{"id":22181,"date":"2020-08-23T12:16:23","date_gmt":"2020-08-23T12:16:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=22181"},"modified":"2022-01-25T09:08:42","modified_gmt":"2022-01-25T09:08:42","slug":"dopo-avermi-spezzato-mi-ha-reso-indisponibile-anche-per-gli-altri","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/dopo-avermi-spezzato-mi-ha-reso-indisponibile-anche-per-gli-altri\/","title":{"rendered":"Dopo avermi spezzato, mi ha reso indisponibile anche per gli altri"},"content":{"rendered":"

I’m sure you’ve heard stories about girls who change emotionally after they get hurt. About girls who become guarded and more careful.<\/p>\n

Di ragazze che smettono di credere nell'amore e che diventano paura di amare<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve heard stories about girls who become heartless after they have their heart broken.<\/p>\n

Che costruiscono muri intorno a s\u00e9 e che si fanno scudo dopo che qualcuno che amavano li ha abbattuti completamente.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve heard stories about ragazze che si rendono irreperibili<\/a> per gli altri dopo che alcuni ragazzi li hanno fatti a pezzi.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Se lo avete fatto, sapete tutto di me perch\u00e9 sono una di quelle ragazze.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sono una delle ragazze che ha amato l'uomo sbagliato<\/a> con tutto il mio cuore. Una ragazza che gli ha dato tutto quello che aveva e una ragazza che pensava che lui la meritasse.<\/p>\n

I was a girl who put the effort into a relationship which had no future and a girl who was ready to sacrifice herself for this man\u2019s sake.<\/p>\n

Ma ero anche una ragazza che \u00e8 stata ferita. Una ragazza che \u00e8 stata data per scontata e la cui vulnerabilit\u00e0 e amore sono stati usati contro di lei.<\/strong><\/p>\n

And after I finally ended things with this man, I changed drastically. I stopped believing in people and I thought everyone\u2019s only intention was to hurt me and to spezzarmi il cuore<\/a>.<\/p>\n

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I started thinking that all men were the same and I wasn\u2019t even ready to give some guy a chance because I thought I would just end up heartbroken, like I was in the past.<\/p>\n

Ero quindi pronta a fare tutto il necessario per impedire che ci\u00f2 accadesse. Ho alzato la guardia e ho costruito spesse mura emotive intorno al mio cuore, che erano abbastanza forti da tenere fuori tutti gli intrusi.<\/p>\n

And yes, I\u2019ve become an donna emotivamente non disponibile<\/a>. Or some might say that I\u2019ve become emotionally damaged as well.<\/strong><\/p>\n

S\u00ec, questo modo di vivere mi ha probabilmente privato di molto amore.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve probably missed out on meeting some extraordinary people and it is possible that I\u2019ve failed to let in some amazing guys who deserved to have a chance.<\/p>\n

E si potrebbe dire che non c'\u00e8 nulla di buono in questo.<\/p>\n

But the truth is that although I\u2019ve become unavailable for others to love me, I\u2019ve also guarded myself from every possible emotional pain.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I\u2019ve also become unavailable for anyone else to hurt me. I\u2019ve prevented my heart from getting broken again.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I\u2019ve saved myself from any potential tears and disappointments. I\u2019ve saved myself from wasting my time and energy on someone who isn\u2019t worthy of me lifting a finger.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve saved myself from getting my hopes up and planning a future with someone who has been manipulating me all along. From falling in love with someone who just wants to get into my pants.<\/p>\n

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I\u2019ve saved myself from being emotionally or maltrattamenti fisici<\/a>di essere traditi e di essere umiliati.<\/p>\n

Dall'essere incolpata per ogni piccola cosa che va storta e da qualcuno che mi dice che non sono degna del suo amore o della sua attenzione.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve saved myself from being taken advantage of, from being led on and from being taken for granted.<\/p>\n

Dal chiedermi perch\u00e9 un uomo che amo cos\u00ec tanto non possa mai amarmi abbastanza e perch\u00e9 non possa mai essere solo mio.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve saved myself from hours and hours of staring at a blank phone screen, waiting for him to call me or to answer my text.<\/p>\n

From falling asleep all dressed up, waiting for him to pick me up. I\u2019ve saved myself numerous sleepless nights and from an ocean of tears.<\/p>\n

Dall'implorare un uomo di scegliermi e di amarmi. Dal supplicarlo di impegnarsi con me.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve saved myself from questioning my worth and wondering why I was never enough. From asking myself if there was something more I could have done to make the man I love love me more.<\/p>\n

And I don\u2019t know if that was the best thing I could have done. I don\u2019t know if I could have chosen another way to deal with my abandonment trauma and with my heartbreak.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ma quello che so \u00e8 che era l'unica cosa che sapevo fare. E che all'epoca vedevo questo modo come l'unico per guarire e aiutare me stessa.<\/strong> <\/p>\n

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