{"id":28149,"date":"2018-11-21T10:14:17","date_gmt":"2018-11-21T10:14:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=28149"},"modified":"2021-08-11T11:01:19","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T11:01:19","slug":"6-errori-che-i-genitori-iperprotettivi-commettono-involontariamente","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/6-errori-che-i-genitori-iperprotettivi-commettono-involontariamente\/","title":{"rendered":"6 errori che i genitori iperprotettivi commettono involontariamente"},"content":{"rendered":"

I know you want the best for your child and you want to protect them (which is absolutely understandable) but sometimes protection turns into a completely different form of being overly protective, which may greatly influence your child\u2019s development. You cannot be aware of the transition from protection to overprotection because your parental instincts are telling you that you\u2019re still doing the best you can for your child to feel safe and sound.<\/p>\n

And that is when you cross the protection border and start blocking your child\u2019s full potential.<\/p>\n

The thing is, children need protection but they also need freedom. If you\u2019re constantly telling your child what to do or how to behave, or if you\u2019re doing things for them, you are neglecting their needs for expression, dreams, improvement and boldness.<\/p>\n

Un bambino non pu\u00f2 esprimersi se ha un elenco rigido di cose che gli sono permesse. Un bambino non pu\u00f2 sognare se voi interferite con la sua realt\u00e0. Un bambino non pu\u00f2 migliorare e diventare coraggioso se non gli si permette di fallire.<\/p>\n

Un bambino ha bisogno di protezione, ma soprattutto di libert\u00e0.<\/b><\/p>\n

Se mettete un uccello in gabbia, si sentir\u00e0 imprigionato e privato della sua libert\u00e0 di esplorare e volare sulle rotte pi\u00f9 pericolose. Se invece gli si insegna a prendersi cura di s\u00e9 e lo si lascia volare, invece di metterlo in gabbia, l'uccello sar\u00e0 protetto.<\/p>\n

And that is the difference between protection and overprotection. Protection means teaching your child and letting them learn from their mistakes, whereas overprotection means giving specific orders and not letting them fall in order to rise again. If you\u2019re only focused on the things that might hurt your child, you\u2019re creating an unhealthy environment that will greatly affect their development.<\/p>\n

If you only see potential danger but do not see the danger of being precautious, it means you\u2019re unintentionally depriving your child of the harsh reality of the real world.<\/b><\/p>\n

Tenere il bambino in una bolla, lontano da conseguenze, rischi e fallimenti, lo render\u00e0 solo incapace di affrontare i problemi che potrebbe trovarsi ad affrontare in futuro.<\/p>\n

That is why it is important to protect and not to overprotect your child. Overprotection bears enormous consequences and once you interfere with your child\u2019s abilities and wishes, it is hard to redirect them onto the right path.<\/p>\n

6 ERRORI CHE I GENITORI IPERPROTETTIVI COMMETTONO INVOLONTARIAMENTE <\/b><\/p>\n

1. They don\u2019t let their child choose for themselves<\/h2>\n

It doesn\u2019t matter whether it is about choosing a new T-shirt, a hobby or activity because every single decision plays an enormous role in your child\u2019s life. You should not tell they that they have to wear only that T-shirt because it suits them, without asking them whether they want to wear it or not.<\/p>\n

Lo stesso vale per la scelta di sport o strumenti in cui non sono molto bravi e forse non lo saranno mai.<\/p>\n

Even if you are aware of the fact that your child is an anti-talent at something, you don\u2019t need to panic and tell them that they should instead try something else that they are good at. No. Even if they are not that good at something, they will realize it themselves over time. The most important thing is to let them realize it the hard way instead of not letting them to even try, which overprotective parents forget doing most of the time.<\/p>\n

2. Fanno di tutto per il loro bambino<\/h2>\n

When you\u2019re overprotective, you have that constant urge to do things for your child, like making their bed, tidying up their room, even doing their homework. I know you want the best for your child and I know you\u2019ll do it ten times faster and better than your child but please don\u2019t do it.<\/p>\n

I bambini hanno bisogno di essere responsabilizzati per poter funzionare correttamente e diventare adulti coscienziosi.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re constantly doing their tasks, you\u2019re deliberately not giving them space for improvement and you\u2019re not letting them acquire a sense of obligation or responsibility. Instead, you should let your child do their own tasks and if they are not good enough at it, you can help them by showing them how to do it more efficiently and encourage them to try doing it again. That way your child will learn that it takes time and effort for something to be achieved.<\/p>\n

