{"id":27138,"date":"2020-04-05T08:23:54","date_gmt":"2020-04-05T08:23:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=27138"},"modified":"2022-02-22T01:49:11","modified_gmt":"2022-02-22T01:49:11","slug":"5-inquietanti-segni-che-il-vostro-ex-e-un-vero-psicopatico","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/5-inquietanti-segni-che-il-vostro-ex-e-un-vero-psicopatico\/","title":{"rendered":"5 inquietanti segni che il vostro ex \u00e8 un vero e proprio psicopatico"},"content":{"rendered":"

Era uno psicopatico. Un pazzo completo e totale. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

That is the sentence I use to describe my ex. He was a true example of a classic abuser. No, I didn\u2019t have bruises on my body. He didn\u2019t hit me, but emotional scars were deeply carved on my heart.<\/p>\n

It\u2019ll take months for them to stop itching. It\u2019ll take years for them to fade away.  <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Sapeva che le sue parole facevano un male cane. Sapeva che poteva distruggermi con una semplice frase. Doveva solo colpirmi con forza dove faceva pi\u00f9 male. E l'ha fatto. Ogni. Singolo. giorno.<\/p>\n

Those horrible years of my life are finally over. I\u2019ve escaped his psychopathic grip. It is like I\u2019ve awakened from a terrible dream.<\/p>\n

Un'improvvisa consapevolezza mi ha colpito come un treno – <\/span>\u00c8 un esempio da manuale di psicopatico. <\/b><\/p>\n

Sapevo di dovermi allontanare da lui il pi\u00f9 velocemente possibile. Sapevo che dovevo essere intelligente.<\/p>\n

I couldn\u2019t allow him to manipulate me to stay once again. Not this time.<\/p>\n

Psychopaths are highly intelligent, and you can\u2019t recognize their behavior as abuso emotivo<\/b><\/a> subito. Possono passare mesi o addirittura anni prima che vi rendiate conto che sta rendendo la vostra vita un inferno.<\/p>\n

Your depression, your anxiety, the lack of will to live your life which you\u2019ve once enjoyed…it is all him. It is all happening because of him.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve seen that. I\u2019ve lived it, and I saved myself by acting quickly and wisely.<\/p>\n

Ma cosa succede se vi lasciate un po' troppo presto, prima che lui mostri la sua vera natura o se si stanca di voi e vi lascia?<\/b><\/p>\n

You may think that his desperate behavior, stalking and bad mouthing you is just an attempt to get you back, but it\u2019s much more serious than that.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s a revelation of who he actually is. It\u2019s damn good proof why your decision to break up with him was the best one you could ever make.<\/p>\n

Dopo aver letto questi segnali, l'unica frase che userete per descrivere il vostro ex sar\u00e0 esattamente come la mia – <\/span>era uno psicopatico. Un pazzo completo e totale.<\/b><\/p>\n

1. \u00c8 cambiato troppo velocemente<\/h2>\n

Every relationship has a honeymoon phase at the beginning. Both of you are on your best behavior because you want to keep each other. You\u2019re enjoying the new relationship, and you don\u2019t want it to end.<\/p>\n

So, you\u2019ll put up with things you usually wouldn\u2019t just because you\u2019ve just started dating. This is where most of us fuck up. Instead of keeping quiet, you have to confront him.<\/p>\n

Il conflitto lo porter\u00e0 a mostrare il suo vero volto e le sue vere intenzioni.<\/p>\n

Succede che all'inizio \u00e8 gentile e compassionevole, solo per addestrarvi all'obbedienza. Poi, improvvisamente, cambia comportamento e diventa impossibile da frequentare, e la fase della luna di miele \u00e8 ufficialmente finita.<\/p>\n

2. Ama tutto ci\u00f2 che voi amate<\/h2>\n

Una delle principali mosse degli psicopatici \u00e8 quella di convincervi che a loro piacciono le stesse cose che piacciono a voi. In pratica vogliono farvi credere siete fatti l'uno per l'altro.<\/a><\/p>\n

