{"id":27586,"date":"2020-09-12T08:55:42","date_gmt":"2020-09-12T08:55:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=27586"},"modified":"2022-07-31T22:41:04","modified_gmt":"2022-07-31T22:41:04","slug":"non-ho-bisogno-di-un-uomo-che-risolva-i-miei-problemi-ho-bisogno-di-un-uomo-che-non-lo-diventi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/non-ho-bisogno-di-un-uomo-che-risolva-i-miei-problemi-ho-bisogno-di-un-uomo-che-non-lo-diventi\/","title":{"rendered":"Non ho bisogno di un uomo che risolva i miei problemi, ho bisogno di un uomo che non lo diventi"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>La gente sembra pensare che una donna abbia bisogno di un uomo che le renda la vita pi\u00f9 facile. Sembrano pensare che siamo incapaci di fare le cose da sole.<\/p>\n<p>Social norms teach you that men are the protectors and providers of the families, and women are the caretakers. Well, I\u2019m going to tell you that that is a load of BS!<\/p>\n<p>Conosco molte donne che sono pi\u00f9 virili degli uomini al loro fianco. Conosco mamme single che crescono i loro figli bene come farebbero due genitori.<\/p>\n<p>And I, for one, am sick of these presumptions that a woman needs a man in her life. She doesn\u2019t need him, but she can have him if she wants.<\/p>\n<p><b>Tutte voi donne dovreste credere di essere forti e indipendenti. Potete prendervi cura di voi stesse. <\/b><\/p>\n<p><b>Potete costruirvi una buona vita. <\/b><b>You\u2019re more than capable. You don\u2019t need someone else in your life to become what you want.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Of course, this doesn&#8217;t mean that you need to shut everyone out because you can do things by yourself. Don\u2019t be a relationship-hater. You can be in a relationship and be independent at the same time.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-122688 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/a-woman-sitting-in-a-boat.jpg\" alt=\"una donna seduta in barca\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/a-woman-sitting-in-a-boat.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/a-woman-sitting-in-a-boat-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/a-woman-sitting-in-a-boat-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/a-woman-sitting-in-a-boat-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/a-woman-sitting-in-a-boat-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/a-woman-sitting-in-a-boat-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/a-woman-sitting-in-a-boat-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/a-woman-sitting-in-a-boat-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Just never allow yourself to lose that independence and be subordinate to anyone you\u2019re dating just for the sake of the relationship. There are plenty of other men out there; men that won\u2019t make you give up your freedom.<\/p>\n<p>Questo non \u00e8 amore, \u00e8 controllo.<\/p>\n<p>L'amore non \u00e8 prendere decisioni per qualcun altro. L'amore non \u00e8 chiamare per controllare se il partner <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/8-segni-di-tradimento-2\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ti tradisce<\/span><\/a>. L'amore non \u00e8 dubitare di tutto ci\u00f2 che l'altro dice.<\/p>\n<p>L'amore \u00e8 sostegno e fiducia. L'amore \u00e8 ispirazione e motivazione.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>I let someone fall in love with me, but I\u2019ve set boundaries because I don\u2019t want to lose myself.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><b>I don\u2019t necessarily need a man<\/b> <b>nella mia vita, ma ho scelto di averne uno.<\/b> It\u2019s who I am. I\u2019m always going to choose love, but not at all costs.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ll love someone because I want to, not because I have to.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m perfectly capable of living on my own. <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/non-ho-bisogno-di-nessuno-citazioni\/\">I don\u2019t need anyone<\/a> to show me how to live or tell me what to do. I\u2019m independent, and I want to stay that way.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ll never sacrifice myself and stay in a shitty relationship just because I don\u2019t have any other choice. I refuse to be trapped with a man I don\u2019t love just because I need him.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-122690 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/the-woman-stands-in-a-field-of-outstretched-arms.jpg\" alt=\"la donna si trova in un campo di braccia tese\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/the-woman-stands-in-a-field-of-outstretched-arms.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/the-woman-stands-in-a-field-of-outstretched-arms-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/the-woman-stands-in-a-field-of-outstretched-arms-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/the-woman-stands-in-a-field-of-outstretched-arms-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/the-woman-stands-in-a-field-of-outstretched-arms-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/the-woman-stands-in-a-field-of-outstretched-arms-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/the-woman-stands-in-a-field-of-outstretched-arms-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/the-woman-stands-in-a-field-of-outstretched-arms-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><b>When I fall in love, the man standing beside me won\u2019t have to carry me on his shoulders for the rest of his life.