3. They are in constant fear of their child\u2019s failure<\/h2>\n

If you\u2019re in constant fear that your child is not going to achieve something or that they will be disappointed if they don\u2019t achieve something they really want, you\u2019re sabotaging their potential success. There\u2019s a beautiful saying: If you never try, you\u2019ll never know.<\/em> And it\u2019s true\u2014if you never try achieving something, you\u2019ll never know the true size of your potential.<\/p>\n

Being in constant fear forces you to do things you normally wouldn\u2019t do and that is when you cross the border and start being overprotective. It is normal to be worried about your child\u2019s success but it is not normal to prevent them from doing something only because you are afraid that they will fail.<\/p>\n

Also, it is normal to be worried about your child\u2019s health, whereabouts and happiness but it is not normal to do everything in your power to prevent them from catching a cold or failing an exam in school. Prevention includes measures and restrictions and if you overdo it, you will find yourself in the realm of being overly protective.<\/p>\n

4. They pick their child\u2019s friends<\/h2>\n

A child\u2019s friends is one of the most important aspects of a child\u2019s development. I understand the pressure you\u2019re going through when your child wants to be friends with someone you don\u2019t like. And then to prevent this, you decide to choose with whom your child is going to hang out because, once again, you want the best for your child.<\/p>\n

You want the best teachers, friends, grades and so on. But what does your child want? Do they want to hang out with the friends you\u2019ve chosen for them? Are they enjoying time spent with them?<\/p>\n

You have to offer your child choices. If they want to hang out with someone who accidentally happens to have bad grades at school, this doesn\u2019t mean that your child is going to follow in their footsteps.<\/p>\n

On the contrary, your child needs to be exposed to different types of personalities (not only the types you\u2019ve approved) because life is all about diversity. They will never be able to fully grow up if you are not letting them surround themselves with different personalities and not only those who will inspire them. You should let them learn from other people\u2019s behavior instead of teaching them to judge others because acceptance is what makes us human.<\/p>\n

5. They demand constant reassurance about their child\u2019s whereabouts<\/h2>\n

I know the world is not the safest place to be but this is not a reason to demand constant reassurance about your child\u2019s whereabouts. It is okay to demand of them to tell you when they are going to visit friends or going to the movies or similar. And it is okay to tell them that they have to come home before twelve. But it is not okay to call them every twenty minutes in order to check whether everything\u2019s okay with them.<\/p>\n

It is not okay because you\u2019ve already told them when they have to come home and if they are in danger or need something from you, I\u2019m sure they would have called you. It is really stressful to go through such situations when your child is supposed to be having a good time with their friends.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re constantly calling or texting them, you\u2019re not giving them any space and time for themselves.<\/p>\n

It is of crucial importance to be able to trust your child. When you\u2019re doing everything for your child and not letting them participate, it is expected that you\u2019ll be excessively worried when the child leaves the house. You have to teach them responsibility and you have to teach yourself to trust them.<\/p>\n

6. They don\u2019t let their child digest their own emotions<\/h2>\n

We all know that when we were babies, our parents would jump and run to us if they only heard us crying. Once you\u2019re there, you take the baby in your arms and start comforting them. And that is perfectly okay because crying is a baby\u2019s way of talking to you and you can never know what the cry is about.<\/p>\n

Ma se continuate a consolare eccessivamente il vostro bambino (indipendentemente dalla sua et\u00e0), non gli permettete di maturare emotivamente. Non c'\u00e8 bisogno di consolare eccessivamente il bambino per le cose pi\u00f9 banali, perch\u00e9 in questo modo rimarr\u00e0 debole. Non sapranno gestire le proprie emozioni e i propri desideri, il che potrebbe avere grosse conseguenze sull'et\u00e0 adulta.<\/p>\n

Quando succede qualcosa di brutto, \u00e8 giusto ascoltare vostro figlio, ma cercate di evitare di identificarlo come un piccolo burattino debole che ha bisogno del vostro conforto. Potete confortarlo un po', ma dovete sempre lasciargli lo spazio per digerire i propri sentimenti e le proprie emozioni.<\/p>\n

Hanno bisogno di capire perch\u00e9 si sentono come si sentono in quel momento e come controllare i loro sentimenti, perch\u00e9 questo \u00e8 ci\u00f2 che li aiuter\u00e0 a diventare emotivamente maturi.<\/p>\n

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