{"id":20873,"date":"2020-05-17T08:03:09","date_gmt":"2020-05-17T08:03:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=20873"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:37:01","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:37:01","slug":"porre-fine-a-una-relazione-di-tira-e-molla","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/porre-fine-a-una-relazione-di-tira-e-molla\/","title":{"rendered":"10 cose da fare per mettere fine a una relazione che va avanti e indietro"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Fate un passo indietro e vedete le cose per quello che sono. Aspettate costantemente giorni migliori, che qualcuno sia pronto, che cambi, che vi tratti meglio e che finalmente rimanga, ma lui non lo fa mai.<\/p>\n<p>Un attimo prima \u00e8 l\u00ec, l'attimo dopo non lo si trova pi\u00f9 e si rimane soli a raccogliere i cocci.<\/p>\n<p>Questo tuo tira e molla ti sta facendo stancare.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s making a mess out of your thoughts and feelings. It\u2019s giving you a false sense of belonging while he is there and when he is not, you realize just how unhappy you are with this whole situation.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/life\/alla-ragazza-con-lanima-stanca-e-arrivato-il-momento-di-salvarti\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">It\u2019s time to make things better for yourself<\/a> e chiedere ci\u00f2 che vi spetta. Dovete porre fine a questo tira e molla o questo scenario continuer\u00e0 a ripetersi fino alla rottura totale.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s time to take a realistic look and see things for what they are, instead of for what you want them to be.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s time to give priority to the things you deserve instead of the things that you are getting. It\u2019s time to make some sense out of things.<\/p>\n<p>Questo \u00e8 il percorso che dovete seguire se siete disposti a porre fine alla relazione di coppia in cui siete coinvolti:<\/p>\n<h2>1. Quante possibilit\u00e0 siete disposti a dare?<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-93506\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/mindful-woman-biting-her-nail-at-home.jpg\" alt=\"donna pensierosa che si mangia le unghie a casa\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/mindful-woman-biting-her-nail-at-home.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/mindful-woman-biting-her-nail-at-home-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/mindful-woman-biting-her-nail-at-home-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Questa \u00e8 la prima domanda che dovete porvi per fare chiarezza.<\/p>\n<p>Forse tutti meritano una seconda possibilit\u00e0, ma una terza, una quarta o una successiva \u00e8 troppo.<\/p>\n<p>Se continuate a dare loro infinite possibilit\u00e0, vi porteranno a una vita di delusioni.<\/p>\n<p>Quindi, dopo la seconda possibilit\u00e0, non concedete altre possibilit\u00e0. Saranno vane. Egli le sprecher\u00e0 tutte.<\/p>\n<h2>2. Talk to friends who are blunt and won\u2019t sugar-coat anything<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-93507\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/Two-young-sylvan-girls-sitting-on-the-grass-and-telling-sad-life-stories-in-a-park-on-a-beautiful-spring-day..jpg\" alt=\"Due giovani ragazze silvane sedute sull&#039;erba a raccontarsi tristi storie di vita, in un parco in una bella giornata di primavera.\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/Two-young-sylvan-girls-sitting-on-the-grass-and-telling-sad-life-stories-in-a-park-on-a-beautiful-spring-day..jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/Two-young-sylvan-girls-sitting-on-the-grass-and-telling-sad-life-stories-in-a-park-on-a-beautiful-spring-day.-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/Two-young-sylvan-girls-sitting-on-the-grass-and-telling-sad-life-stories-in-a-park-on-a-beautiful-spring-day.-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>A volte tutto ci\u00f2 di cui avete bisogno \u00e8 sentire cose che gi\u00e0 sapete. A volte avete bisogno di sentire che qualcuno sta abusando della vostra gentilezza e sta dando per scontato voi e il vostro cuore.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s why you should always turn to your <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/friendship\/10-undeniable-reasons-blunt-friend-best-friend-youll-ever-find\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">amici schietti<\/a> quando si ha bisogno di un controllo della realt\u00e0.<\/p>\n<p>You know they won\u2019t say things you want to hear but they will certainly say everything that needs to be said to put things into perspective.<\/p>\n<h2>3. State perdendo la vostra fiducia?<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-93508\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/depressed-young-woman-at-home.jpg\" alt=\"giovane donna depressa a casa\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/depressed-young-woman-at-home.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/depressed-young-woman-at-home-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/depressed-young-woman-at-home-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>La vera domanda da porsi \u00e8 se, nel prendere le decisioni, ci si affida al cuore o alla mente.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s always advisable to follow your heart but you have to take your brain with you.