{"id":21282,"date":"2018-07-27T10:14:28","date_gmt":"2018-07-27T10:14:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=21282"},"modified":"2022-01-09T17:54:08","modified_gmt":"2022-01-09T17:54:08","slug":"e-cosi-che-mi-sono-disinnamorata-di-lui-non-lho-fatto","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/e-cosi-che-mi-sono-disinnamorata-di-lui-non-lho-fatto\/","title":{"rendered":"Ecco come mi sono disinnamorata di lui (non l'ho fatto)"},"content":{"rendered":"

I went through a break-up. A very hard, very devastating break-up where the man I loved turned out to be a jerk, who wasn’t even aware of the fact that I loved him with all my being, with everything I was, and he was able to just walk away like nothing ever happened. <\/span><\/p>\n

Si \u00e8 arreso con me. <\/span><\/p>\n

He gave up on us. But I am not trying to tell you a pathetic story of a girl who wasn’t able to live past the break-up and she never <\/span>si \u00e8 innamorato<\/span><\/a> di nuovo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Voglio raccontarvi la storia di come mi sono disinnamorata di lui.<\/span><\/p>\n

Whenever my friends would talk about someone they loved very much they would say the most awful things, from, \u201cI don’t ever want to hear from him again,\u201d to, \u201cI hope his next girl cheats on him, like he cheated on me.\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n

Let me tell you that their words weren’t really doing me any good in my recovery and healing process after my break-up, because they tried to teach me to hate him, to despise him. But I didn’t hate him. I felt the opposite. <\/span><\/p>\n

Come posso odiare qualcuno che mi era cos\u00ec caro solo pochi giorni prima?<\/span><\/p>\n

Vedevo le donne intorno a me superare gli uomini come avrebbero superato qualcosa di piccolo, di insignificante.<\/b><\/p>\n

Of course, I would be lying if I said that they didn’t cry but they would drown their tears in tequila and vodka. <\/span><\/p>\n

Non li ho mai capiti, non ho mai voluto farlo in quel modo perch\u00e9 finivano sempre per <\/span>approfondendo le loro ferite<\/span><\/a> che non ha portato loro nulla di buono.<\/span><\/p>\n

Cos\u00ec ho scelto di adottare il mio approccio e di innamorarmi in un modo completamente nuovo. Non dico che il mio sia il modo corretto, ma funziona e sono felice. <\/b><\/p>\n

It doesn’t involve alcohol or drunk-texting, it doesn’t involve bad-mouthing my ex and so on. It includes me. Me, myself and I.<\/b><\/p>\n

I closed the gap in my heart with love. I didn’t want hatred to consume me, I didn’t want to be jealous of a new woman in his life. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ho provato solo amore, per lui, per me stessa e per le nostre vite che ora sono separate. <\/span><\/p>\n

That’s why I like to say that I don’t want to fall out of love with him.<\/span><\/p>\n

Eventually, one day, when I bump into him on the street, my heart won’t feel that well-known feeling of being home, that feeling of safety and security. <\/span><\/p>\n

Maybe that day my heart won’t skip a beat and it won’t make me wish that things would have happened another way, because maybe, just maybe, he would stay. That day I will be able to say that <\/span>Ho chiuso con lui<\/span><\/a> e che sono andato avanti.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ma oggi? Oggi sento solo amore.<\/b> Of course, it’s mixed with sadness and sometimes a little bit of grief but mostly I am happier that it happened at all. I just imagine my life without him ever being in it and I know I wouldn’t be this person I am today. That is why I am grateful. <\/span><\/p>\n

I miei amici mi dicono che devo essere una pazza perch\u00e9 parlo sempre di lui con il sorriso sulle labbra e pensano che stia fingendo, mentre in realt\u00e0 non faccio altro che accettare i miei sentimenti.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sto accettando il fatto che \u00e8 finita.<\/b><\/p>\n

I am accepting the fact that he isn’t in my life anymore. I also accept the way I still love him, because that is the way I will let go. That is the way I am slowly moving on from him. <\/span><\/p>\n

I didn’t fall out of love with him just yet but just you wait until a day arises where my heart won’t yearn for him\u2014not even a little bit.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ho sempre amato la mia vita e continuer\u00f2 ad amarla. Perch\u00e9 dovrei rompere i pezzi che mi hanno reso ci\u00f2 che sono? <\/span><\/p>\n

Perch\u00e9 riempire i miei giorni di odio quando posso amare incondizionatamente come ho fatto finora? <\/span><\/p>\n

L'ho amato abbastanza da dire che sono felice che sia felice, con o senza di me. E sono contenta di amare me stessa nonostante il fatto che<\/span> mi ha lasciato<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sono cos\u00ec felice di potermi amare cos\u00ec gentilmente ora, quando ne ho pi\u00f9 bisogno, senza giudizio, senza chiedermi se sono stata abbastanza brava. So di aver fatto del mio meglio.<\/span><\/p>\n

Quindi, questa \u00e8 la mia storia di come mi sono disinnamorata di un uomo che mi ha semplicemente lasciato<\/a>\u2014I didn’t stop feeling all those feelings, I just recognized the fact that I can’t change them right away. <\/b><\/p>\n

Ma arriver\u00f2 al punto di liberazione, dove dir\u00f2 che mi sono veramente disinnamorata di lui.<\/b><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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