{"id":21908,"date":"2018-08-16T09:10:32","date_gmt":"2018-08-16T09:10:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=21908"},"modified":"2021-08-11T13:41:48","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:41:48","slug":"ti-ho-perdonato-per-il-passato-ma-questo-non-e-un-invito-per-il-futuro","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/ti-ho-perdonato-per-il-passato-ma-questo-non-e-un-invito-per-il-futuro\/","title":{"rendered":"Ti ho perdonato per il passato, ma questo non \u00e8 un invito per il futuro"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Caro Ex,<\/p>\n<p>Prima di tutto, voglio dire che non \u00e8 mai stato facile allontanarmi da te, ma sapevo che era necessario per tornare la persona che ero una volta. Sapevo che il dolore avrebbe fatto male per un bel po' di tempo. E cos\u00ec \u00e8 stato. Il dolore era come un milione di coltelli che mi trafiggevano il cuore pi\u00f9 e pi\u00f9 volte. <strong>Credo che il mio dolore sia stato cos\u00ec forte perch\u00e9 io e te abbiamo condiviso una <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/life\/8-signs-experiencing-emotional-attraction\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">connessione magnetica speciale<\/a>.<\/strong> Questa connessione magnetica continuava a farci riavvicinare, dopo un tentativo fallito di risolvere la situazione. <strong>Questa connessione magnetica che condividevamo era cos\u00ec incredibile e allo stesso tempo cos\u00ec tossica.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Ho continuato a sperare per te, che avresti cambiato i tuoi schemi distorsivi e distruttivi, e che saresti tornato a essere l'uomo di cui avevo bisogno.<strong> Ho continuato a sperare che l'universo ci facesse tornare insieme e mi desse qualcosa di pi\u00f9 di questa tiepida relazione che mi avevi dato.<\/strong> Ho continuato a sperare nel mio cuore che tu ti rendessi conto che ero un protagonista e il personaggio pi\u00f9 importante della tua vita.<\/p>\n<p>Yet you hurt me so badly by choosing to select me as your \u2018on again, off again\u2019 ex. You chose to keep me on your back burner. You left me the assumption you were truly trying to work on your flaws and wanted to work things out for the better of us&#8230;all the while behind my back, you decided to see someone new\u2014see someone new to see if you could get away with those same tactics and behaviors you could not so easily get away with with me. Tactics such as opening up Tinder while on a business trip because you went away. I have to admit that I\u2019m surprised she has put up with this behavior for so long\u2026but that is beside the point.<\/p>\n<p>Molte volte avrei voluto raggiungerla e distruggere la vostra relazione come tu avevi fatto con me. Tuttavia, sapevo che questo mi avrebbe dato solo una vuota soddisfazione alla mia domanda senza risposta sul perch\u00e9 mi avessi lasciato.<\/p>\n<p>Dopo tanto struggimento e molteplici passaggi a destra e a sinistra, ho finalmente capito che<strong> il mio amore per me stesso era molto pi\u00f9 importante di qualsiasi realt\u00e0 distorta tu potessi pensare di me.<\/strong> I want you to know, I no longer want to know what\u2019s on your mind when I see you pass me by and look into my eyes, because honestly, you didn\u2019t deserve even a glance into what my future has in store for me.<\/p>\n<p>Voglio che tu capisca che ti perdono per il passato. Quindi non c'\u00e8 bisogno di chiamarmi per scusarsi quando le cose vanno male, perch\u00e9 so che lo faranno. So che quando il tuo mondo croller\u00e0 e quando non riuscirai pi\u00f9 a trovare qualcuno che prenda il mio posto la sera, ti prego di non tornare da me. <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/dont-bother-coming-back-once-you-walk-away\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Please don\u2019t come back<\/a> a me quando non potr\u00e0 pi\u00f9 prendere il tuo cuore e distrarre la tua mente da me. Il mio capitolo con te si \u00e8 chiuso.<\/p>\n<p>Again, I know things with this new girl will not work out, and when they don\u2019t, I will feel sorry for you because it\u2019s too late.<strong> I will not want to be hit up with an empty gesture of asking me how I\u2019m doing,<\/strong> followed by why we didn\u2019t remain friends. I will not want to hear all those words I so pathetically waited for over a year to hear: \u201c I\u2019m sorry I made a mistake\u201d I know I won\u2019t want to hear this because this will be your way and a so-called tactic to get back into my heart. You will still be the same man with broken promises, and the same man who can only love himself so much more than any other human being. So please, Ex, please don\u2019t ask me to remember the times you made me smile because there were plenty of times you made me cry.<\/p>\n<p>Please don\u2019t ask me to remember that trip to Europe, because now I hate it.<\/p>\n<p>I waited too long thinking you\u2019d come back to me. I missed opportunities because I still held some amount of faith in the universe. However now I realize the universe did me justice in helping me acknowledge that you are an example of what not to look for next time. <strong>Ora capisco che lei non fa pi\u00f9 parte del mio quadro di vita e che l'universo mi sta dicendo di permettere a qualcuno con un'energia diversa e pi\u00f9 positiva di entrare nella mia vita.<\/strong> Siete nel quadro del dolore e delle false promesse.<\/p>\n<p>So dear Ex, I love you, but I\u2019m also over you. I\u2019m no longer holding on to you. I hope you understand, but we are over. I hope you understand that you are in my past for a reason, and I do not see you anywhere in my future. So please when you realize you made the biggest mistake of your life, because you did, I ask you to keep those thoughts to yourself.<\/p>\n<p>Cordiali saluti,<\/p>\n<p>Dalla compagna che vi ha reso un uomo migliore con la sua sfacciataggine e la sua classe.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dear Ex, First of all, I want to say , it was never easy to finally walk away from you, but I knew this was what was needed in order to restore myself to the person I once was. I knew that the pain was going to hurt for a good amount of time. 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