<\/p>\n<p>The heart can be deceiving at times. That\u2019s why you have to see if the bad outweighs the good, if there is more sadness than happiness, if there is more uneasiness than tranquility. And choose to trust your brain on this one.<\/p>\n<h2>4. Capire cosa si vuole esattamente<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-93509\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/serious-woman-looking-at-herself-in-the-mirror.jpg\" alt=\"donna seria che si guarda allo specchio\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/serious-woman-looking-at-herself-in-the-mirror.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/serious-woman-looking-at-herself-in-the-mirror-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/serious-woman-looking-at-herself-in-the-mirror-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Dovete parlare con voi stessi delle cose che siete disposti a tollerare e di quelle che non tollererete mai, in nessun caso.<\/p>\n<p>Chiedetevi se vi va bene come stanno le cose ora. Siete soddisfatti delle montagne russe emotive su cui siete bloccati?<\/p>\n<p>In caso contrario, apportate delle modifiche. Create degli standard per voi stessi e rendeteli obbligatori.<\/p>\n<p>You deserve respect, love, loyalty, and investments, so don\u2019t settle for anything half-assed.<\/p>\n<h2>5. Parlare con lui apertamente<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-93510\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/Man-and-woman-have-serious-conversations.jpg\" alt=\"Un uomo e una donna conversano seriamente\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/Man-and-woman-have-serious-conversations.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/Man-and-woman-have-serious-conversations-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/Man-and-woman-have-serious-conversations-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Once you figure things out for yourself, it\u2019s time to talk to him.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t allow him to treat you like a mop with which he will wipe his floor. Don\u2019t allow him to come and go from your life as he pleases.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t allow him to take you for granted or to look at you as a woman who is always there no matter what.<\/p>\n<h2>6. Rendetevi conto che valete di pi\u00f9<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-93512\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/beautiful-woman-wearing-dress-and-standing-on-stairs.jpg\" alt=\"bella donna che indossa un abito e sta in piedi sulle scale\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/beautiful-woman-wearing-dress-and-standing-on-stairs.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/beautiful-woman-wearing-dress-and-standing-on-stairs-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/beautiful-woman-wearing-dress-and-standing-on-stairs-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Ti meriti molto di pi\u00f9 di questo tira e molla.<\/p>\n<p>If you want stability and commitment, don\u2019t settle for less. You shouldn\u2019t be satisfied with the crumbs of affection and attention he is serving you.<\/p>\n<p>Avete bisogno di qualcuno che sia sicuro di voi. Qualcuno che rimanga a prescindere da tutto.<\/p>\n<p>Someone who stays through thick and thin. If he is unwilling to give you all the things you deserve, let him stay gone\u2014you don\u2019t need him in your life.<\/p>\n<h2>7. Lasciatelo andare<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-93516\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/Woman-with-curly-hair-standing-in-the-park.jpg\" alt=\"Donna con capelli ricci in piedi nel parco\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/Woman-with-curly-hair-standing-in-the-park.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/Woman-with-curly-hair-standing-in-the-park-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/Woman-with-curly-hair-standing-in-the-park-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Questa \u00e8 la parte pi\u00f9 difficile, ma va fatta. Arriverete a quel punto di svolta in cui saprete di averne abbastanza.<\/p>\n<p>I sentimenti saranno ancora presenti e allontanarsi da lui sar\u00e0 una delle cose pi\u00f9 difficili da fare. Ma lo farete comunque e non vi guarderete mai indietro.<\/p>\n<p>A questo punto, saprete che vi ha spezzato il cuore pezzo per pezzo ogni volta che se ne \u00e8 andato.<\/p>\n<p>Che gli avete dato abbastanza possibilit\u00e0 di cambiare e di trattarvi bene, ma non l'ha mai fatto. Lui non avr\u00e0 pi\u00f9 possibilit\u00e0 e voi non avrete pi\u00f9 fiducia in lui.<\/p>\n<h2>8. Stabilire nuove regole<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-93515\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/young-woman-typing-on-her-phone-while-frowning.jpg\" alt=\"giovane donna che scrive sul suo telefono mentre \u00e8 accigliata\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/young-woman-typing-on-her-phone-while-frowning.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/young-woman-typing-on-her-phone-while-frowning-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/young-woman-typing-on-her-phone-while-frowning-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Avrete quei giorni di solitudine in cui vorrete mandargli un messaggio, chiamarlo per farlo venire da voi o farlo rientrare nella vostra vita, soprattutto con i primi segnali di dispiacere.<\/p>\n<p>Resist those urges. It\u2019s all temporary. Sometimes you have to be stronger than yourself.