{"id":26066,"date":"2018-10-17T08:17:13","date_gmt":"2018-10-17T08:17:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=26066"},"modified":"2022-02-22T01:29:45","modified_gmt":"2022-02-22T01:29:45","slug":"il-dolore-vi-mostrera-il-vero-significato-dellamore","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/il-dolore-vi-mostrera-il-vero-significato-dellamore\/","title":{"rendered":"Il dolore vi mostrer\u00e0 il vero significato dell'amore"},"content":{"rendered":"

So che pu\u00f2 sembrare inquietante, ma la verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che il dolore vi mostrer\u00e0 il vero significato dell'amore<\/a>. Un anno fa, dopo una rottura, mi sono guardata allo specchio e ho cercato di trovare una cosa positiva nel mio stato attuale. Mi sentivo infelice, distrutta e indegna di essere amata.<\/p>\n

Che tipo di persona fa questo? Che tipo di persona vi fa sentire meno importanti o meno degni di amore? Tu. La colpa del mio attuale stato di infelicit\u00e0 \u00e8 tua.<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t want to go out for months. I only went over all of it again and again. It was so hard to go through all of those painful moments and find something that would answer my question:<\/p>\n

Perch\u00e9 io?<\/b><\/p>\n

Cosa ho fatto per meritarmi un trattamento cos\u00ec disumano da parte vostra? Perch\u00e9 meritavo di soffrire?<\/p>\n

Maybe if I had treated you like shit, you would have treated me right. I guess I will never know. And I don\u2019t even want to know it anymore.<\/p>\n

Ho fatto un respiro profondo, ho seguito i passaggi seguenti e ho iniziato a risolvere il puzzle.<\/p>\n

FASE 1:<\/h2>\n

Ho ripetuto pi\u00f9 volte ad alta voce: If I hadn\u2019t been in love, I wouldn\u2019t have been hurt!<\/b> As simple as that. If I was to know that this would happen, I certainly wouldn\u2019t have been with you.<\/p>\n

But, I didn\u2019t know. So, I cannot blame myself for what happened to me. It is not my fault or anyone else\u2019s. It is just so.<\/p>\n

Ma come posso essere sicuro che fosse amore, dopo tutto? E se fosse solo una specie di prova da superare per essere ricompensati con qualcosa di pi\u00f9 grande?<\/p>\n

After all, you cannot appreciate the good if you didn\u2019t taste the bad. Maybe being hurt has more meanings than just one.<\/p>\n

I wouldn\u2019t mind if there are more meanings to it. I just want to be sure that all of this I\u2019m going through is not for nothing.<\/p>\n

FASE 2:<\/h2>\n

Ho ripetuto la conclusione logica successiva: If I hadn\u2019t been hurt, I wouldn\u2019t be in pain.<\/b> I mean, what kind of a conclusion is this? Of course if I hadn\u2019t been hurt, I wouldn\u2019t be in pain.<\/p>\n

But, why do I have to be in pain? Why can\u2019t I just be hurt and not go through all of that process of being in constant pain where I cannot eat, sleep nor live like a normal human being?<\/p>\n

But what if being in pain is a process that I have to go through so that I can be prepared for something greater to come? It\u2019s really hard to believe such thing, but I\u2019ll give it a chance. What could I lose anyway?<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve already lost myself, and pain is the only thing that is reminding me of being human.<\/p>\n

Devo imparare a lavorare con il dolore, a camminare con il dolore e a dormire con il dolore.<\/p>\n

I guess when the time comes, I\u2019ll be ready. I\u2019ll be ready for anything.<\/p>\n

FASE 3:<\/h2>\n

Ho avuto un attimo di esitazione e ho cercato di trovare la mia prossima affermazione: If I weren\u2019t in pain, I wouldn\u2019t\u2026<\/b>Ma cosa? Che cosa mi pu\u00f2 portare di buono il dolore? Poi ho capito, ed \u00e8 scoppiato come una bolla di sapone:<\/p>\n

If I weren\u2019t in pain, I wouldn\u2019t appreciate not being in pain!<\/b><\/p>\n

If I weren\u2019t in pain, I wouldn\u2019t realize what a shitty person you were!<\/b><\/p>\n

If I weren\u2019t in pain, I wouldn\u2019t realize the true meaning of love.<\/b><\/p>\n

Ora tutto aveva un senso per me. Il vero amore \u00e8 fatto di rispetto, compromesso e donazione disinteressata.<\/p>\n

It is made of everything I haven\u2019t experienced yet!<\/b><\/p>\n

I\u2019m no longer mad at you. I thank you for that.<\/p>\n

Ti ringrazio per avermi fatto capire che ero innamorato di un significato distorto dell'amore. Ma ora che conosco il suo vero significato, non mi accontenter\u00f2 mai di nient'altro.<\/p>\n

\"Il<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I know it sounds disturbing, but the truth is that pain will show you the true meaning of love. A year ago after a breakup, I looked at myself in the mirror, and I was trying to find one positive thing about my current state. I felt miserable, broken and unworthy of love. What kind…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":26068,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29617],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-26066","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-heartbreak"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29617,"label":"heartbreak"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/makhmutova-dina-1053978-unsplash-1.jpg",800,532,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29617,"name":"heartbreak","slug":"heartbreak","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29617,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Recovering after having your heart broken is tough. That's why I've decided to collect different stories of heartbreak - to help everyone going through the same.","parent":38,"count":146,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29617,"category_count":146,"category_description":"Recovering after having your heart broken is tough. That's why I've decided to collect different stories of heartbreak - to help everyone going through the same.","cat_name":"heartbreak","category_nicename":"heartbreak","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26066","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=26066"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26066\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/26068"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=26066"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=26066"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=26066"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}