{"id":24153,"date":"2018-09-24T12:01:47","date_gmt":"2018-09-24T12:01:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=24153"},"modified":"2022-07-23T09:18:02","modified_gmt":"2022-07-23T09:18:02","slug":"10-consigli-per-gli-appuntamenti-per-i-nerd-introversi-in-un-mondo-estroverso","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/10-consigli-per-gli-appuntamenti-per-i-nerd-introversi-in-un-mondo-estroverso\/","title":{"rendered":"10 consigli per gli appuntamenti per i nerd introversi in un mondo estroverso"},"content":{"rendered":"

Gli appuntamenti moderni sono impegnativi e difficili per tutti. Ma pu\u00f2 essere particolarmente difficile per i nerd e i geek.<\/p>\n

You might wonder why that is so. Well, let\u2019s face it\u2014we live in an extroverted world, and most of the people have a tendency to judge a book by its covers. It means that they pay a lot of attention to the way you look and to your social skills, without being patient enough to dig underneath the surface and to look for other qualities most single nerds have.<\/p>\n

Are you a self-proclaimed, introverted nerd who enjoys most of the things outside the mainstream? Do you enjoy playing video games, reading comic books and you are into sci-fi? Would you agree that you don\u2019t like going to clubs and big events, and you prefer spending quiet evenings by yourself or with your closest friends? Isn\u2019t it true that all of this isn\u2019t making it easy for you to trovare l'amore<\/a>?<\/p>\n

Siamo in vostro soccorso, perch\u00e9 ecco 10 efficaci consigli di appuntamenti per nerd che aiuteranno sicuramente ogni singolo nerd l\u00e0 fuori a trovare il proprio partner ideale.<\/p>\n

1. Accettare se stessi<\/h2>\n

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La prima cosa da fare quando ci si mette sul mercato degli appuntamenti \u00e8 essere se stessi. So che la maggior parte delle persone vi dir\u00e0 di farlo, ma raramente vi daranno consigli su come farlo.<\/p>\n

One of the worst things you can do when you are trying to attract a person of the opposite sex is to pretend you are someone you are not just for her to like you more. Firstly, she will see right through your intentions. Even if you manage to pull this off and if you manage to persuade her that you are someone you are not, sooner or later, your mask will fall off, and she\u2019ll be disappointed in you. Besides, acting will only make you feel bad about yourself, and you\u2019ll never know if this girl is really into you or she actually likes the person you invented.<\/p>\n

Non siete come tutti gli altri. Invece di considerarlo un aspetto negativo della vostra personalit\u00e0, iniziate a vederlo come il vostro pi\u00f9 grande vantaggio rispetto a tutti gli altri ragazzi l\u00e0 fuori!<\/p>\n

2. Accettare l'altra persona<\/h2>\n

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Allo stesso modo in cui dovreste lavorare per accettare voi stessi per quello che siete realmente, dovreste cercare di accettare anche l'altra persona.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t judge a book by its cover, and don\u2019t try to make assumptions about a girl just by looking at her. You may think that a girl is shallow just because she puts a lot of time and energy into her looks or just because she listens to different music or likes things you are not interested in. You may think that the two of you don\u2019t have anything in common just because she doesn\u2019t share your Star Trek passions or because she hasn\u2019t read Harry Potter.<\/p>\n

But this doesn\u2019t have to be the case. This girl might be la tua anima gemella<\/a> e la persona che state cercando, nonostante tutte le vostre differenze. Quindi, invece di cercare qualcuno che sia esattamente uguale a voi, aprite la mente a diverse possibilit\u00e0.<\/p>\n

And when you find someone who stands outside of your box, don\u2019t try to change her, and don\u2019t allow her to change you. Instead, enjoy this person\u2019s differences, and use them as an opportunity to expand your horizons and to learn something new.<\/p>\n

3. Chiedere consiglio ad altri<\/h2>\n

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The truth is that your character and personality are the most important things about you. But let\u2019s face it\u2014we are social and visual beings, and if you want to attract a girl, you have to work on your first impression. That means that she needs to like what she sees and hears when she first meets you.<\/p>\n

The best way to improve your social skills, your looks and your clothing is to rely on the feedback of people who are close to you. Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014I am not advising you to let anyone change the essence of who you are just so you could be more likeable to girls. I am just telling you to ask for an opinion of the way you look and the way you are dressed from someone close to you before you go out with a girl.<\/p>\n

4. Lavorare sulla propria autostima<\/h2>\n

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You know for a fact that most girls like men who are sure about themselves. Men who know what they want and aren\u2019t afraid to get it.<\/p>\n

And when you look at yourself, you know you have a lot to offer but you simply can\u2019t find a way to express this in the right way. The problem is in your lack of confidence.<\/p>\n

Non ti sto dicendo di diventare improvvisamente un estroverso o una persona estroversa, se non lo sei. Sono qui solo per darvi un consiglio su come superare la barriera di parlare anche solo con le ragazze che vi piacciono e come costruire la vostra fiducia.<\/a><\/p>\n

The first thing you need to do is to start believing in yourself. But I mean really believing in yourself. And the best way to accomplish that is to focus on your good qualities and to emphasize them. Yes, you have your flaws, but they shouldn\u2019t be on your mind when talking to a girl.<\/p>\n

