{"id":21935,"date":"2020-05-16T11:47:03","date_gmt":"2020-05-16T11:47:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=21935"},"modified":"2022-01-13T00:40:09","modified_gmt":"2022-01-13T00:40:09","slug":"leggete-questo-se-state-pensando-di-dargli-una-seconda-possibilita","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/leggete-questo-se-state-pensando-di-dargli-una-seconda-possibilita\/","title":{"rendered":"Leggete qui se state pensando di dargli una seconda possibilit\u00e0"},"content":{"rendered":"

Someone once told me that giving second chances to someone is like falling into a trap set by the one we’re facing.<\/p>\n

I didn’t understand it then, because I truly thought that people could change and regret their mistakes.<\/p>\n

Pensavo che le persone potessero svegliarsi una mattina e decidere di voler tornare ad amare e apprezzare la persona che avevano tanto amato e che volessero farsi perdonare. Ma mi sbagliavo.<\/p>\n

At one point you will realize, just like I did, that when people hurt you it’s not an accident. Whoever <\/strong>fa male lo fa di proposito.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Do you really think that a cheater can justify his actions by saying that he ‘didn’t mean it’ or that it ‘wasn’t his intention’?<\/p>\n

I am very much aware of the fact that under the influence of alcohol we might not have a sense of judgment but why would he even want to put himself in that situation? And it’s not just cheaters we should be talking about.<\/p>\n

He knew that you would be hurt if he told you that you were a ‘bad girlfriend’, he knew how much it would hurt you by saying that you weren\u2019t worth his time and he still said it like it was nothing.<\/p>\n

Pensate davvero che qualcuno che vi ha amato farebbe una cosa del genere?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tutto ci\u00f2 che quell'uomo ti ha fatto, l'ha fatto di proposito. Tutti gli abusi, le manipolazioni e tutto il resto.<\/p>\n

\"Una
\nYes, this also means that he did all those sweet things on purpose. All those times he made you feel safe, all those times he told you how much he loved you\u2014everything.<\/p>\n

E soprattutto lo ha fatto sapendo che anche voi lo amavate.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It’s up to you to determine whether or not you want him in your life but let me just tell you that it takes years to build trust but a second to break it.<\/p>\n

Siete davvero in grado di perdonarlo per quello che ha fatto? Potete dire con certezza che non ripeter\u00e0 mai pi\u00f9 lo stesso errore?<\/p>\n

Potete perdonare il fatto che abbia abusato della vostra fiducia per il proprio piacere?<\/p>\n

You are thinking about giving him another chance. This is, of course, a chance for him to make everything right but it’s not just that.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Riprovandoci, gli state dando libero accesso al vostro cuore e l'opportunit\u00e0 di ferirvi ancora una volta.<\/p>\n

Gli state dando la possibilit\u00e0 di trasformare ancora una volta la vostra relazione in un campo di battaglia, quando invece dovrebbe essere un rifugio sicuro.<\/p>\n

\"ritratto<\/p>\n

Una mattina vi sveglierete accanto a lui e ricorderete cosa vi ha fatto di male, ricorderete quanto siete distrutti e devastati.<\/p>\n

But that exact same man will be lying next to you and you will keep on wondering what would have happened if you hadn\u2019t let him tornare da te<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Maybe you would have healed very quickly. Maybe you wouldn’t be so mad about your decision and maybe you would have been happy with another man next to you.<\/p>\n

There is a long list of maybes just waiting for you and it doesn’t matter if you choose to take him back or not, you will wonder what would have happened if you chose otherwise.<\/p>\n

Unconditional love is a beautiful thing, especially when you realize that there are so many people out there in this world who will never be able to feel what you’re feeling.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ma ci\u00f2 che \u00e8 pi\u00f9 magico dell'amore incondizionato verso qualcun altro \u00e8 l'amore incondizionato che proviamo per noi stessi.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

There shouldn’t be anyone che ti dice che amare te stesso \u00e8 egoista<\/a> o che possa esistere qualcosa di pi\u00f9 importante dell'amore per se stessi.<\/p>\n

That’s why I think that if you loved yourself enough, you wouldn’t give him another chance.<\/p>\n

You wouldn’t give this man a chance to break your heart once more because he does not deserve it. He had his chance and he blew it.<\/p>\n

This is your time to shine, dear, so don’t let it slip out of your hands.<\/p>\n

Sarai devastata e potrai piangere ogni volta che penserai a lui, ma questo non \u00e8 niente di paragonabile all'infelicit\u00e0 che ti farai passare se deciderai di dargli di nuovo un posto nel tuo cuore mentre lui fa la stessa cosa ancora e ancora e ancora.<\/p>\n

Agite con intelligenza. So che il vostro cuore vi sta facendo impazzire, ma questa non \u00e8 una scusa per trattarvi male.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Amate voi stesse abbastanza da allontanarvi da lui per sempre.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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