi critica continuamente.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Poi vi lasciate. <\/strong>And it doesn\u2019t end there. Either he begs or you beg for the two of you to get back together and you give him a second shot which he doesn\u2019t deserve.<\/p>\n<p>Deep down inside you know that but you can&#8217;t help it because you\u2019re in love and you hope that this time around things will definitely change. Well, they don\u2019t change, they become even worse.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Then it\u2019s everything all over again so naturally you break up once again.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>The story doesn&#8217;t end there. He comes back and he tries to get you back but this time, you\u2019re a bit smarter.<\/p>\n<p>Then the emotional blackmail begins. My narcissist did this to me. He played with my feelings because I didn&#8217;t have the courage or the strength to go <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/4-cose-che-accadranno-quando-non-avrete-piu-contatti-con-un-narcisista\/\">nessun contatto<\/a> con lui.<\/p>\n<p>Ho risposto alle sue chiamate, ci siamo incontrati per un caff\u00e8. Ho commesso l'errore di farlo rientrare nella mia vita, non come amante ma come amico.<\/p>\n<p>Mi dispiaceva per lui perch\u00e9 tante persone gli avevano fatto un torto in passato. Tante donne lo avevano ferito.<\/p>\n<p>He couldn\u2019t trust anybody and he was careful with his feelings because of that.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Che mucchio di stronzate!<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Non \u00e8 mai stato ferito. Era lui a ferire e manipolare gli altri. E ora stava cercando di manipolare me, fingendo di essere vulnerabile, in modo che io mi sentissi dispiaciuta e lo riprendessi.<\/p>\n<p>Mi stava ricattando emotivamente e io non avevo idea di cosa stesse succedendo.<\/p>\n<p><strong>I narcisisti sono predatori emotivi che intuiscono se si sta per cadere nel loro falso carisma e nei loro trucchi. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Sanno esattamente quale persona scegliere e utilizzare per darsi la carica.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong> They have a sixth sense for that and they can tell if you\u2019re going to buy their shit.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Che ve ne rendiate conto o meno, avete alcuni tratti che vi rendono bersaglio di un narcisista.<\/p>\n<p>Avete qualcosa che sanno di poter usare e buttare via quando hanno finito.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Vi fidate delle persone<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-80367 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/cute-smiling-woman-holding-cup-of-coffee-and-looking-at-man.jpg\" alt=\"donna carina e sorridente che tiene in mano una tazza di caff\u00e8 e guarda un uomo\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/cute-smiling-woman-holding-cup-of-coffee-and-looking-at-man.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/cute-smiling-woman-holding-cup-of-coffee-and-looking-at-man-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/cute-smiling-woman-holding-cup-of-coffee-and-looking-at-man-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/> &nbsp; &nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re naive and trusting which makes you blind to the subtle signs that you\u2019re dealing with a narcissist.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s not that you ignore those red flags a narcissist shows, and they have to show them sooner or later, but you simply can&#8217;t comprehend that someone can act that way and you don\u2019t pay attention.<\/p>\n<p>It won&#8217;t cross your mind that this person is trying to use you and that this person is dangerous because you\u2019re not like that.<\/p>\n<p>Il vostro carattere ingenuo vi fa credere che tutti si comportino come voi.<\/p>\n<p>Ti fa credere che ogni persona l\u00e0 fuori pensi agli altri come a se stessa.<\/p>\n<p>You believe them because you don\u2019t think that they would do something that nasty ever.<\/p>\n<p>You just can\u2019t see the red flags that this person is someone you should get away from as soon as possible.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">You\u2019re kind and compassionate<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-80368 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/woman-fall-in-love-at-sight-in-the-train.jpg\" alt=\"donna si innamora a vista in treno\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/woman-fall-in-love-at-sight-in-the-train.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/woman-fall-in-love-at-sight-in-the-train-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/woman-fall-in-love-at-sight-in-the-train-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re too loving and you care about everybody. You have so much love to give and you don\u2019t save it for yourself.<\/p>\n<p>It makes you happy when you make someone else happy, even if that means you put yourself second. That is something narcissists can\u2019t wait to get their hands on.<\/p>\n<p>Narcissists see your kindness and they see how you\u2019re nice to everybody and how you genuinely care about everybody and they take advantage of that. They are like sharks when they smell blood.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">You\u2019re lonely<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-80369 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/woman-standing-on-a-bridge.jpg\" alt=\"donna in piedi su un ponte\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/woman-standing-on-a-bridge.