{"id":27437,"date":"2018-11-08T10:15:05","date_gmt":"2018-11-08T10:15:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=27437"},"modified":"2021-08-11T11:15:48","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T11:15:48","slug":"non-e-difficile-amarmi-e-solo-che-non-ci-stai-provando-abbastanza","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/non-e-difficile-amarmi-e-solo-che-non-ci-stai-provando-abbastanza\/","title":{"rendered":"Non sono difficile da amare: non ci stai provando abbastanza"},"content":{"rendered":"

I used to live in a delusion that I\u2019m the type of person who is hard to love. I thought the problem was in me or maybe I expected too much, only to realize that you\u2019re just not trying hard enough.<\/span>
\n<\/span><\/p>\n

Most of the best things in life are the most difficult to achieve and maintain. Requiring effort doesn\u2019t mean I\u2019m hard to love. It means I\u2019m a challenge and real men will not be afraid to approach it.<\/span>
\n<\/span><\/p>\n

A real man won\u2019t be afraid when I show him my true self. He won\u2019t be afraid of my complex mind because he sees it as a riddle that he has to solve in order to win me and experience the beauty of my selfless love.<\/span>
\n<\/span><\/p>\n

E un vero uomo non trover\u00e0 scuse quando dovr\u00e0 rimboccarsi le maniche e combattere per me. Al contrario, lo accoglier\u00e0 e lo vedr\u00e0 come un'opportunit\u00e0 per imparare qualcosa di nuovo e migliorare se stesso.<\/span>
\n<\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019m a challenge and you\u2019re not making an effort.<\/b>
\n<\/b><\/p>\n

There\u2019s a difference between being hard to love and being a challenge. When you\u2019re hard to love, no effort can make a difference because the problem lies within you. <\/span>
\n<\/span><\/p>\n

Al contrario, essere una sfida significa che conoscete il vostro valore e che volete che loro lo facciano. <\/span>lottare per questo<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Yes, I\u2019m a challenge because I know my worth and you\u2019re not trying hard enough to win me.<\/span><\/p>\n

Demanding effort doesn\u2019t mean I\u2019m hard to love. It means you have to work hard in order to reap what you sow.<\/span>
\n<\/span><\/p>\n

And if you think I\u2019m asking too much of you, don\u2019t even bother staying because I don\u2019t have time for lazy people or lame excuses. The past has taught me to appreciate my time and to be careful with whom I\u2019m spending it.<\/span>
\n<\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019m not perfect and you\u2019re just not trying hard enough to accept me for who I am.<\/b>
\n<\/b><\/p>\n

No, I\u2019m not perfect and I\u2019ll never be perfect and that\u2019s not making me hard to love. I\u2019m perfectly aware of all of my flaws and quirks and they are a part of my being.<\/span>
\n<\/span><\/p>\n

They make me who I am and you have every right not to like them but don\u2019t even try to change me. If you cannot accept me for who I am, you don\u2019t deserve me.<\/span>
\n<\/span><\/p>\n

All of my imperfections will be perfections to the right guy and I will never change myself for some casual romance only to appease you. No. I\u2019m not hard to love. <\/span><\/p>\n

You just don\u2019t appreciate me enough to make an effort to discover the true me. But, if you did, you\u2019d be surprised about what you\u2019ve been missing.<\/span><\/p>\n

I know what I want and you\u2019re not giving it.<\/b><\/p>\n

Se ti dico che mi piaci, lo penso davvero. Non dir\u00f2 mai una cosa e poi con le azioni dimostrer\u00f2 qualcosa di completamente diverso e mi aspetto da te lo stesso trattamento.<\/span>
\n<\/span><\/p>\n

I don\u2019t have time for mind games, manipulations or other childish games you might want to play. I know what I want and I will make sure to tell you.<\/span>
\n<\/span><\/p>\n

And if you\u2019re not giving it, I will not waste my time waiting for you to change your mind. Knowing what I want and not tolerating bullshit doesn\u2019t make me hard to love.<\/span><\/p>\n

It makes me the creator of my own happiness and if you don\u2019t want to be a part of it, don\u2019t make excuses about me being hard to love. Be a man and admit that you\u2019re not giving me what I\u2019m asking for.<\/span>
\n<\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019ve been hurt before and you\u2019re just not trying hard enough to gain my trust.<\/b>
\n<\/b><\/p>\n

Just because I\u2019ve been hurt before, it doesn\u2019t mean I\u2019m hard to love. It means I\u2019m cautious about whom I\u2019ll give my heart and trust.<\/span><\/p>\n

Se mi date per scontato, non mi fider\u00f2 di voi. Se mi mentirai, non mi fider\u00f2 di te. Se mi tradisci, non ti perdoner\u00f2 mai.<\/span>
\n<\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019ve been hurt before and I think I <\/span>meritano il vostro rispetto<\/span><\/a> and to be treated equally. If you try hard enough to gain my trust, I will also try hard enough to open my heart. And you\u2019ll see that I\u2019m not that hard to love after all.<\/span><\/p>\n

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I used to live in a delusion that I\u2019m the type of person who is hard to love. I thought the problem was in me or maybe I expected too much, only to realize that you\u2019re just not trying hard enough. Most of the best things in life are the most difficult to achieve and…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":27439,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-27437","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/emil-vilsek-488937-1.jpg",800,559,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/27437","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=27437"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/27437\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/27439"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=27437"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=27437"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=27437"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}