{"id":21500,"date":"2020-07-02T08:25:34","date_gmt":"2020-07-02T08:25:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=21500"},"modified":"2021-08-11T09:58:05","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T09:58:05","slug":"6-cose-da-aspettarsi-quando-si-esce-con-una-persona-sovrappensiero","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/6-cose-da-aspettarsi-quando-si-esce-con-una-persona-sovrappensiero\/","title":{"rendered":"6 cose da aspettarsi quando si esce con una persona sovrappensiero"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Non lo vedrete subito. Non ne parler\u00e0 e non menzioner\u00e0 la sua condizione solo perch\u00e9 vuole parlare di qualcosa.<\/p>\n<p>She\u2019s an overthinker. She\u2019ll suffer in silence, battling with millions of questions and scenarios in her head, but from the outside, she\u2019ll look perfectly fine.<\/p>\n<p>Her surface is cool and relaxed. She tells jokes and laughs at yours, too. But her mind goes into overdrive beneath all of that. And you won\u2019t notice it ever, unless you really look.<\/p>\n<p><strong>When you want to kiss her, her mouth won\u2019t tremble and her hands won\u2019t shake. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>When you call her just because you miss her, her voice won\u2019t match her interior. She won\u2019t seem frightened and confused.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>But it doesn\u2019t mean that her insecurities and her overthinking are not present. They are, all the time in your relationship, but she hides it so well. Although, there are times when she loses control over it.<\/p>\n<p>There are times when something happens, and her anxiety gets the best of her. If you don\u2019t pay attention, you won\u2019t see it because to you, it\u2019s so small and insignificant.<\/p>\n<p>But if you look back and remember all the times she seemed a bit distracted and if you know what\u2019s bothering her, everything will be clear then.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ll see all the \u2018small\u2019 things that happen, small only from your perspective now, and they will have a totally different meaning. They won\u2019t be so small anymore. They\u2019ll be huge.<\/p>\n<p>She\u2019ll ask you millions of questions. She\u2019ll seek approval and reassurance.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-103229\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-talking-on-the-street.jpg\" alt=\"coppia che parla per strada\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-talking-on-the-street.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-talking-on-the-street-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-talking-on-the-street-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-talking-on-the-street-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-talking-on-the-street-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>She\u2019ll worry about what you call irrelevant, but it means everything to her. You just don\u2019t look at the world with the same eyes as she does.<\/p>\n<p>She won\u2019t sleep because her conscience won\u2019t let her.<\/p>\n<p>Because she has some unfinished business, something that she didn\u2019t get an answer to, something that she hasn&#8217;t yet figured out. It will eat her alive, and you\u2019ll be sound asleep right next to her without a care in the world.<\/p>\n<p><strong>You won\u2019t have those problems. You aren\u2019t an overthinker. You sleep tight.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>She\u2019ll start changing. She\u2019ll lose the person she is because her anxiety will barge in like an uninvited guest\u2014the one no one likes, but you can\u2019t make them go away.<\/p>\n<p>She lives with anxiety, and she can\u2019t make it go away. She has that, and she has to fight it. Sometimes, she doesn\u2019t even know it\u2019s there.<\/p>\n<p>A volte \u00e8 calma e serena, ma a volte l'ansia la definisce. Prende il controllo della sua vita e di ogni sua decisione.<\/p>\n<p><strong>She sees it, but she can\u2019t help it. She knows it\u2019s ruining her happiness and her life, but she just can\u2019t chase it away.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>So if you want to date her, you have to know that it\u2019s not going to be easy. If you aren\u2019t ready for her, <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/dont-bother-coming-back-once-you-walk-away\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">don\u2019t even bother wasting her time<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s not like dating all those women you\u2019ve dated in the past. Nothing will be easy or simple.<\/p>\n<p>Your regular behavior won\u2019t cut it. If you care about her, you\u2019ll have to try to understand her and calm her when anxiety gets the best of her.<\/p>\n<p>But, she\u2019ll repay you for that. She\u2019ll love you like no other girl ever did.<\/p>\n<p>She\u2019ll pay you back for every single thing you do for her. She\u2019ll give you even more. She\u2019ll protect you and keep you safe, and her love for you will never die.<\/p>\n<p>There are so many things you\u2019ll have to change when dating a girl who overthinks everything.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline reset\">Devi sapere che in lei c'\u00e8 qualcosa di pi\u00f9 della sua ansia.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-103231\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/smiling-man-talking-to-woman.jpg\" alt=\"uomo sorridente che parla con una donna\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/smiling-man-talking-to-woman.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/smiling-man-talking-to-woman-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/smiling-man-talking-to-woman-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/smiling-man-talking-to-woman-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/smiling-man-talking-to-woman-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>She is not her symptoms. Her disease doesn\u2019t define her. You have to act normally around her, but show a bit more sympathy.<\/p>\n<p>Cercate di capirla e di essere sensibili.<\/p>\n<p>La pi\u00f9 piccola cosa pu\u00f2 mandarla fuori strada, qualcosa che per voi non rappresenta nulla, ma per lei significa molto.<\/p>\n<p>Abbiate un cuore e avvicinatevi a lei con delicatezza in queste situazioni.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Devi essere paziente con lei<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-103232\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-talking-on-the-balcony.jpg\" alt=\"coppia che parla sul balcone\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-talking-on-the-balcony.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-talking-on-the-balcony-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-talking-on-the-balcony-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-talking-on-the-balcony-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-talking-on-the-balcony-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Anxiety comes unannounced. You can\u2019t anticipate it, and you can\u2019t be ready for it.<\/p>\n<p>One moment she can be happy and laughing, but the next one, she is depressed. She\u2019s not crazy or spoiled.<\/p>\n<p>She\u2019s not like a child when you take away their lollipop. She doesn\u2019t get to choose how to feel.<\/p>\n<p>When anxiety strikes, she feels like she\u2019s in a deep blue ocean with no land around her. No matter how hard she swims and how hard she wants to swim to the shore, she can\u2019t.<\/p>\n<p>Pu\u00f2 nuotare per ore, ma si trova in mezzo all'oceano e non ha terra in vista.<\/p>\n<p>When you see her like this, give her some space. Don\u2019t bother her with questions because she needs to sort out her mind.