{"id":27849,"date":"2020-09-15T12:28:46","date_gmt":"2020-09-15T12:28:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=27849"},"modified":"2022-01-09T19:44:16","modified_gmt":"2022-01-09T19:44:16","slug":"il-vostro-amore-non-puo-cambiare-un-uomo-finche-non-decide-di-farlo-lui-stesso","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/il-vostro-amore-non-puo-cambiare-un-uomo-finche-non-decide-di-farlo-lui-stesso\/","title":{"rendered":"Il vostro amore non pu\u00f2 cambiare un uomo finch\u00e9 lui non decide di farlo da solo"},"content":{"rendered":"

Avete mai fatto del vostro meglio per allontanare qualcuno dalle tenebre e portarlo alla luce?<\/p>\n

Have you ever put all of your efforts into melting a guy\u2019s cold heart? To prove to him that it\u2019s time for him to change his ways and that he can do better?<\/p>\n

Have you ever been with a man with whom you knew you weren\u2019t compatible?<\/p>\n

Deep down, you were aware that the two of you had no future together and that this relationship wasn\u2019t going anywhere.<\/p>\n

Forse era un fobico dell'impegno<\/a>. Oppure stava lottando con una dipendenza che stava prendendo il sopravvento sulla sua vita.<\/p>\n

Forse vi ha tradito pi\u00f9 e pi\u00f9 volte. O ha abusato di te.<\/p>\n

Ma invece di scappare il pi\u00f9 velocemente possibile nel momento in cui ha visto tutto questo, l'ha presa come una sfida.<\/p>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Avete visto che aveva un certo potenziale e avete assunto come missione quella di ispirarlo a diventare la migliore versione possibile di se stesso.<\/p>\n

Invece di allontanarsi da questa relazione, ha continuato a tornare da lui, nonostante tutto ci\u00f2 che si frapponeva tra voi.<\/p>\n

Hai continuato a sperare che le cose potessero essere diverse, se ti fossi impegnato abbastanza.<\/b><\/p>\n

And you kept believing that he\u2019d eventually change, even though he never did. <\/b>Have you ever tried healing someone who simply couldn\u2019t be fixed?<\/p>\n

Risparmio someone who didn\u2019t want to be saved<\/a>? Tried to change someone who didn\u2019t think he should change?<\/p>\n

If you have, let me tell you the harsh truth\u2014you\u2019ve been doing all of it in vain because this is mission impossible.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve done nothing but wasted your energy and years of your life on someone who never did and never will appreciate all of your efforts or sacrifices.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

So che speri che quest'uomo inizi a trattarti come meriti nel momento in cui si render\u00e0 conto di quanto tieni a lui.<\/p>\n

That he\u2019ll finally open his heart to you once he sees that you are worthy of his love.<\/p>\n

But he won\u2019t. He\u2019ll always remain the same piece of shit he\u2019s always been and the only thing you can do is save yourself before he destroys you even more.<\/b><\/p>\n

I know you are optimistic and you think that the depth of your love will show this guy the right path but it simply can\u2019t be done.<\/p>\n

You hope that eventually he\u2019ll realize how much harm he has been causing both of you and that he\u2019ll finally become the man you deserve him to be.<\/p>\n

S\u00ec, l'amore \u00e8 potente e pu\u00f2 spostare le montagne.<\/p>\n

But sadly, your love isn\u2019t omnipotent and sometimes, it isn\u2019t enough, as much as you want it to be. <\/b><\/p>\n

It can\u2019t enlighten the one who prefers to remain in the darkness.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

It can\u2019t repair a broken man overnight. It can\u2019t fix his insecurities and it can\u2019t chase away his fears.<\/p>\n

So che pensate di amare quest'uomo al punto da fargli desiderare di cambiare a causa vostra. Ma non \u00e8 cos\u00ec che funzionano le cose.<\/b><\/p>\n

Because he shouldn\u2019t need to have the desire to change for your sake. He should be the one to make that decision and he should do it for himself.<\/p>\n

You are naive if you believe that you\u2019ll succeed in changing the essence of this guy\u2019s personality.<\/p>\n

E sapete perch\u00e9? Perch\u00e9 you can\u2019t change someone until he decides to do it himself<\/a>, per quanto ci si sforzi di farlo.<\/p>\n

You shouldn\u2019t even be trying to do this. After all, he is a grown-ass man and it shouldn\u2019t be your job to teach him life values.<\/p>\n

Non \u00e8 vostra responsabilit\u00e0 occuparvi delle sue stronzate e plasmarlo in una persona migliore.<\/p>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

You are not his mother and you shouldn\u2019t be trying to raise him. You are not his guardian angel and you shouldn\u2019t be the one to lead him through life.<\/b><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014I am not saying you shouldn\u2019t be supportive. I am not telling you not to give him a hand if he shows the desire to improve himself.<\/p>\n

I am not telling you that you shouldn\u2019t believe in him and that you shouldn\u2019t push him forward if he shows initiative to become the man he should be.<\/p>\n

Tenete presente che l'uomo con cui avete a che fare in questo momento non \u00e8 l'uomo di cui avete bisogno, anche se potreste pensare di volerlo al vostro fianco.<\/p>\n

He is obviously not relationship material and he isn\u2019t someone who can be your life partner.<\/p>\n

\u00c8 necessario un <\/b>uomo vero<\/b><\/a> who\u2019ll be mature enough to know what he wants from life. A man who\u2019ll be strong enough to fight his own demons.<\/b><\/p>\n

And this guy obviously isn\u2019t. And that is his problem\u2014not yours.<\/p>\n

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