{"id":20811,"date":"2020-04-13T08:56:54","date_gmt":"2020-04-13T08:56:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=20811"},"modified":"2022-02-25T03:05:28","modified_gmt":"2022-02-25T03:05:28","slug":"ecco-perche-ho-dovuto-mandare-quel-messaggio-daddio","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/ecco-perche-ho-dovuto-mandare-quel-messaggio-daddio\/","title":{"rendered":"Ecco perch\u00e9 ho dovuto inviare quel messaggio d'addio"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Mi sono sempre chiesta perch\u00e9 alcune donne abbiano la necessit\u00e0 di inviare quei lunghi messaggi agli uomini. Sembra inutile.<\/p>\n<p>Essi avrebbero o <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/perche-allimprovviso-ignora-i-miei-messaggi-scopri-perche\/\">essere ignorati<\/a> o ricevere una risposta breve e ancora pi\u00f9 frustrante. Me lo sono chiesto anch'io prima di inviarne una.<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t know what came over me. I just sat down and started writing:<\/p>\n<p><i>\u2018I am not a coward you know, I would tell you all of this in person but <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/e-stato-incredibilmente-difficile-lasciarti-andare-ma-non-mi-hai-lasciato-altra-scelta\/\">non mi hai lasciato altra scelta<\/a>. <\/i><\/p>\n<p><i>Te ne sei andato senza una spiegazione o un addio adeguato. Meritavo davvero di essere trattata cos\u00ec? <\/i><\/p>\n<p><i>I can\u2019t believe that someone capable of having so much emotion could &nbsp;be so heartless at the same time. <\/i><\/p>\n<p><i>Sapevi che questo mi avrebbe spezzato. Gli addii sono sempre difficili, ma quando tutto rimane inspiegabile, lo sono ancora di pi\u00f9. <\/i><\/p>\n<p><i>Credo che tu non mi abbia mai apprezzato abbastanza da trattarmi bene, nemmeno alla fine. <\/i><\/p>\n<p><i>So di essere stata una sciocca a innamorarmi di te. Pensavo di aver visto in te qualcosa che nessun altro avrebbe potuto vedere. <\/i><\/p>\n<p><i>Heck, I still think there is some good deep down inside of you. Too bad it still hasn\u2019t come out. <\/i><\/p>\n<p><i>Ho fatto del mio meglio per capire quando tu non riuscivi a capire.<\/i><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-90606\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/lonely-woman-sitting-on-the-roof.jpg\" alt=\"donna sola seduta sul tetto\" width=\"800\" height=\"531\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/lonely-woman-sitting-on-the-roof.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/lonely-woman-sitting-on-the-roof-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/lonely-woman-sitting-on-the-roof-768x510.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><i>When you wouldn\u2019t call or text for days, when you didn\u2019t find time for me, when you said something hurtful. <\/i><\/p>\n<p><i>You didn\u2019t even have to make up excuses, I would make them for you. I would always think about the best possible scenarios before thinking of the worst. <\/i><\/p>\n<p><i>I think I was even too good. That\u2019s why you took me for granted. You relied on me to be there for you, no matter what you did. <\/i><\/p>\n<p><i>Ascoltare, capire e sostenere. Aspettare. E ora sembra che tutto ci\u00f2 che ho fatto con te sia stato aspettare il momento giusto, che tu fossi pronto, che mi trattassi meglio con tutto. <\/i><\/p>\n<p><i>And the sad truth is that if you hadn\u2019t left me, I would still be waiting. <\/i><\/p>\n<p><i>That\u2019s why I am writing this to thank you for leaving the way you did. If you hadn\u2019t, I would still be waiting in vain. <\/i><\/p>\n<p><i>In questo modo, mi hai dato la possibilit\u00e0 di vedere che posso stare in piedi da solo. Che mi sento persino meglio e pi\u00f9 sereno ora che non sei pi\u00f9 nella mia vita. <\/i><\/p>\n<p><i>Quindi grazie e arrivederci per sempre. <\/i><b>L'ho scritto tutto d'un fiato e mi sembrava di svenire dopo aver premuto il pulsante di invio.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-90607\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/Person-standing-in-the-middle-of-the-wheat-field.jpg\" alt=\"Persona in piedi in mezzo al campo di grano\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/Person-standing-in-the-middle-of-the-wheat-field.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/Person-standing-in-the-middle-of-the-wheat-field-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/Person-standing-in-the-middle-of-the-wheat-field-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Non avevo idea che avrei mandato questo messaggio prima di inviarlo. Non ci avevo mai pensato prima.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c8 stato solo un momento in cui si fa qualcosa di stupido e irrazionale.<\/p>\n<p><b>Ma mi sono sentita cos\u00ec a mio agio dopo averla inviata.<\/b> Ha alleggerito la mia anima spezzata dopo aver scritto tutto ci\u00f2 che la opprimeva.<\/p>\n<p>Mi sono sentita meglio per aver detto tutte quelle cose che mi tenevo dentro. Mi sono sentita come se il peso del mio cuore fosse stato sollevato.<\/p>\n<p>Quando finalmente mi resi conto di ci\u00f2 che avevo fatto, fui presa dal panico per un po'. Mi chiedevo cosa avrebbe pensato di me. Avrebbe pensato che ero una debole per averglielo inviato?<\/p>\n<p>Would he think I was trying to get him back? And it hit me, I really shouldn\u2019t care what he or anyone else thinks of me.<\/p>\n<p>I didn\u2019t do it as some lame attempt to lure him back. I didn\u2019t do it out of hatred or out of love.<\/p>\n<p>I didn\u2019t do it expecting a reply, which never came btw. I did this for me. <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/chiudere-con-lex-che-rifiuta-di-parlare\/\">Per darmi pace<\/a>. <b>To say that final goodbye he didn\u2019t have the courage to say.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><b><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-90608 size-large\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/This-Is-Why-I-Had-To-Send-That-Goodbye-Text-Pinterest-724x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Ecco perch\u00e9 ho dovuto inviare quel messaggio d&#039;addio\" width=\"724\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/This-Is-Why-I-Had-To-Send-That-Goodbye-Text-Pinterest-724x1024.jpg 724w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/This-Is-Why-I-Had-To-Send-That-Goodbye-Text-Pinterest-212x300.jpg 212w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/This-Is-Why-I-Had-To-Send-That-Goodbye-Text-Pinterest-768x1086.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/This-Is-Why-I-Had-To-Send-That-Goodbye-Text-Pinterest-1086x1536.jpg 1086w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/This-Is-Why-I-Had-To-Send-That-Goodbye-Text-Pinterest-1448x2048.jpg 1448w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/This-Is-Why-I-Had-To-Send-That-Goodbye-Text-Pinterest.jpg 1587w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 724px) 100vw, 724px\" \/><\/b><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I always wondered why some women have the necessity to send those long texts to men. It seems pointless. They would either get ignored or get a reply that was short and even more frustrating. I wondered before I sent one myself. I don\u2019t know what came over me. I just sat down and started&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":90609,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-20811","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/This-Is-Why-I-Had-To-Send-That-Goodbye-Text.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20811","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=20811"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20811\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/90609"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=20811"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=20811"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=20811"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}