{"id":22358,"date":"2020-08-29T06:28:28","date_gmt":"2020-08-29T06:28:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=22358"},"modified":"2022-06-29T15:13:01","modified_gmt":"2022-06-29T15:13:01","slug":"6-segnali-dolorosi-che-indicano-che-siete-vittime-di-un-abuso-silenzioso","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/6-segnali-dolorosi-che-indicano-che-siete-vittime-di-un-abuso-silenzioso\/","title":{"rendered":"6 dolorosi segnali che siete vittime di un abuso silenzioso"},"content":{"rendered":"

Abuso silenzioso<\/a> is something that people don\u2019t know so much about. When you mention abuse, you immediately get the image of a man threatening a woman while she is screaming and running away from him.<\/p>\n

That is not all. In fact, that is just the tip of the iceberg. Another kind of abuse, which in my opinion is much worse, is the silent one. And even if he doesn\u2019t use his fists, it is still abuse.<\/p>\n

With this kind of abuse, you are getting broken, but others can\u2019t see how. They can only see you becoming a shell of the woman you once were. But no matter how much they try, they can\u2019t figure out how you were being abused.<\/p>\n

Because there are no scars on your body. They can\u2019t see any. But there are surely some deep scars on your soul which only you know about. There is that constant feeling of fear of acting differently than your abuser wants. Because if you do that, you will be punished.<\/p>\n

And he won\u2019t feel any remorse for doing that. And if you want to know more about this sad topic, here are some of the most common signs of silent abuse.<\/p>\n

1. Vi far\u00e0 il trattamento del silenzio<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

C'\u00e8 qualcosa di peggio che subire il trattamento del silenzio da parte della persona di cui siete follemente innamorati<\/a>?<\/p>\n

Even if this doesn\u2019t include yelling or chiamata per nome<\/a>, it still hurts. Maybe it hurts even more than any slap to the face or a broken bone. Silent treatment means that the other side doesn\u2019t want to talk to you. It means that they are not interested in what you have to say.
\nYou can sit next to them the whole day, but they won\u2019t even look at you nor talk to you.<\/p>\n

Cercheranno di punirvi in questo modo perch\u00e9 sanno quanto vi piace parlare con loro. E non concedendosi a voi, pensano di mostrarvi cosa significa soffrire. Cercano di cambiarvi per potervi controllare facilmente.<\/p>\n

If you notice this kind of abuse, immediately do something about it. The best thing would be to stay away from your abuser, so he doesn\u2019t have any effect on you.<\/p>\n

2. He will be all moody blaming you for things you didn\u2019t do<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

Se avete una relazione con un uomo che cambia umore pi\u00f9 spesso di quanto mangi, potete essere sicure di avere a che fare con un molestatore.<\/p>\n

If he behaves in an ugly way to you, asking you to say you are sorry for something you didn\u2019t do, it is a sign he is silently abusing you. He is brainwashing you, trying to convince you that you did something that hurt him.<\/p>\n

And because he feels so badly about it, he wants you to act all sweet and nice toward him, so he would feel better. A man like this is someone you will never be able to please, so you better leave him while you still can. Don\u2019t let him capture you in his web of lies.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let him control you. You are capable of thinking with your own head. You surely don\u2019t need someone who will do that instead of you.<\/p>\n

3. Ti ferisce e poi ti chiama \"troppo sensibile\".<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

You know that he is hurting you deliberately. He wants you to feel like shit, and he will do anything to prove he is right. And when you say that it is enough and that you won\u2019t stand that kind of treatment anymore, he calls you a crybaby.<\/p>\n

Vi dir\u00e0 che siete troppo sensibili e che non riuscirete mai a capire cosa vi stava dicendo. Cercher\u00e0 di fare il bravo ragazzo mentre dar\u00e0 tutta la colpa a te.<\/p>\n

In a situation like this, the best thing you can do is to pack your things and leave him. He will be shocked when you do that because he thought that you are not strong enough to leave him. But he didn\u2019t give you another option.<\/p>\n

4. Ti fa sentire come se fossi tu la pazza<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

One of the most common types of emotional abuse is actually gaslighting. Your abuser convinces you that you just imagined everything and that he doesn\u2019t want to hurt you.<\/p>\n

Dice che \u00e8 tutto nella vostra testa e che vedete problemi che non esistono. E in tutto questo casino, lui \u00e8 tutto calmo, freddo e raccolto, usando la sua vocina per dirvi che vi state sbagliando. Si comporter\u00e0 come se foste un bambino piccolo e come se volesse solo il meglio per voi.<\/p>\n

\u00c8 una cosa che fanno tutti gli abusatori silenziosi, perch\u00e9 vogliono convincere le loro vittime di essere loro i pazzi. Se vedete un segnale del genere, correte il pi\u00f9 velocemente possibile perch\u00e9 avete a che fare con un uomo con un disturbo della personalit\u00e0.<\/p>\n

5. Avete paura di essere voi stessi davanti a lui<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

Every single move, every sentence, every look\u2014it all has to be done so your abuser could be happy.<\/p>\n

If not, he will make your life a living hell. He will make you feel bad about yourself, and when he finishes with his monologue in which he will blame you for all the things you haven\u2019t done, he will feel happy.<\/p>\n

Non solo perch\u00e9 farete quello che vuole, ma perch\u00e9 ha avuto la possibilit\u00e0 di dirlo ad alta voce. Agli abusatori piace ascoltare se stessi destroying other people\u2019s lives<\/a>. Amano vedere come ogni parola si ripercuote su di voi e come soffrite sempre di pi\u00f9.<\/p>\n

But they like to see you breaking and crying in front of them the most because then they know they\u2019ve reached their goal. They broke your spirit. You are not the same person anymore. And you won\u2019t be until you leave them and save yourself from them.<\/p>\n

6. Avete paura di affrontarlo perch\u00e9 pensate che possa colpirvi.<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

If you feel that you can\u2019t confront your abuser no matter what he says to you because you are afraid he might hit you, it is about time to get out of that relationship.<\/p>\n

You will never be happy with a man like that, and deep down, you know that as well. You don\u2019t deserve to shiver in front of someone. When he lifts your hand, you don\u2019t know if he wants to hug you or hit you. When he kisses you, you don\u2019t feel comfortable, and you do it just because he wants it.<\/p>\n

No woman deserves that kind of treatment. Because that is not love, it is fear. And fear doesn\u2019t belong to a love relationship. You deserve someone who will listen to you, even if he doesn\u2019t agree with what you have to say.<\/p>\n

You deserve someone who doesn\u2019t want to change you but who loves all of you\u2014no matter how time changes you.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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