{"id":26493,"date":"2020-04-23T08:17:32","date_gmt":"2020-04-23T08:17:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=26493"},"modified":"2022-02-14T23:40:13","modified_gmt":"2022-02-14T23:40:13","slug":"una-lettera-di-una-ragazza-forte-al-suo-padre-di-merda","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/una-lettera-di-una-ragazza-forte-al-suo-padre-di-merda\/","title":{"rendered":"Lettera di una ragazza forte al suo padre di merda"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><b><i>Ehi tu,<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>This time, I won\u2019t call you Dad. I won\u2019t call you Father either.<\/p>\n<p>Not because I don\u2019t want to but because you don\u2019t deserve it. You don\u2019t deserve that a girl who looked up to you and admired you got her heart broken by you.<\/p>\n<p>I won\u2019t even try to tell you what your mistakes were but I will just let all this pain out of me. The pain that was inside of me for a long time needs to come out.<\/p>\n<p>Because if it doesn\u2019t come out, I swear I will explode.<\/p>\n<p>Ho bisogno di liberarmi di questo dolore che mi sono tenuta dentro per tanti anni, sperando che le cose cambiassero. Devo finalmente capire che non sei mai stato il padre che meritavo.<\/p>\n<p>You shouldn\u2019t be called that because a father figure is so important to his child\u2019s life but you weren\u2019t there for me in any situation.<\/p>\n<p>You only got rid of me when I needed you the most. You gave up on me because fixing me and helping me was too long a process and you didn\u2019t want to waste your time on me.<\/p>\n<p>While I am writing these lines, I can\u2019t believe that a father could think that he would be wasting his time if he helped his daughter. But that is what I got from you. I never felt loved by you.<\/p>\n<p>Non ho mai potuto vedere la felicit\u00e0 nei tuoi occhi quando eri con me.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-81549\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/father-talking-to-sad-daughter.jpg\" alt=\"padre che parla con la figlia triste\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/father-talking-to-sad-daughter.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/father-talking-to-sad-daughter-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/father-talking-to-sad-daughter-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Ogni conversazione che abbiamo avuto \u00e8 stata cos\u00ec spiacevole per entrambi.<\/p>\n<p>It was bad for you because you didn\u2019t want to spend time with me and for me, it was bad because I saw in your eyes that you didn\u2019t want me too close and all I wanted was to see you walking through the door.<\/p>\n<p>I learned to live on my own while I was still pretty young and deep down I knew that things wouldn\u2019t change for the better.<\/p>\n<p>I would be lying if I said that I didn\u2019t hope that you would become the father of my dreams but frankly speaking, those dreams only helped me to get through some days.<\/p>\n<p>You know, for so long, I blamed myself for the lack of your love. I thought that I was a girl who didn\u2019t accomplish anything and that you were ashamed of me.<\/p>\n<p>I thought that all the things I did weren\u2019t good enough for you and that I needed to work harder. For so long, I thought I was the guilty one.<\/p>\n<p>E sapete qual \u00e8 stata la parte peggiore?<\/p>\n<p>You watched me break down so many times and you didn\u2019t even try to comfort me. You didn\u2019t even try to tell me a white lie that would make me feel better.<\/p>\n<p>You weren\u2019t man enough to hold your hands up to the things you did. You hid like a coward behind your mistakes, thinking they were your biggest accomplishments.<\/p>\n<p>Avete fallito malamente nel vostro ruolo pi\u00f9 importante, <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/family\/lettera-padre-assente\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> quello di un padre <\/a>. And that is something you can\u2019t change now.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-81553\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/angry-father-yelling-at-daughter.jpg\" alt=\"Padre arrabbiato che urla alla figlia \" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/angry-father-yelling-at-daughter.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/angry-father-yelling-at-daughter-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/angry-father-yelling-at-daughter-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>When I realized that I didn\u2019t have a dad I could count on, I learned to stand up for myself.<\/p>\n<p>E mentre tutte le altre ragazze parlavano con orgoglio dei loro padri, io stavo zitta mentre le lacrime mi scorrevano sulle guance. Ero cos\u00ec arrabbiata con te perch\u00e9 non c'eri per me.<\/p>\n<p>And that hasn\u2019t changed. I still think you are a piece of a shit who couldn\u2019t be there for the only person who truly needed you.<\/p>\n<p>I still think that you don\u2019t deserve anyone to call you Dad or to act nicely toward you.<\/p>\n<p>I think that you got this role by accident and that it simply doesn\u2019t belong to you. Because only a coward leaves his daughter unprotected.<\/p>\n<p>Solo un codardo rinuncia alla propria carne e al proprio sangue. Solo un codardo distrugge la vita di persone innocenti solo per sentirsi meglio.<\/p>\n<p>And that is what you did to me. Because of you, I learned that I shouldn\u2019t bring guys into my life so easily.<\/p>\n<p>Because of the horror I went through with you, I learned that a guy won\u2019t make me feel better and only I can do it for myself.<\/p>\n<p>I learned that I can\u2019t trust strangers and that I shouldn\u2019t give chances so easily.<\/p>\n<p>Ho imparato a prendermi cura di me stessa senza l'aiuto delle persone che mi circondano. Ho imparato a essere indipendente e forte e a non rinunciare mai ai miei sogni.