{"id":21905,"date":"2018-08-16T07:56:22","date_gmt":"2018-08-16T07:56:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=21905"},"modified":"2021-08-11T13:42:22","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:42:22","slug":"si-guarda-allesterno-o-allinterno","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/si-guarda-allesterno-o-allinterno\/","title":{"rendered":"Guardate l'esterno o l'interno?"},"content":{"rendered":"

What draws you to another person can say a lot about your own morals and values. In order to garner a better sense of self and understand what makes us tick, we can take a closer look at the connections we\u2019ve made and dissect why we\u2019ve made them. Why do we enjoy the company of some more than others? We can also take a look at what attracts us to another person when we first meet them. Do we look primarily at the interior\u2014are we drawn to their mind, their heart, their life perspective\u2014or the exterior? Would we rather associate with someone who is fisicamente attraente<\/a>, ricco o famoso?<\/p>\n

La prossima volta che sarete impegnati in una conversazione significativa con una persona a cui tenete, o che magari state incontrando per la prima volta, pensate a ci\u00f2 che vi piace di questa persona. Che cosa rende significativo questo legame?<\/strong><\/p>\n

This may be particularly important to ponder during that initial conversation. This could be a potential partnership or friendship, a new colleague or cohort. When engaging in first-time conversations we often make judgments more quickly than we like to admit. We like the way this person dresses or we don\u2019t. We like the way they talk, or we don\u2019t. We like their sense of style, how they interact with others or the environment around them, etc.<\/p>\n

After you\u2019ve returned to a quiet space later in the day, note mentally what you noticed and why. Maybe you actually had no idea what this new acquaintance was wearing or how they talked. Maybe you felt a positive intangible vibe between the two of you or something seemed odd and you just can\u2019t put your finger on it. Did you find their words genuine or did their body language seem insincere?<\/p>\n

Perch\u00e9 \u00e8 importante? Il modo in cui giudichiamo gli altri, soprattutto quando i giudizi sono pi\u00f9 oggettivi che soggettivi, dice molto su chi cerchiamo di essere.<\/strong> It\u2019s more difficult to examine how we feel about a family member or friend we\u2019ve known our whole life than it is someone brand new. So, figuring out what passed through our mind during an early initial meeting or two will offer insight into how our subconscious is operating and why we present the way we do.<\/p>\n

Notate soprattutto tratti fisici, mentali, emotivi o comportamentali? Vorreste che questa persona notasse gli stessi tratti in voi? Dedica pi\u00f9 tempo ad ascoltare attivamente gli altri o a esprimere la sua opinione? Vi piace dedicare pi\u00f9 tempo al vostro aspetto quando incontrate qualcuno di nuovo? Perch\u00e9 o perch\u00e9 no?<\/p>\n

If you\u2019ve ever been in an abusive attachment, you probably understand how important it is to look beyond the physical and take note of the person\u2019s heart. Some, unfortunately, learn this the hard way. But once you make the mistake of trusting someone who didn\u2019t deserve it, you are forever more careful to consider what\u2019s hidden beneath the surface.<\/p>\n

Le intenzioni di un altro sembrano genuine? Hanno una certa profondit\u00e0? Sono davvero interessati a conoscervi o sono pi\u00f9 interessati ad avervi? Per evitare di rientrare in una situazione dannosa, dobbiamo fare in modo di non farci prendere dalla superficialit\u00e0.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Considerate anche se siete genuini con questa persona o se state cercando di proiettare un falso senso di s\u00e9. Siete interessati a ci\u00f2 che ha da dire o state cercando di farvi conoscere? Per evitare di rientrare in una situazione tossica, \u00e8 importante anche capire a che punto siamo.<\/p>\n

Of course, someone can legitimately have it all\u2014the looks, the personality, and a good heart. Just make sure you understand the difference between having everything and pretending to have everything. And always remember to stick to your morals and what\u2019s important to you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

No one is perfect. It\u2019s important to see through a false projection of perfection, and to not hold someone to unachievable standards at the same time. After all, we would want others to accettare le nostre imperfezioni<\/a> without having to pretend they don\u2019t exist. The most meaningful connections are those that are the most real from the very start.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

What draws you to another person can say a lot about your own morals and values. In order to garner a better sense of self and understand what makes us tick, we can take a closer look at the connections we\u2019ve made and dissect why we\u2019ve made them. Why do we enjoy the company of…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":21906,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29636],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-21905","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-self-help"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29636,"label":"self help"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/reinaldo.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Christine Keller","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/christine\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29636,"name":"self help","slug":"self-help","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29636,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Whenever you feel lost or hurt in love and life, these self-help tips will help you overcome challenges and make you feel better instantly.","parent":22911,"count":314,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29636,"category_count":314,"category_description":"Whenever you feel lost or hurt in love and life, these self-help tips will help you overcome challenges and make you feel better instantly.","cat_name":"self help","category_nicename":"self-help","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21905","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/20"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=21905"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21905\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/21906"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=21905"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=21905"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=21905"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}