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/woman-standing-on-a-bridge-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/woman-standing-on-a-bridge-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>You desperately want to find love and because you\u2019re lonely you\u2019ll take anything that is offered to you.<\/p>\n<p>La sua autostima \u00e8 prossima allo zero, il che si adatta perfettamente a una personalit\u00e0 narcisistica.<\/p>\n<p>When you have no self-love or self-respect, it\u2019s easier to control you and that\u2019s when a narcissist strikes.<\/p>\n<p>Cos\u00ec finisci con lui perch\u00e9 \u00e8 l'unica cosa di cui hai bisogno nel tuo momento di solitudine e tristezza.<\/p>\n<p>Ti promette tutto quello che vuoi sentire. E dopo qualche mese ti ritrovi in un freddo e <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/7-cose-che-succedono-quando-si-incontra-un-bravo-ragazzo-dopo-una-relazione-violenta\/\">relazione abusiva<\/a>chiedendoci come ci siete arrivati e cosa \u00e8 successo.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Odiate il conflitto<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-80370 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/sad-woman-lying-on-bed.jpg\" alt=\"donna triste sdraiata sul letto\" width=\"800\" height=\"535\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/sad-woman-lying-on-bed.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/sad-woman-lying-on-bed-300x201.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/sad-woman-lying-on-bed-768x514.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Narcissists feed on the fear they evoke in their victims. When they start screaming and yelling at you just because they are having a bad day or they want to blame you for something that\u2019s their fault, they provoke fear in you, which is their favorite feeling.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re afraid of conflict and you want to avoid it at any cost. You want to keep things calm, which suits them.<\/p>\n<p>They won\u2019t lose a lot of energy in driving you crazy, they will feed themselves with your fear and you won\u2019t do anything about it.<\/p>\n<p>In sostanza, pi\u00f9 si evita il conflitto, pi\u00f9 si \u00e8 interessanti per un narcisista.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">You don\u2019t know how to set boundaries<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-80371 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/Sad-and-lonely-woman-looking-at-her-reflection-in-the-mirror.jpg\" alt=\"Donna triste e solitaria che guarda il suo riflesso nello specchio\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/Sad-and-lonely-woman-looking-at-her-reflection-in-the-mirror.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/Sad-and-lonely-woman-looking-at-her-reflection-in-the-mirror-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/Sad-and-lonely-woman-looking-at-her-reflection-in-the-mirror-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>You have to know how to put your foot down and say when you\u2019ve had enough.<\/p>\n<p>Bisogna saper porre dei limiti e non permettere alle persone di calpestarci.<\/p>\n<p>You have to fight for yourself and stand up and raise your voice when it\u2019s necessary.<\/p>\n<p>When you set boundaries and show people what they are allowed and not allowed to do, you\u2019re going to let good people in your life and kick the bad ones out.<\/p>\n<p>You have to show everyone what the things are that you will and won\u2019t tolerate.<\/p>\n<p>When a narcissist gets a hold of you, he will tear you apart. It\u2019s so important to be able to spot and, if necessary, <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/guida-definitiva-allindividuazione-del-narcisista-dopo-la-sua-morte\/\">ignorare un narcisista<\/a> per evitare che vi mettano gli artigli addosso.<\/p>\n<p>E questo non \u00e8 un lavoro facile da fare. All'inizio saranno affascinanti e amorevoli. Saranno perfetti.<\/p>\n<p>And they will stay that way until they are completely sure you won\u2019t be able to get away that easily.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-80372 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/5-Traits-You-Have-That-Makes-A-Narcissist-Chase-You-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"5 tratti che fanno s\u00ec che un narcisista vi insegua\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/5-Traits-You-Have-That-Makes-A-Narcissist-Chase-You-Pinterest.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/5-Traits-You-Have-That-Makes-A-Narcissist-Chase-You-Pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Narcissists are predators and they are always on the lookout for new victims. They never stop and relax because they can\u2019t live without someone to draw all the energy from. Innocent people, empaths, are their prime victims. They have a lot of energy to give, which draws a narcissist closer to them. An empath\u2019s energy&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":80373,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29633],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-20584","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-narcissism"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29633,"label":"narcissism"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/5-Traits-You-Have-That-Makes-A-Narcissist-Chase-You.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":1,"category_info":[{"term_id":29633,"name":"narcissism","slug":"narcissism","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29633,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Mind games and manipulations are narcissist's favorite controlling tactics. 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