{"id":22024,"date":"2018-08-20T07:52:07","date_gmt":"2018-08-20T07:52:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=22024"},"modified":"2021-08-11T13:37:07","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:37:07","slug":"odio-aspettare-ecco-perche-faccio-schifo-negli-appuntamenti-moderni","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/odio-aspettare-ecco-perche-faccio-schifo-negli-appuntamenti-moderni\/","title":{"rendered":"Odio aspettare... Ecco perch\u00e9 faccio schifo negli appuntamenti moderni"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Gli appuntamenti moderni sembrano cos\u00ec semplici, eppure sono cos\u00ec complicati. La strada che porta da un appuntamento a una relazione vera e propria \u00e8 cos\u00ec lunga ed estenuante che vi sfinisce prima ancora di iniziare una storia d'amore.<\/p>\n<p>Patience is not one of my strong suits&#8230;especially when it comes to modern dating. I hate playing games and acting like I don\u2019t care when I actually do.<\/p>\n<p>Odio tutti i calcoli e le pianificazioni quando si tratta di <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/10-segnali-di-allarme-per-gli-sms-che-non-dovreste-mai-ignorare\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">sms<\/a>. Chi ha mandato il primo messaggio a chi? Devo ritardare la mia replica? Se lo invio, sembrer\u00f2 troppo bisognoso? ecc.<\/p>\n<p><em><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/10-segnali-di-allarme-per-gli-sms-che-non-dovreste-mai-ignorare\/\">Pensare e ripensare a ogni tua mossa \u00e8 frustrante. E uccide il divertimento negli appuntamenti.<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s why I send a reply right away if I feel like it. I text first without giving it a second thought. I ignore when something doesn\u2019t sit right with me.<\/p>\n<p>Non ho paura di ammettere quello che provo, anche se questo mi fa sembrare strano. Mi piace parlare delle cose e sapere qual \u00e8 la mia posizione. Altrimenti mi sembra di perdere tempo.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>I get accused of moving too fast and being too clingy when I am just being realistic. Shouldn\u2019t you know after a month of dating if you want to enter a relationship or not?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>Negli appuntamenti moderni, a quanto pare, non \u00e8 cos\u00ec. Ci vogliono diversi mesi, o nei casi peggiori anni, per stabilire se si \u00e8 in una relazione esclusiva o meno.<\/p>\n<p>It takes riding emotional roller coasters with men who don\u2019t know what they want&#8230;who are afraid of relationships and any sort of commitment.<\/p>\n<p>Bisogna passare i giorni e le notti a parlare, mandare messaggi e snapchatt a qualcuno e lasciarlo entrare nel proprio cuore solo perch\u00e9 poi possa ignorarti come se non fossi mai esistito e lasciarti a chiederti cosa \u00e8 successo e dove hai sbagliato.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Isn\u2019t it better to know where you stand with somebody as soon as possible?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>It doesn&#8217;t have to be on your first date, but a month of dating, calling, texting and browsing through social media accounts should be more than enough if you ask me.<\/p>\n<p>The longer the courtship or the dating game, the more you get attached to a certain person. You get so involved and so hooked, and if it doesn\u2019t work out, it\u2019s so much harder to get over them.<\/p>\n<p>The more time you had with them, the more memories you created, and you felt like you are actually with them. But deep down, you know you have been strung along into something \u2018almost\u2019.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>I hate that. I had that, and I don\u2019t want to waste my time on anyone who is <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/stringere-9-modi-di-dire\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">mi sta prendendo per i fondelli<\/a>.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>I want to know what I mean to someone, and I want to know it as soon as possible. If we are compatible, if we\u2019ve clicked and want to give ourselves a chance to start a relationship, why not try it right away?<\/p>\n<p>What\u2019s the point in waiting for forever when you know those things right away? You feel them from the start or you don\u2019t feel them at all.<\/p>\n<p>I am impatient; I know. But after I know that I am somebody&#8217;s girlfriend, I will slow down my pace without even trying. I will feel safe around that special somebody, and there will be no need to rush.<\/p>\n<p>I won\u2019t picture going down the aisle or having kids so early on. I am not that type. I want to build a relationship. I want to see if we can be happy together. I want to know if we can solve any obstacle that comes our way.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>That\u2019s the point at which I want to take things extra slow. I want to enjoy every second of it. If we don\u2019t make it, at least we tried. We were brave enough to give ourselves a chance for love.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>We weren\u2019t <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/is-he-hiding-his-feelings-or-is-he-not-interested-10-ways-to-tell-the-difference\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">nascondere i nostri sentimenti<\/a>che ci mandano segnali contrastanti, che fanno giochi mentali o che incasinano le nostre vite. Abbiamo raccolto il nostro coraggio e ci siamo buttati a capofitto nell'amore.<\/p>\n<p>Bluntness, clarity and knowing that I am walking on the same path with somebody. That\u2019s all I want and all I am not getting in this modern dating world.<\/p>\n<p>I know I suck at modern dating, and I know that\u2019s mostly due to the fact that I am impatient and wear my heart on my sleeve. I know, and I don\u2019t care. I am who I am, and I won\u2019t change.<\/p>\n<p>I hate waiting, but I am going to wait for someone who knows what he wants and isn\u2019t afraid of saying it aloud.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Aspetter\u00f2 qualcuno che fa schifo quanto me agli appuntamenti moderni.<\/strong> <\/em><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Modern dating seems so simple, yet it\u2019s so complicated. The road that leads from dating to an actual relationship is so long and exhausting that it wears you out before you even begin a romance. Patience is not one of my strong suits&#8230;especially when it comes to modern dating. I hate playing games and acting&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":22025,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-22024","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/valentin-lacoste-784963-unsplash.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22024","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=22024"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22024\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/22025"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=22024"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=22024"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=22024"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}