segno di una relazione tossica<\/a> with an individual who is an energy taker. Often, emotional abusers zap our energy by taking all of the \u201cgood stuff\u201d and replacing it with projected feelings of incompleteness they would otherwise carry with them.<\/p>\nIf you are always giving everything you have to a partnership and, yet, feel it\u2019s not enough or you\u2019re actually being told it\u2019s not enough, this is a problem. If you are in a partnership in which you are constantly giving, and your partner doesn\u2019t seem to appreciate your efforts, something is wrong.<\/b><\/p>\n
By the same token, if you are constantly giving yourself to someone or to a certain situation without being asked to do so and the recipient is telling you enough is enough, you will need to take a long hard look at yourself to figure out why you have an inherent need for self-sacrifice. We may do this for some time before enough energy is zapped from us that we begin to realize it can\u2019t continue. At this point, we have to try to figure out why we\u2019re constantly giving and how we can change this behavior.<\/p>\n
A volte la causa \u00e8 un trauma precoce. Tutti noi portiamo il peso del nostro passato nel presente, che lo decidiamo o meno.<\/b> If the past was unpleasant and we felt we were in a situation in which we couldn\u2019t save ourselves or another person, this weight may have caused us to be burdened with a continual desire to help. It may have ingrained in us a need to come to the rescue.<\/p>\n
A need to please can be a result of the way we were raised as well. Maybe we\u2019re mirroring behaviors we watched when we were younger. We tend to emulate the actions of those who raised us if the experience was positive. We want to give back, and this is healthy as long as it doesn\u2019t get to a point where we\u2019re giving far too much.<\/b><\/p>\n
Balance is key. Knowing when to cut back a bit and concentrate our energy internally is important. We have to understand when we\u2019re too readily depleting the positive, so we can pause for a refill.<\/p>\n
There are numerous signs to look out for that could indicate we\u2019re giving too much of ourselves. You may feel overburdened with responsibilities and feel you have to accomplish things that others could easily have taken off your shoulders. You may find yourself unable to say \u2018no\u2019 even when your plate is far too full. You may find yourself absorbing the traits of others even if they are counterintuitive to how you self-identify and who you are.<\/p>\n
Se sentite il bisogno costante che gli altri riconoscano i vostri sforzi e vi ritrovate a cercare l'approvazione sui social media o nelle vostre cerchie sociali, \u00e8 possibile che stiate esagerando. Forse cercate l'attenzione e l'approvazione degli altri per sentirvi bene dentro di voi. Ricordate che la vera felicit\u00e0 non pu\u00f2 provenire da risorse esterne. Pu\u00f2 venire solo dall'interno.<\/b><\/p>\n
If you feel like you\u2019re exhausted and completely depleted, take some time to really review your circumstances and consider making some changes wherever necessary. You don\u2019t need to continue to self-sacrifice. When you\u2019re okay, everyone else around you will be, too.<\/b><\/p>\n
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