{"id":22162,"date":"2020-08-23T11:19:18","date_gmt":"2020-08-23T11:19:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=22162"},"modified":"2021-08-11T10:29:35","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T10:29:35","slug":"cosa-si-prova-quando-il-tuo-quasi-amore-sceglie-qualcun-altro","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/cosa-si-prova-quando-il-tuo-quasi-amore-sceglie-qualcun-altro\/","title":{"rendered":"Come ci si sente quando il proprio quasi amore sceglie un'altra persona"},"content":{"rendered":"

Cosa \u00e8 cambiato?\" \u00e8 il pensiero che riecheggia nella vostra mente e che non pu\u00f2 essere messo a tacere. Solo pochi mesi fa non era pronto per una relazione.<\/p>\n

He didn\u2019t want to hear the word commitment, let alone fully be in one.<\/p>\n

However, he is ready now. He is ready for it all with her, like he never was with you and it\u2019s making you nauseous just thinking about it. It just doesn\u2019t make any sense.<\/p>\n

Volete una spiegazione. Cercate di capire tutto questo, ma ogni volta fallite.<\/p>\n

The questions keep multiplying but the answers are what\u2019s missing and you seem unable to find them.<\/p>\n

You feel like you have been doubled-crossed and it\u2019s making you mad.<\/b><\/p>\n

You spent so much time with him, giving him all the boyfriend benefits and never once did you hear him call you his girlfriend. He wasn\u2019t in etichette <\/a> , he just wasn\u2019t that type.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

All'improvviso, non ha problemi con le etichette. Non ha problemi a postare foto con lei sui social media. Non ha problemi a tenerle la mano e a gridare che \u00e8 sua.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t know what to do or how to behave. <\/b><\/p>\n

Avete l'impressione di doverlo chiamare per sfogare la vostra rabbia e la vostra delusione. Ma qualcosa ti impedisce di farlo. Non siete mai stati ufficialmente una cosa. Non avete il diritto di rimproverarlo.<\/p>\n

Volete inviargli un lungo messaggio, chiedendo spiegazioni, dicendogli quanto vi sentite male e quanto vi fa male questa situazione. Ma prima di premere il pulsante di invio, cambiate idea.<\/p>\n

He doesn\u2019t deserve to know how much damage his behavior has caused. He doesn\u2019t need to know that he has the power to hurt you that much.<\/p>\n

Ripensate a ogni momento significativo trascorso con lui. <\/b><\/p>\n

The memories just don\u2019t leave you be. You have this vivid picture in your mind of every time you were close, of every nice thing he did, of every kiss and every hug and you are making things worse on yourself.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

You go even further and analyze his texts and every word he ever mumbled. It\u2019s like you are in self-destruct mode and you have no power to put a stop to it.<\/p>\n

State cercando di trovare un significato dove non c'\u00e8. <\/b><\/p>\n

What does she have that you don\u2019t? What is it inside of her that made him change his mind? What made him want a real relationship with her when he wanted something casual with you?<\/p>\n

You were there for him. You did everything right. You didn\u2019t suffocate him, you gave him space, you were never appiccicoso <\/a> and he still chose her over you. It just doesn\u2019t make sense.<\/p>\n

Ti senti come se avesse preso il tuo posto. <\/b><\/p>\n

Vi sentite come se foste stati derubati. Dopo tutto il tempo che avete trascorso con lui, avreste dovuto essere voi a portarlo in vacanza, avreste dovuto essere voi a sorridere mentre vi bacia la guancia in quella foto.<\/p>\n

You feel like the life you were entitled to was taken away from right under your nose and you can\u2019t do anything about it. You feel powerless and deprived. Sadness consumes you.<\/p>\n

Finalmente arriva il momento di chiarezza. <\/b><\/p>\n

You realize that it couldn\u2019t be you. Your place was never beside him because he never made room for you. He always held you at arm’s length.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Vi ha sempre dato le briciole, ma mai tutto. Non ha mai detto che avreste avuto una vera relazione. Ha accettato solo per poco. Voleva solo una piccola parte nella vostra vita e mai un ruolo da protagonista.<\/p>\n

Sai che questo doveva accadere e che non ha nulla a che fare con te. <\/b><\/p>\n

You don\u2019t blame him. You don\u2019t blame that other woman. Lastly, you don\u2019t blame yourself either. Things happened because you let them happen. He was something you needed.<\/p>\n

He was someone you needed in that chapter of your life. But it\u2019s time now to write some new ones. He made you see that you were never an almost relationship type of girl.<\/p>\n

Vi ha fatto capire che avete bisogno di qualcosa di pi\u00f9. Che avete bisogno di qualcuno che sia sicuro di voler stare con voi.<\/p>\n

Qualcuno che vi prender\u00e0 per mano e vi condurr\u00e0 nella sua vita senza che dobbiate chiederlo.<\/p>\n

\"Giovane<\/p>\n

Nella vostra vita c'\u00e8 la chiarezza e la pace di cui avevate bisogno da tanto tempo.<\/b><\/p>\n

You didn\u2019t even realize how that unsteady relationship you had with him was bad for you. You never knew where you stood.<\/p>\n

Eravate oppressi.<\/p>\n

Tu in attesa <\/a> per le cose pi\u00f9 reali. Voleva di pi\u00f9. Non avevi pace e la felicit\u00e0 era una nozione che cambiava a seconda dei giorni belli e brutti trascorsi con lui.<\/p>\n

You are calm at last. The hoping has stopped. You know that you were never meant to be. You know he wasn\u2019t right for you.<\/p>\n

You know that it\u2019s up to you to create your happiness. Now you know that next time you enter into a relationship, it will be real and never again almost.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"Come<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u2018What changed?\u2019 is the thought that\u2019s echoing in your mind and cannot be silenced. Just a few months back, he wasn\u2019t ready for a relationship. He didn\u2019t want to hear the word commitment, let alone fully be in one. However, he is ready now. He is ready for it all with her, like he never…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":110504,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-22162","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/What-It-Feels-Like-When-Your-Almost-Love-Chooses-Someone-Else-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22162","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=22162"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22162\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/110504"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=22162"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=22162"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=22162"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}