{"id":26433,"date":"2018-10-22T08:31:46","date_gmt":"2018-10-22T08:31:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=26433"},"modified":"2021-08-11T11:54:47","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T11:54:47","slug":"i-3-principali-stili-di-attaccamento-e-il-loro-impatto-sulla-relazione-di-coppia","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/i-3-principali-stili-di-attaccamento-e-il-loro-impatto-sulla-relazione-di-coppia\/","title":{"rendered":"3 principali \"stili di attaccamento\" e il loro impatto sulla relazione di coppia"},"content":{"rendered":"

Vi \u00e8 mai capitato di ripetere o rivivere lo stesso scenario quando si tratta della vostra vita sentimentale? Quello che va a rotoli. Quello in cui avete gli stessi modelli comportamentali. La causa principale potrebbe essere il vostro stile di attaccamento.<\/p>\n

Attachment style is something we develop in our early childhood and it affects our further adult life immensely. It\u2019s caused by the relationship we have with our parents or caregivers.<\/p>\n

Perch\u00e9 \u00e8 importante per voi e per la vostra relazione conoscere il vostro stile di attaccamento? <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Identificare il proprio stile di attaccamento aiuta a determinare se si \u00e8 veramente compatibili con il proprio partner.<\/p>\n

Inoltre, il vostro stile di attaccamento determina il modo in cui scegliete il vostro partner e il modo in cui la vostra relazione progredisce.<\/p>\n

The bad thing is that you can\u2019t know your partner’s attachment style until you are in a relationship with them.<\/p>\n

For instance, a lot of toxic manipulators will be charming at the beginning of the relationship and you won\u2019t discover their true nature until it\u2019s too late.<\/p>\n

Per comprendere meglio questo concetto, esaminiamo i tre principali stili di attaccamento e gli effetti che hanno sulla relazione.<\/p>\n

1. Fissaggio sicuro<\/h2>\n

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Comportamento relazionale:<\/b><\/p>\n

People who belong to this attachment style are able to fully trust their partner. They don\u2019t show any segni di gelosia<\/span><\/a> o possessivit\u00e0 nei confronti del partner.<\/p>\n

They and their partner are sure of each other and in their relationship. They don\u2019t have to text or call when they are out with friends. They have their own, which is a great thing.<\/p>\n

But what\u2019s even better is that they also have the life they share together, things to do alone and mutual friends to hang out with.<\/p>\n

Their relationship is healthy. It\u2019s not suffocating in any way. They love in such a way that makes them feel free but nevertheless strongly bonded.<\/p>\n

Influenza dell'infanzia:<\/b><\/p>\n

Sono cresciuti in un ambiente sicuro e amorevole. I loro genitori o chi si prende cura di loro hanno insegnato loro che ci sarebbero sempre stati ogni volta che sarebbero tornati da loro.<\/p>\n

Questo comportamento viene applicato inconsciamente alla loro relazione. Non importa quanto tempo passino a fare qualcosa senza il partner, possono sempre contare di tornare da lui.<\/p>\n

2. Attaccamento ansioso<\/h2>\n

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Comportamento relazionale:<\/b><\/p>\n

Questo stile \u00e8 caratterizzato da persone piene di insicurezze e prive di fiducia, in primo luogo in se stesse e poi nella relazione.<\/p>\n

Vogliono passare tutto il tempo nel loro appartamento e ogni volta che il partner non \u00e8 con loro, sono sopraffatti dal sentimento di gelosia. Sono possessivi e controllanti.<\/p>\n

They fear that they will lose their loved one if they are out of sight, that\u2019s why they don\u2019t leave them be. They are on their case at every given moment.<\/p>\n

They text and they call when you are hanging out with someone else. They don\u2019t really understand why you need other people besides them in your life.<\/p>\n

Nei casi peggiori, questo stile di attaccamento pu\u00f2 sfociare in un comportamento tossico e abusivo e pu\u00f2 diventare molto pericoloso per la salute mentale e fisica.<\/p>\n

Influenza dell'infanzia:<\/b><\/p>\n

Chi \u00e8 legato a questo stile di attaccamento ha avuto un'infanzia un po' difficile. Non hanno mai ricevuto ci\u00f2 di cui avevano bisogno dai genitori o da chi si prendeva cura di loro.<\/p>\n

They didn\u2019t feel safe or heard. They lacked attention and most probably affection. They are scared that their romantic relationship won\u2019t give them what they need either.<\/p>\n

3. Attaccamento evitante<\/h2>\n

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Comportamento relazionale:<\/b><\/p>\n

Come indica il nome, le persone che hanno questo stile di attaccamento evitano le relazioni. Evitano di avvicinarsi troppo a qualcuno.<\/p>\n

Even if they enter into a relationship, it took a lot from them to surpass their fears and take a leap of faith. But usually, due to their deeply rooted trust issues, those relationships don\u2019t last long.<\/p>\n

They enter a relationship believing or fearing that it will fail and it usually happens that way. It\u2019s like a self-fulfilling prophecy. They attract what they believe in.<\/p>\n

So in a way, they are sabotaging their own relationships. They are not sure of themselves and deep down they just think they are not good enough. That\u2019s why they are often appiccicoso<\/a> o bisognosi.<\/p>\n

Influenza dell'infanzia:<\/b><\/p>\n

Per qualche motivo, le persone di questo stile si distaccavano dai genitori o da chi si prendeva cura di loro. Pu\u00f2 trattarsi di un distacco fisico o emotivo.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t have to be that their parents abandoned them exactly\u2014they might have spent a lot of time in a hospital or somewhere where they couldn\u2019t see their parents as much as they needed.<\/p>\n

They might have been living in the same house but had parents who were workaholics or even addicts and didn\u2019t pay enough attention to them.<\/p>\n

Cosa fare? <\/b><\/p>\n

Just because your attachment style is anxious or avoidant, that doesn\u2019t mean it cannot be helped. You can still be in a happy, healthy and long-lasting relationship even though it\u2019s not going to be easy.<\/p>\n

La cosa migliore da fare \u00e8 rivolgersi a un consulente professionista, avere fiducia nel processo e avere pazienza. Quanto pi\u00f9 estremo \u00e8 l'attaccamento, tanto pi\u00f9 tempo ci vorr\u00e0 per guarire.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s really hard to do anything on your own but the sole fact that you know your attachment style is taking you one step closer to solving your issues.<\/p>\n

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