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>We\u2019re going to be partners and lovers. We\u2019ll create an unbreakable union and a partnership. We will help each other.<\/p>\n<p>Love shouldn\u2019t be about only taking care of the other person. Sure, you\u2019ll be there for each other when it\u2019s needed.<\/p>\n<p>Ma l'amore non consiste nel raccogliere la spazzatura dietro a qualcuno. In una relazione nessuno dovrebbe essere solo uno che d\u00e0 o uno che prende.<\/p>\n<p>Dovete essere sia chi d\u00e0 che chi prende. Quando hanno bisogno di voi, dovete esserci e quando voi avete bisogno di loro, loro devono fare lo stesso.<\/p>\n<p><b>I don\u2019t want to lower my partner\u2019s expectations.<\/b> I want him to know that I\u2019m going to work as much as him.<\/p>\n<p>I want him to know that I\u2019m never going to let him support me just because he is used to me not lifting a finger or <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/there-is-nothing-sexier-than-a-man-who-makes-an-effort\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">fare uno sforzo<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>If this relationship is destined to work, we have to give our best\u2014both of us.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-122692 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/a-woman-with-long-brown-hair-with-glasses.jpg\" alt=\"una donna con lunghi capelli castani e occhiali\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/a-woman-with-long-brown-hair-with-glasses.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/a-woman-with-long-brown-hair-with-glasses-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/a-woman-with-long-brown-hair-with-glasses-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/a-woman-with-long-brown-hair-with-glasses-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/a-woman-with-long-brown-hair-with-glasses-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/a-woman-with-long-brown-hair-with-glasses-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/a-woman-with-long-brown-hair-with-glasses-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/a-woman-with-long-brown-hair-with-glasses-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t need to be saved. I\u2019m not looking for a Prince Charming to wake me up from my deep sleep. I don\u2019t need a knight on a white horse to come and rescue me.<\/p>\n<p><b>I need an equal partner. I need a friend. I don\u2019t need or want a man to solve my problems nor do I need a man who will become one.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>I want a man who will support me\u2014and I\u2019m not speaking about <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/un-uomo-dovrebbe-aiutare-finanziariamente-la-sua-ragazza\/\">sostegno finanziario.<\/a> Un uomo che mi incoraggi ad andare avanti quando vorrei arrendermi.<\/p>\n<p>I want a man who will care about my dreams as much as I do. I don\u2019t want someone who\u2019ll bring me down and tell me I can\u2019t do something.<\/p>\n<p><b>Voglio qualcuno che sia orgoglioso di me e di tutto ci\u00f2 che faccio. <\/b><\/p>\n<p>Voglio un compagno di vita. Qualcuno che costruisca con me un futuro felice e non mi ostacoli.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-122685\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/I-Dont-Need-A-Man-To-Solve-My-Problems-I-Need-A-Man-Who-Wont-Become-One-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Non mi serve un uomo che risolva i miei problemi, mi serve un uomo che non lo diventi\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1499\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/I-Dont-Need-A-Man-To-Solve-My-Problems-I-Need-A-Man-Who-Wont-Become-One-pinterest.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/I-Dont-Need-A-Man-To-Solve-My-Problems-I-Need-A-Man-Who-Wont-Become-One-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/I-Dont-Need-A-Man-To-Solve-My-Problems-I-Need-A-Man-Who-Wont-Become-One-pinterest-150x225.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>People seem to think that a woman needs a man to make her life easier. They seem to think that we are incapable of doing things on our own. Social norms teach you that men are the protectors and providers of the families, and women are the caretakers. Well, I\u2019m going to tell you that&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":122684,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-27586","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/I-Dont-Need-A-Man-To-Solve-My-Problems-I-Need-A-Man-Who-Wont-Become-One-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/27586","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=27586"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/27586\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/122684"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=27586"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=27586"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=27586"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}