5. Don\u2019t overthink<\/h2>\n

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Uno dei vostri pi\u00f9 grandi errori quando si tratta di appuntamenti \u00e8 che probabilmente analizzate tutto e permettete che i vostri pensieri eccessivi rovinino la vostra relazione ancora prima che inizi. Anche quando incontrate una ragazza, la prima cosa che vi passa per la testa sono tutti i possibili esiti negativi della vostra relazione con lei.<\/p>\n

What if she rejects you right away? What if she starts comparing you with her ex? What if she just wants to use you as a rebound? What if she doesn\u2019t like you? What if you fall in love with her and end up heartbroken?<\/p>\n

I\u2019ll have to stop you right there because these thoughts are one of the cores of your problem. Stop thinking about all the \u2018could haves and should haves\u2019. Stop making all these possible case scenarios in your head before anything has actually happened.<\/p>\n

I am not saying that you should be completely reckless and ignore your gut. I am just telling you that it won\u2019t hurt to be a little more spontaneous. You saw a girl you find cute? Go talk to her, without thinking what might happen. Go with the flow from time to time, and see where it takes you.<\/p>\n

6. Provare gli incontri online sui siti di incontri per nerd<\/h2>\n

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Se avete problemi con le vostre abilit\u00e0 sociali e con l'espressione verbale, il posto migliore per trovare il vostro partner perfetto sono sicuramente i siti di incontri nerd che sono pieni di nerd single. Questi siti e app di incontri per nerd vi aiuteranno a trovare single nerd che condividono i vostri interessi e le vostre passioni.<\/p>\n

When you are chatting with a girl online, she doesn\u2019t see what is happening behind the screen. She can\u2019t see that you are blushing or that your hands are sweating. Nerd dating websites and dating apps give you a lot more time to come up with a response because it is not face-to-face communication.<\/p>\n

And when you finally decide to meet in person with this girl you\u2019ve been chatting with, she\u2019ll already be someone you are familiar with, and there will be a lot less tension on your part. Besides, if you met her on a geek dating site, she will probably understand your insecurities and will not judge you because of them.<\/p>\n

7. Lavorare su se stessi<\/h2>\n

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Migliorare se stessi \u00e8 una cosa che si dovrebbe fare costantemente per il proprio bene e non solo per trovare qualcuno, ma sicuramente vi aiuter\u00e0 ad attrarre pi\u00f9 persone.<\/p>\n

Work on improving your looks and improving yourself as a person! Don\u2019t be afraid to think outside the box. Don\u2019t be scared to get out of your comfort zone, and expand your interests and horizons. This will help you know more about the world and will automatically, help you be more certain of yourself.<\/p>\n

8. Concentrarsi sulla qualit\u00e0 piuttosto che sulla quantit\u00e0<\/h2>\n

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I know that plenty of geeks expect to become players overnight, and I hate to disappoint you, but this won\u2019t happen. Besides, the last thing you want to be is some fuckboy who will break girls\u2019 hearts.<\/p>\n

If you are looking for something worthy of your time, you need to focus all of your energy on quality over quantity. Don\u2019t put your efforts into getting laid as much as possible or getting as many phone numbers from different girls in one night because that won\u2019t make you happy, and it is not what you need.<\/p>\n

Instead, be patient enough and wait for the right girl to come along. No, she won\u2019t magically appear in front of you, and this probably won\u2019t be the first girl which crosses your path. But don\u2019t give up on trovare quello giusto<\/a> just because you\u2019ve met a few wrong ones. And please don\u2019t give up after the first disappointment because the girl for you is out there!<\/p>\n

9. Prepararsi<\/h2>\n

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Se ci pensi bene, il tuo problema pi\u00f9 grande negli appuntamenti \u00e8 che di solito ti si blocca la lingua quando sei in mezzo alle ragazze. Quando si \u00e8 soli a casa<\/a> e quando pensi a tutte le cose che diresti a una ragazza che ti piace, ti vengono in mente un milione di cose interessanti. Ma tutto cambia quando si affronta davvero la ragazza. Diventate ansiosi e nervosi, e letteralmente don\u2019t know what to say<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Ebbene, ho una soluzione per voi. Prima di uscire con una ragazza o prima di approcciarla, preparatevi. Pensate a qualche affascinante rompighiaccio comunicativo, a risposte spiritose o a cose divertenti che possano farla ridere. Pensate a qualche domanda da porre alla vostra ragazza per conoscerla meglio e a qualche cosa di interessante da raccontare su di voi.<\/p>\n

Just make sure to use each of these things when the timing is right, and don\u2019t let her get the impression that you have prepared lines you\u2019ve previously memorized.<\/p>\n

10. Don\u2019t be afraid of rejection<\/h2>\n

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Rejection is a part of the dating game, and there is nothing you can do about it. When you look at all those players around you, you think they can get every girl they want, and you assume they\u2019ve never gotten rejected. But trust me\u2014you can\u2019t be more wrong because there doesn\u2019t exist a guy who has never heard no\u2019 as an answer.<\/p>\n

I am not going to lie to\u2014when you put yourself out there, you will get rejected sometimes because there is no magic trick which can make you attractive to every girl you like. So, don\u2019t let this discourage you.<\/p>\n

And most importantly\u2014don\u2019t take it personally. There is the possibility that the girl is lready taken or just not in the mood for someone hitting on her. Remember that a girl is allowed not to like you and that doesn\u2019t mean you are ugly, uninteresting or unattractive. It just means that she doesn\u2019t want to give you a chance and that you should continue trying with someone else.<\/p>\n

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