{"id":20963,"date":"2018-07-19T11:56:41","date_gmt":"2018-07-19T11:56:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=20963"},"modified":"2021-08-12T07:16:52","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T07:16:52","slug":"non-e-colpa-tua-e-solo-emotivamente-indisponibile","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/non-e-colpa-tua-e-solo-emotivamente-indisponibile\/","title":{"rendered":"Non \u00e8 colpa vostra, lui \u00e8 solo emotivamente indisponibile"},"content":{"rendered":"

Davvero, dovete scappare da queste persone. Non \u00e8 un gioco e non si possono cambiare. \u00c8 impossibile.<\/p>\n

Maybe you think that you are that special one who will cure him and heal every wound he has ever gotten, but you\u2019re not. No one can help these men but themselves.<\/p>\n

You can try and it will cost you. You can try to understand him, but there will be times when you\u2019ll have had enough. There will be times when you\u2019ll ask yourself: \u201cWhat about my needs?\u201d You\u2019ll get to the point when you\u2019ll feel neglected because you\u2019re trying to help him and that\u2019s a battle you will never win. This will make you feel bad. This will hurt you and there is no coming back from a broken heart.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t fall into this trap! Don\u2019t put your heart on the line because no one and nothing is worth it!<\/strong><\/p>\n

You can try to show them that you\u2019re different from everyone else. But men who have been hurt don\u2019t trust anyone. And sometimes they don\u2019t even want to hurt you, but they do it anyway because they are emotionally unavailable. They don\u2019t want to get attached and they don\u2019t want anything serious.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t prove to them that you really want to help and that you are not going to let them down. Unfortunately, things don\u2019t work out like that and you get hurt in the end.<\/p>\n

You know you\u2019re going to open your heart to him. You know you\u2019re going to risk everything because you think that the two of you might have a future. You like him and you want to sacrifice the safety of your heart for him.<\/p>\n

You want to let him near you and you\u2019ve abbassare la guardia<\/a> completamente perch\u00e9 vi fidate di lui. Volete che veda la vostra vulnerabilit\u00e0. Volete che veda che siete sinceri e che non ci sono giochi o manipolazioni. Volete che si fidi di voi e che si arrenda.<\/p>\n

At first, this will work and you\u2019re going to be incredibly happy. You\u2019re going to be a real couple. He will hug and kiss you. You\u2019re going to be together all the time. But as soon as the time comes for your relationship to go to another level, he will slowly pull back. In that beautiful happiness, your heart is going to receive a hard blow.<\/p>\n

You won\u2019t be aware of what\u2019s happening and you won\u2019t understand because everything was perfect and now all of a sudden, he\u2019ll start blowing you off.<\/p>\n

This is not your fault. You did nothing wrong. He is the one who is afraid to move forward because he is, to put it simply, emotionally unavailable. And for as long as he lives in that kind of mindset, it\u2019s impossible to establish anything serious between the two of you.<\/p>\n

Although you have told him your deepest secrets and let him into your heart, you have to understand that this love of yours is a one-way street with a dead end. It just can\u2019t end well for you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

After all the beautiful memories you\u2019ve created together, that same person you fell in love with, the same person you\u2019ve trusted your heart to will start ignoring you. He won\u2019t text you back for hours and he will ignore your calls.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll go crazy trying to understand why is this happening to you all of a sudden. You can think about it for as long as you want, but you won\u2019t get a valid answer because there isn\u2019t one. It\u2019s just the way he is.<\/p>\n

You will want to find the solution and you won\u2019t give up something you\u2019ve been fighting so hard for. You\u2019re going to change for him. You’re going to stop doing things you think bother him. You\u2019ll try to humor him and grant his every wish just to make him happy. Well, change is good and we should all strive to change ourselves for the better. But you aren\u2019t aware that you\u2019re changing for a person who will never want you. You\u2019re changing for someone who\u2019ll always be the way he is, someone who will always have something to criticize you about.<\/p>\n

Then you\u2019re going to start blaming yourself. You\u2019ll think that this whole time, the problem was you. But, it\u2019s not. When you\u2019re lying awake in your bed in the middle of the night wondering how you got yourself into this mess, remember that you wanted to try to help him. You wanted to heal his wounds by making yourself vulnerable, by clearing the way to your heart for him. That\u2019s what made you so vulnerable. hat\u2019s why you\u2019re hurting and crying in the middle of the night.<\/p>\n

You know, this is probably the worst mistake you\u2019ve ever made. Falling in love with him is something you should never have done and something you\u2019ll remember for the rest of your life.<\/strong><\/p>\n

He will get bored of you. He will get bored of the way you treat him and he’ll tell you to leave. This will leave you confused and heartbroken. You won\u2019t be able to accept this, not today and not any time soon.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll feel like someone just ripped out a part of your heart.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You\u2019re going to be devastated and you\u2019re not going to believe that all of that is happening to you. But in all that pain, in all that suffering, you have to remember that it wasn’t your fault. He was never meant to love you. He was never meant to love anyone.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve done everything to make that relationship work, but it just wasn\u2019t enough. And if you did even more, that wouldn\u2019t be enough either. You don\u2019t deserve that man. You deserve someone far better, nicer and lovelier. You deserve a true love and it\u2019s out there.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Really, you have to run away from these people. It\u2019s not a game and you can\u2019t change them. It\u2019s impossible. Maybe you think that you are that special one who will cure him and heal every wound he has ever gotten, but you\u2019re not. No one can help these men but themselves. You can try…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":20967,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-20963","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/kyle-loftus-687768-unsplash.jpg",800,530,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20963","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=20963"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20963\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/20967"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=20963"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=20963"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=20963"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}