<\/p>\n<p>Da piccola e spaventata, mi sono trasformata in una bestia che nascondeva le sue emozioni sotto il tappeto.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-81556\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-looking-through-the-rainy-window.jpg\" alt=\"donna triste che guarda attraverso la finestra piovosa\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-looking-through-the-rainy-window.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-looking-through-the-rainy-window-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-looking-through-the-rainy-window-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Because of you, I built walls around me so high that even the bravest people couldn\u2019t reach me. And in trying to shut down my emotions to prevent people from hurting me, I lost all of them.<\/p>\n<p>Sono diventata una persona priva di emozioni, incapace di sorridere per tutte le piccole cose che prima mi facevano ridere cos\u00ec tanto.<\/p>\n<p>Attraverso questa vita con te. Ho imparato che posso contare solo su me stesso e che nessuno risolver\u00e0 i miei problemi e che solo io posso farlo per me stesso.<\/p>\n<p>Purtroppo ho imparato a farmi valere perch\u00e9 non ho mai avuto un padre che lo facesse al posto mio.<\/p>\n<p>E a causa di tutte le cose brutte che ho passato nella mia vita senza una figura paterna, sono diventata cos\u00ec forte.<\/p>\n<p>I transformed into a woman who isn\u2019t afraid of anything and who will chase her dreams no matter how long it will take.<\/p>\n<p>A causa della mancanza di amore da parte vostra, <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/rifiutare-di-scusarsi-mettendo-finalmente-al-primo-posto\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> Finalmente ho messo me stesso al primo posto <\/a>dandomi tutto quello che mi meritavo da te. Ma in questo modo, ho avuto ci\u00f2 che mi sono meritato per tutta la vita.<\/p>\n<p>Now, after so much time spent thinking about you and about our lives, I don\u2019t feel bad anymore.<\/p>\n<p>So che ho cercato di far funzionare le cose, ma so anche che ti sei arreso con me come se non fossi nulla.<\/p>\n<p>E grazie a questo, ora sono pi\u00f9 forte.<\/p>\n<p>Quindi, se mai leggerete questa lettera, se mai troverete il tempo di aprirla e di leggere ci\u00f2 che mi \u00e8 rimasto nel cuore per tanto tempo, voglio che prestiate attenzione a ci\u00f2 che sto dicendo in questo momento:<\/p>\n<p>Anche se si fosse <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/le-ragazze-piu-forti-hanno-padri-di-merda\/\">un padre di merda<\/a> per me, sono riuscita a trasformarmi in una persona di cui ogni genitore sarebbe orgoglioso.<\/p>\n<p>E questo non grazie a te, ma grazie a me e alla mia forte volont\u00e0 di successo. Perdendoti e vedendoti andar via da me, senza nemmeno voltarti indietro, ho giurato a me stesso che ce l'avrei fatta e che non avrei mai pi\u00f9 chiesto il tuo aiuto.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>Perdendoti, ho finalmente trovato il pezzo mancante del puzzle per essere finalmente felice. Ho trovato me stesso!<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-81562\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-From-A-Strong-Girl-To-Her-Shitty-Father-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Lettera di una ragazza forte al suo padre di merda\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-From-A-Strong-Girl-To-Her-Shitty-Father-pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-From-A-Strong-Girl-To-Her-Shitty-Father-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-From-A-Strong-Girl-To-Her-Shitty-Father-pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-From-A-Strong-Girl-To-Her-Shitty-Father-pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Hey You, This time, I won\u2019t call you Dad. I won\u2019t call you Father either. Not because I don\u2019t want to but because you don\u2019t deserve it. You don\u2019t deserve that a girl who looked up to you and admired you got her heart broken by you. I won\u2019t even try to tell you what&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":41,"featured_media":81561,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29653],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-26493","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-letters"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29653,"label":"letters"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-From-A-Strong-Girl-To-Her-Shitty-Father.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Martha Sullivan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/martha-sullivan\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29653,"name":"letters","slug":"letters","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29653,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Regardless if you're looking for moving on, romantic, emotional, or open letters on various topics, you can be sure that you'll find it all here. ","parent":29651,"count":207,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29653,"category_count":207,"category_description":"Regardless if you're looking for moving on, romantic, emotional, or open letters on various topics, you can be sure that you'll find it all here. ","cat_name":"letters","category_nicename":"letters","category_parent":29651}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26493","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/41"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=26493"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26493\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/81561"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=26493"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=26493"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=26493"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}