{"id":21400,"date":"2020-07-30T10:41:39","date_gmt":"2020-07-30T10:41:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=21400"},"modified":"2022-02-11T11:00:37","modified_gmt":"2022-02-11T11:00:37","slug":"inseguirlo-e-stata-la-cosa-piu-stupida-che-abbia-mai-fatto","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/inseguirlo-e-stata-la-cosa-piu-stupida-che-abbia-mai-fatto\/","title":{"rendered":"Inseguirlo \u00e8 stata la cosa pi\u00f9 stupida che abbia mai fatto"},"content":{"rendered":"

When I come to think of my life up to now, I have to admit that I\u2019ve done many foolish things. I\u2019ve made numerous wrong choices and made some terrible decisions.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Truth be told, I\u2019ve made most of these decisions and choices because I followed my heart. And I can\u2019t say I regret every one of them, even though some of them turned out to be wrong for me.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Ma c'\u00e8 qualcosa che rimpiango di aver fatto nella mia vita ed \u00e8 legato all'uomo che ho amato di pi\u00f9.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014I don\u2019t regret loving this man, although I probably should. But I\u2019ve always known that you can\u2019t control who you love, even when that person doesn\u2019t deserve you.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

I don\u2019t regret loving him even though he never loved me back; at least, not the way he should have. Because the same way I couldn\u2019t force myself to stop loving him, he also couldn\u2019t force himself to fall in love with me.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

I don\u2019t regret giving him my heart even though <\/span>mi ha fatto male<\/span><\/a>. That was something I wanted to do at the time and in a way, loving him was the most beautiful thing I\u2019ve experienced, despite all the pain it has put me through.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

The only thing I regret doing is chasing a man who obviously didn\u2019t want to be mine. Chasing a man who didn\u2019t deserve me and losing all my pride and dignity because of him.<\/b><\/p>\r\n

Mi pento di aver sminuito il mio valore per inseguire questo ragazzo. <\/b><\/p>\r\n

It\u2019s not that this man didn\u2019t want to have anything to do with me. No, he wanted to have me but on his own terms.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Ora so che per tutto il tempo in cui siamo stati insieme, eravamo in una specie di quasi relazione<\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

In realt\u00e0, <\/span>Io avevo una relazione con lui, mentre lui viveva una vita da single.<\/b><\/p>\r\n

Mi sono impegnata con lui, anche se non mi ha mai chiesto espressamente di farlo, mentre lui non \u00e8 mai stato pronto a fare lo stesso.<\/b><\/p>\r\n

Io lo mettevo sempre al primo posto, mentre lui non ha mai pensato di mettermi in cima alla sua lista di priorit\u00e0 e mi ha sempre trattato come una delle sue opzioni.<\/b><\/p>\r\n

Io l'ho amato pi\u00f9 di me stessa, mentre l'unica persona che lui ha mai amato \u00e8 se stesso.<\/b><\/p>\r\n

And the worst part is that I knew this all along, although I didn\u2019t want to accept it. The worst part was that I consciously went after this man, although deep down I knew he could never give me what I deserved.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Ma nonostante tutto,<\/span> Volevo solo che questo ragazzo fosse mio e questo era il mio unico obiettivo nella vita.<\/b><\/p>\r\n

Ero pronta a fare letteralmente qualsiasi cosa pur di farlo impegnare con me.<\/b><\/p>\r\n

Per anni ho <\/span>implorato il suo amore<\/span><\/a> e attenzione. Lo implorai di stare con me, a qualsiasi costo.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Ma nessuna delle cose che ho fatto ha funzionato. Tutti i miei sforzi erano vani e lui continuava a respingermi.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

And I couldn\u2019t understand why he was doing so.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Ero io il problema? Non ero abbastanza per lui? Cosa stavo facendo di sbagliato? E cosa avrei potuto fare di diverso?<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Era emotivamente danneggiato? Aveva paura di concedersi completamente a me?<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Ma poi ho capito.<\/span> This man didn\u2019t want to be mine for one simple reason: he couldn\u2019t love me enough. And there was nothing I could do to change that fact.<\/b><\/p>\r\n

E lo perdono per questo.<\/b><\/p>\r\n

Lo perdono anche per avermi illusa e per non essersi allontanato definitivamente da me, quando sapeva che era l'unico modo per porre fine alle mie sofferenze. Dopo tutto, sono stata io a permettergli di trattarmi in quel modo. Sono stata io a continuare a trascinarlo nella mia vita, anche quando mi stava lasciando.<\/p>\r\n

But I can\u2019t forgive myself for one thing.<\/b>Per quanto lo voglia fare, <\/span>I can\u2019t forgive myself for chasing someone who didn\u2019t want to be mine. I can\u2019t forgive myself for going through that much humiliation and for not accepting the fact that he wasn\u2019t worthy of all the love and attention I was giving him.<\/b> <\/p>\r\n\r\n

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When I come to think of my life up to now, I have to admit that I\u2019ve done many foolish things. I\u2019ve made numerous wrong choices and made some terrible decisions. Truth be told, I\u2019ve made most of these decisions and choices because I followed my heart. And I can\u2019t say I regret every one…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":21401,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-21400","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/allef-vinicius-156194-unsplash-1.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21400","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=21400"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21400\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/21401"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=21400"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=21400"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=21400"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}