{"id":25635,"date":"2018-10-12T11:40:28","date_gmt":"2018-10-12T11:40:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=25635"},"modified":"2021-08-11T12:06:30","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T12:06:30","slug":"5-cose-fondamentali-che-ho-imparato-da-una-relazione-distruttiva","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/5-cose-fondamentali-che-ho-imparato-da-una-relazione-distruttiva\/","title":{"rendered":"5 cose cruciali che ho imparato da una relazione distruttiva"},"content":{"rendered":"

Roughly a year ago, I was a completely different person. I wasn\u2019t aware of it at the time but I didn\u2019t know how to love myself. I never knew my worth. I was so used to not being good enough and yelled at for every little thing I did wrong (according to You), that I believed it to be normal. I didn\u2019t know what it meant to be loved or appreciated, and it was all because of You.<\/p>\n

You made me feel like I should be thankful for the pathetic fragments of the so-called \u2018\u2019love\u2019 I was receiving from You.<\/p>\n

Oggi sono una persona nuova.<\/b><\/p>\n

I am finally brave enough to stand up for myself and to not be ashamed of wanting something better. It took me a long time but now I know what I deserve and I am smart enough to not let You treat me like I\u2019m a commodity who is only deserving of love and attention at Your convenience. Here are all the ways Your shitty self made me stronger and greater:<\/p>\n

1. Finalmente conosco il mio valore<\/h2>\n

During our relationship, I was always self-conscious about voicing my opinion, or God forbid, not agreeing with You on something. That was not allowed. Well now, after enduring so many years of suppressed emotions, I can happily say I don\u2019t give a crap about what You think I deserve. Sono MOLTO di pi\u00f9<\/span><\/a> di quanto mi abbia fatto sentire il tuo culo dispiaciuto. Io sono pi\u00f9 di quanto Tu potrai mai sapere e, ora che lo so, non mi lascer\u00f2 mai maltrattare da nessuno in nessun modo. Quindi, grazie.<\/p>\n

2. Ho imparato che \u00e8 giusto dire di no<\/h2>\n

Sono sempre stata costretta ad essere d'accordo con tutto ci\u00f2 che Tu decidevi e non mi \u00e8 mai stata concessa un'opinione. Hai sempre fatto sembrare che tu facessi tutto per il mio bene e che io non fossi in grado di prendere una decisione su nulla che riguardasse noi o me stessa.<\/p>\n

Quei giorni sono finiti.<\/b><\/p>\n

When I freed myself of You, I realized how much I was being denied and how much more in control I can and SHOULD be of my life. After all, it is MY life, and who are You to tell me what I can or cannot do? Luckily, I am done with that, and today, I enjoy saying, \u2018\u2019No,\u2019\u2019 immensely. Whenever and to whomever.<\/p>\n

3. I don’t need to justify myself to anyone<\/h2>\n

Se voglio uscire con le mie amiche e ballare tutta la notte (senza fare rapporto al mio partner ogni 30 minuti!) \u00e8 esattamente quello che far\u00f2! Nessuno \u00e8 padrone di me o del mio corpo e io mi divertir\u00f2 senza sentirmi in colpa! Mi merito di divertirmi e non ho bisogno di giustificarmi con nessuno. Non pi\u00f9!<\/p>\n

4. Merito tutto l'amore del mondo<\/h2>\n

S\u00ec, mi hai sentito. La natura possessiva della tua visione malata e distorta dell'amore \u00e8 stata dimenticata da tempo e grazie a Dio ho finalmente capito quanto fosse malato e malsano stare con te. Ero cos\u00ec grato quando mi mostravi un po' di attenzione che ho dimenticato cosa significa amare ed essere amati. Il tipo di amore puro, genuino, disinteressato, con tutti i difetti. Mi fa star male il fatto di essermi permesso di pensare di non meritarlo. Sono grata di aver imparato ad aprire gli occhi e a chiudere la porta (una volta per tutte) ai tuoi modi manipolatori.<\/p>\n

5. Scelgo con chi passare la mia vita<\/h2>\n

Solo perch\u00e9 hai manipolato la tua strada verso il mio cuore e hai mascherato le tue vere intenzioni fino a conquistarlo, non significa che io debba la mia felicit\u00e0 a te. La persona di cui mi sono innamorata non \u00e8 la persona che sei diventato. \u00c8 disgustoso il modo in cui mi hai ingannato facendomi credere di amarti e facendomi credere che tu fossi la mia unica opzione. Non lo sei mai stato e ora che finalmente lo so, ho chiuso con te. Merito di trovare qualcuno che mi apprezzi e mi ami per quello che sono, anche se nel frattempo dovr\u00f2 restare sola.<\/p>\n

See, I\u2019ve finally realized something. I would much rather spend the following years of my life alone (read: single) than to spend a minute more with a <\/b>maestro manipolatore<\/b><\/a> come Te stesso.<\/b><\/p>\n

I am no longer the naive, self-conscious young girl You once knew. You\u2019d be surprised to see how much I\u2019ve learned since finding the courage to leave You. I have never felt more alive and I cannot wait to see what life has planned for me. One thing is for sure… YOU made me who I am today, and for that, I thank You.
\nSpero che riceviate tutto ci\u00f2 che meritate, e anche di pi\u00f9.<\/p>\n

Xoxo,
\nQuello che \u00e8 andato via<\/p>\n

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