{"id":21978,"date":"2020-05-17T10:03:41","date_gmt":"2020-05-17T10:03:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=21978"},"modified":"2022-01-24T18:58:48","modified_gmt":"2022-01-24T18:58:48","slug":"il-lato-brutto-di-capire-che-non-mi-amera-mai-abbastanza","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/il-lato-brutto-di-capire-che-non-mi-amera-mai-abbastanza\/","title":{"rendered":"Il lato brutto di capire che non mi amer\u00e0 mai abbastanza"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Quando si pensa all'amore, e in particolare all'amore romantico tra due persone, di solito si vedono le cose molto chiaramente.<\/p>\n<p>O si ama una persona o le si \u00e8 completamente indifferenti.<\/p>\n<p>Yes, of course, you can like someone or have a crush on them but you don\u2019t mistake this for love.<\/p>\n<p>Quando si parla di amore, c'\u00e8 sempre una linea sottile tra amare e non amare qualcuno.<\/p>\n<p><strong>But have you ever been in a situation in which you are involved with someone who simply doesn\u2019t have the same ability to love as you do?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Siete mai stati con qualcuno la cui intensit\u00e0 massima di amore che riesce a provare per un'altra persona \u00e8 molto inferiore alla vostra?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Con qualcuno del cui amore siete certi? Con qualcuno che sapete di amare, ma il cui amore non vi basta?<\/p>\n<p>I have and I wouldn\u2019t wish for anyone to go through anything similar because it is one of the most painful things you can experience.<\/p>\n<p>And you should believe me, because I\u2019ve been involved with <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/5-segni-che-non-amano-davvero\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">guys who didn\u2019t love me<\/a>. And trust me\u2014this one is much worse.<\/p>\n<p>Because when someone doesn\u2019t love you, you just have a hard time accepting that he doesn\u2019t have feelings for you and that this will probably never change.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-86794\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/afro-hair-thoughtful-woman-at-home.jpg\" alt=\"capelli afro donna riflessiva a casa\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/afro-hair-thoughtful-woman-at-home.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/afro-hair-thoughtful-woman-at-home-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/afro-hair-thoughtful-woman-at-home-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>When someone doesn\u2019t love you, you know very well where you stand and you just have to force yourself to face it.<\/p>\n<p>But when someone loves you but doesn\u2019t love you enough, things are far more complicated.<\/p>\n<p>Quando mi sono messa insieme a questo ragazzo, ho capito che era una persona dal cuore freddo.<\/p>\n<p>And as our relationship went on farther and farther, I thought that he simply didn\u2019t like me enough and that I didn\u2019t manage to wake any feelings for me inside of him.<\/p>\n<p>E per molto tempo ho pensato di essere io il problema. Pensavo di dovermi impegnare di pi\u00f9 e di dovermi sforzare di pi\u00f9 affinch\u00e9 lui mi amasse di pi\u00f9.<\/p>\n<p>Ma poi, frequentando di pi\u00f9 la sua vita, mi sono resa conto che era cos\u00ec con tutti. Ho capito che si comportava allo stesso modo con i suoi genitori, con suo fratello e con i suoi amici.<\/p>\n<p>Era come se amasse tutti noi, ma <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/non-lhai-mai-amata-eri-solo-bravo-a-fingere-di-amarla\/\">non ha mai amato abbastanza nessuno<\/a>. He simply acted like he was happy to have all of us in his life but like he wouldn\u2019t be too bothered if he lost any of us.<\/p>\n<p>Like he was just fine on his own and like there didn\u2019t exist a person in this world who he needed.<\/p>\n<p><strong>I got it\u2014he was a rational person and wasn\u2019t led by his emotions. But I was completely different and I couldn\u2019t stand being in this type of relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>But the point is that I couldn\u2019t walk away from him because I had fallen for this guy like crazy.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-86795\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/beautiful-sad-woman-lying-on-bed.jpg\" alt=\"bella donna triste sdraiata sul letto\" width=\"800\" height=\"539\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/beautiful-sad-woman-lying-on-bed.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/beautiful-sad-woman-lying-on-bed-300x202.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/beautiful-sad-woman-lying-on-bed-768x517.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>La verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che ero pronta ad accettare le briciole del suo amore che mi stava dando.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Perch\u00e9 anche queste briciole erano meglio che non averlo affatto. E perch\u00e9 sapevo che non mi avrebbe mai inseguito e che non gli sarei mai mancata se lo avessi lasciato.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>E poi, invece di allontanarmi da lui, ho iniziato a cercare giustificazioni per il suo comportamento.<\/p>\n<p>Continuavo a ripetermi che era un uomo sensibile, pieno d'amore, ma che aveva solo difficolt\u00e0 a esprimere i suoi sentimenti.<\/p>\n<p>Ho continuato a sperare che sarei stata io a cambiarlo, che sarei stata io a insegnargli <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/il-vero-amore-e-luomo-giusto\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">cosa fosse il vero amore<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>But with time, I realized that this really was his true face. He wasn\u2019t pretending to be this tough guy and he wasn\u2019t hiding his feelings.<\/p>\n<p>He just didn\u2019t have any. At least, not the way I wanted for him to have them.<\/p>\n<p>Questo ragazzo non era semplicemente in grado di amarmi nel modo in cui <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/questo-e-il-modo-in-cui-voglio-che-tu-mi-ami-2\/\">Volevo che mi amasse<\/a> e il modo in cui lo amavo. E non potevo farci nulla.<\/p>\n<p>Il momento in cui ho capito questo \u00e8 stato anche il momento in cui ho capito che rimanere con lui avrebbe sempre significato accontentarmi di meno.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c8 stato il momento in cui ho capito <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/my-heart-deserves-more-than-your-half-assed-love\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Volevo e meritavo di pi\u00f9<\/a> e il momento in cui ho iniziato a cercare di pi\u00f9 da un'altra parte. \u00c8 stato il momento in cui l'ho lasciato.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-86792 size-large\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/The-Ugly-Side-Of-Realizing-He-Will-Never-Love-Me-Enough-Pinterest-724x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Il lato brutto di capire che non mi amer\u00e0 mai abbastanza\" width=\"724\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/The-Ugly-Side-Of-Realizing-He-Will-Never-Love-Me-Enough-Pinterest-724x1024.jpg 724w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/The-Ugly-Side-Of-Realizing-He-Will-Never-Love-Me-Enough-Pinterest-212x300.jpg 212w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/The-Ugly-Side-Of-Realizing-He-Will-Never-Love-Me-Enough-Pinterest-768x1086.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/The-Ugly-Side-Of-Realizing-He-Will-Never-Love-Me-Enough-Pinterest-1086x1536.jpg 1086w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/The-Ugly-Side-Of-Realizing-He-Will-Never-Love-Me-Enough-Pinterest-1448x2048.jpg 1448w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/The-Ugly-Side-Of-Realizing-He-Will-Never-Love-Me-Enough-Pinterest.jpg 1587w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 724px) 100vw, 724px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When you think about love, and especially about romantic love between two people, you usually see things very clearly. You either love someone or you are completely indifferent about them. Yes, of course, you can like someone or have a crush on them but you don\u2019t mistake this for love. When it comes to love,&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":86793,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29617],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-21978","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-heartbreak"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29617,"label":"heartbreak"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/The-Ugly-Side-Of-Realizing-He-Will-Never-Love-Me-Enough.jpg",800,531,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29617,"name":"heartbreak","slug":"heartbreak","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29617,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Recovering after having your heart broken is tough. 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