Se vi aprite con lui e condividete i traumi della vostra infanzia, vi dir\u00e0 che anche lui ha avuto un periodo difficile di crescita. Se gli dite che musica amate, vi dir\u00e0 che anche lui la ama.<\/p>\n

Questo si chiama rispecchiamento. Imita tutto ci\u00f2 che amate o fate, tutto ci\u00f2 che vi \u00e8 successo, sia il bene che il male.<\/p>\n

At the beginning of the relationship, they mirror you to get you to like them. In the middle of it, they try to convince that you\u2019re the same, and by the end of it, they see you as completely opposite than in the beginning.<\/p>\n

If they said that you were smart, now, they are saying you\u2019re stupid.<\/p>\n

3. Once you were everything to him; now you\u2019re nothing<\/h2>\n

Eri la sua ragione di vita, la pupilla dei suoi occhi. Poi una mattina ti sei svegliata e da tutto sei diventata niente.<\/p>\n

Ha cambiato opinione su di voi. \u00c8 diventato distante e disinteressato a voi. E questo vi ha portato a pensare di aver fatto qualcosa di sbagliato.<\/p>\n

But, the thing is, it\u2019s all a tactic to mess with you, to destroy your confidence. He wants you to doubt yourself and question what you could have possibly done to chase him away.<\/p>\n

Vuole che non siate sicuri di voi stessi e che ascoltiate solo lui. Vuole che diventiate obbedienti.<\/b><\/p>\n

He made you think that you and he have an unbreakable bond. He made you feel like you\u2019ve found the man of your dreams.<\/p>\n

But the thing is, after he accomplishes that, he becomes bored, he gets sick of you. You\u2019re no longer attractive to him because he got what he wanted.<\/p>\n

So he leaves feeling nothing, neither regret nor remorse. These men cannot feel empathy. They don\u2019t give a damn about your emotions and the fact you\u2019re left broken, hurting.<\/p>\n

4. Mette se stesso al primo posto<\/h2>\n

Gli psicopatici sono ipersensibili, ma solo quando si tratta di loro. Si sentono trascurati e attaccati se qualcuno li critica.<\/p>\n

Then, they\u2019ll go out and seek the best way to get their revenge, and you won\u2019t even know they were hurt or what the hell is going on.<\/p>\n

They only think about themselves and are unable to feel empathy toward anyone else. Other people\u2019s feelings are completely irrelevant to them.<\/p>\n

5. Blocca la vostra felicit\u00e0 futura<\/h2>\n

He doesn\u2019t want you to move on. It\u2019s like he has a sixth sense when it comes to your happiness. Every time something nice happens to you, there he is. He shows up and tries to demolish everything you\u2019ve built after him.<\/p>\n

He pretends he wants to keep a warm relationship. He wants you to stay friends, but actually, the only reason he is back in your life is to make sure you don\u2019t move on.<\/p>\n

He suddenly wants you to give him another try. But that is not a sincere request. That is just another play from his thick playbook to try to lure you back into his life of terror. It\u2019s just another try to keep you as his toxic supply.<\/p>\n

If you can\u2019t get rid of him and he keeps popping back into your life announced, you have to take some serious steps. If you want to move on with your life, you have to non contattare<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n

Non sentitelo mai pi\u00f9. Cancellate ogni contatto con lui e cancellatelo dalla vostra memoria una volta per tutte.<\/p>\n

Only then, you\u2019ll have a fighting chance to move on with your life. A better life, a happier life.<\/p>\n

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He was a psychopath. A complete and utter crazy person. That is the sentence I use to describe my ex. He was a true example of a classic abuser. No, I didn\u2019t have bruises on my body. He didn\u2019t hit me, but emotional scars were deeply carved on my heart. It\u2019ll take months for them…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":27131,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29632],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-27138","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-abuse-and-trauma"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29632,"label":"abuse & trauma"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/pawel-szvmanski-1131771-unsplash.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29632,"name":"abuse & trauma","slug":"abuse-and-trauma","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29632,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","parent":22911,"count":138,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29632,"category_count":138,"category_description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","cat_name":"abuse & trauma","category_nicename":"abuse-and-trauma","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/27138","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=27138"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/27138\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/27131"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=27138"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=27138"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=27138"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}