<\/p>\n<p>She needs to file all of her thoughts in the right place, and then she\u2019ll decide what to do next.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">You can\u2019t expect her to get over it<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-103233\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-arguing-at-cafe.jpg\" alt=\"coppia che litiga al bar\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-arguing-at-cafe.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-arguing-at-cafe-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-arguing-at-cafe-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-arguing-at-cafe-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-arguing-at-cafe-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>You can\u2019t expect her to calm down just because you said so. Being short-tempered in these situations is the worst thing you could do because you will trigger her anxiety even worse.<\/p>\n<p>She sees that you can\u2019t put up with it, that it bothers you, and that feedback she gets from you makes her feel even worse. It makes her <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/e-cosi-che-si-ama-una-persona-che-pensa-costantemente-in-modo-eccessivo\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">ripensare<\/a> why you\u2019re acting like that.<\/p>\n<p>On every move you do wrong she will create hundreds of questions that will bother her. She won\u2019t be able to sleep or eat. It will eat her away.<\/p>\n<p>If she could control her anxiety attacks, she would. You know she has good days, so why wouldn\u2019t she control the bad ones if she could?<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s not like that she enjoys being scared and overthinking everything. It\u2019s not like she enjoys ruining both of your lives.<\/p>\n<p>Never say \u2018get over it\u2019 to her. Never.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Tell her that you\u2019re going to be there for her.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-103235\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-comforting-woman-at-cafe.jpg\" alt=\"uomo che conforta una donna in un caff\u00e8\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-comforting-woman-at-cafe.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-comforting-woman-at-cafe-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-comforting-woman-at-cafe-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-comforting-woman-at-cafe-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-comforting-woman-at-cafe-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Quando <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/anxiety-made-prisoner-mind\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">l'ansia la rende prigioniera della sua stessa mente<\/a>, she loses her sense of control. So don\u2019t get angry if she asks you question after question.<\/p>\n<p>She has a feeling that she\u2019s losing you. Her anxiety is the main one to blame for that.<\/p>\n<p>Le scombussola la mente. La fa sentire indesiderata e brutta. La fa sentire meno degna.<\/p>\n<p>So by answering her questions and humoring her curiosity, you\u2019re giving her assurance that you\u2019re not planning to go anywhere. That you are in this for good.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Dovete ascoltarla<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-103236\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/young-man-listening-woman-talking.jpg\" alt=\"giovane uomo che ascolta donna che parla\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/young-man-listening-woman-talking.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/young-man-listening-woman-talking-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/young-man-listening-woman-talking-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/young-man-listening-woman-talking-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/young-man-listening-woman-talking-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Dovete essere l\u00ec per lei ogni volta che ha bisogno di voi. Dovete lasciarla parlare perch\u00e9 nei momenti di sovrappensiero deve parlare.<\/p>\n<p>Deve togliersi questo peso dal corpo.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t pretend you\u2019re listening to her\u2014really listen to her. Maybe she\u2019ll tell you something really important.<\/p>\n<p>Maybe she\u2019ll unknowingly give you a clue on how to deal with her, on how to help her.<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t let that opportunity pass.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Don\u2019t suffocate her<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-103237\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/serious-couple-talking-at-home.jpg\" alt=\"coppia seria che parla a casa\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/serious-couple-talking-at-home.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/serious-couple-talking-at-home-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/serious-couple-talking-at-home-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/serious-couple-talking-at-home-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/serious-couple-talking-at-home-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Never push her into doing something she isn&#8217;t ready for. If you see she\u2019s trying to deal with her demons, let her be.<\/p>\n<p>Give her some space. Don\u2019t bully her into letting you in.<\/p>\n<p>She will talk when she\u2019s ready. If you insist on talking right away just because you\u2019re curious, you\u2019re only going to make her overthink things even more.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re only going to make her feel worse.<\/p>\n<p>You have to be there for her, but don\u2019t pressure her into opening her heart if she isn\u2019t ready. It will only chase her away.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-79267 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/6-things-to-expect-when-dating-an-overthinker-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"6 COSE DA ASPETTARSI QUANDO SI ESCE CON UNA PERSONA SOVRAPPENSIERO\" width=\"735\" height=\"1102\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/6-things-to-expect-when-dating-an-overthinker-pinterest.jpg 735w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/6-things-to-expect-when-dating-an-overthinker-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/6-things-to-expect-when-dating-an-overthinker-pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 735px) 100vw, 735px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>You won\u2019t see that right away. She won\u2019t talk about it and mention her condition just because she wants to talk about something. She\u2019s an overthinker. She\u2019ll suffer in silence, battling with millions of questions and scenarios in her head, but from the outside, she\u2019ll look perfectly fine. Her surface is cool and relaxed. She&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":39,"featured_media":103239,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29641],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-21500","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating-tips-for-him"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29641,"label":"dating tips for him"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/6-Things-To-Expect-When-Dating-An-Overthinker.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Owen Scott","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/hase\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29641,"name":"dating tips for him","slug":"dating-tips-for-him","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29641,"taxonomy":"category","description":"These are not just any dating tips. 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