<\/p>\n<p>Creare un nuovo insieme di regole o seguire le regole di <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/recupero-della-rottura-regola-del-divieto-di-contatto-per-90-giorni\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">regola del divieto di contatto<\/a> per toglierlo dal tuo sistema.<\/p>\n<p>All you need is time to process things. And though it might be painful to shut him out of your life completely, it\u2019s necessary and you will thank yourself later for it.<\/p>\n<h2>9. Datevi il tempo di guarire<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-93514\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/Woman-sitting-on-grass-next-to-concrete-road-in-the-day.jpg\" alt=\"Donna seduta sull&#039;erba accanto a una strada di cemento, di giorno\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/Woman-sitting-on-grass-next-to-concrete-road-in-the-day.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/Woman-sitting-on-grass-next-to-concrete-road-in-the-day-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/Woman-sitting-on-grass-next-to-concrete-road-in-the-day-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t expect that things will get better overnight. Go easy on yourself; you will have your ups and downs, your good and bad days but you will come out of it all thriving.<\/p>\n<p>Ricordate che siete sempre pi\u00f9 forti di quanto pensiate.<\/p>\n<p>La cosa migliore da fare per rendere pi\u00f9 efficace il processo di guarigione \u00e8 lavorare costantemente per rendere se stessi felici.<\/p>\n<p>Potete reinventarvi completamente, trasformare la vostra vita in qualcosa di cui sarete orgogliosi.<\/p>\n<h2>10. Lasciatelo alle spalle ma portate con voi la lezione<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-93513\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/Fashion-style-photo-of-a-beautiful-couple-on-a-city-background..jpg\" alt=\"Foto in stile fashion di una bella coppia su uno sfondo cittadino.\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/Fashion-style-photo-of-a-beautiful-couple-on-a-city-background..jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/Fashion-style-photo-of-a-beautiful-couple-on-a-city-background.-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/Fashion-style-photo-of-a-beautiful-couple-on-a-city-background.-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>One good thing that came out of all of this is that you learned your lessons. You learned so you wouldn\u2019t repeat them.<\/p>\n<p>You won\u2019t allow anyone else to treat you poorly. You won\u2019t allow being treated like a stop along the way when you are a final destination.<\/p>\n<p>You won\u2019t settle for someone who is there only halfway \u2014he is all in or he is all out; there is no middle ground here. You just need someone who wants the same things as you do.<\/p>\n<p>Scoprirete presto che non avere il peso di lui che entra ed esce dalla vostra vita \u00e8 un tale sollievo.<\/p>\n<p>Il vostro cuore \u00e8 a suo agio e non c'\u00e8 nulla che scambiereste con questo senso di pace e armonia.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-93504 size-large\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/10-Things-To-Do-To-Put-A-Stop-To-A-Back-And-Forth-Relationship-Pinterest-724x1024.jpg\" alt=\"10 cose da fare per mettere fine a una relazione che va avanti e indietro\" width=\"724\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/10-Things-To-Do-To-Put-A-Stop-To-A-Back-And-Forth-Relationship-Pinterest-724x1024.jpg 724w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/10-Things-To-Do-To-Put-A-Stop-To-A-Back-And-Forth-Relationship-Pinterest-212x300.jpg 212w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/10-Things-To-Do-To-Put-A-Stop-To-A-Back-And-Forth-Relationship-Pinterest-768x1086.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/10-Things-To-Do-To-Put-A-Stop-To-A-Back-And-Forth-Relationship-Pinterest-1086x1536.jpg 1086w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/10-Things-To-Do-To-Put-A-Stop-To-A-Back-And-Forth-Relationship-Pinterest-1448x2048.jpg 1448w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/10-Things-To-Do-To-Put-A-Stop-To-A-Back-And-Forth-Relationship-Pinterest.jpg 1587w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 724px) 100vw, 724px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Take a step back and see things for what they are. You are constantly waiting for better days, for someone to be ready, for someone to change, treat you better and finally stay but he never does. One minute he is there, the next he is nowhere to be found and you are left alone,&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":93505,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29622],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-20873","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship-advice"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29622,"label":"relationship advice"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/10-Things-To-Do-To-Put-A-Stop-To-A-Back-And-Forth-Relationship.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"April Callaghan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/april\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29622,"name":"relationship advice","slug":"relationship-advice","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29622,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. 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