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<\/p>\nLiving with a narcissist is painful and exhausting. It\u2019s a situation in which you\u2019ve entangled yourself, and no matter how bad you want out, it\u2019s not that easy to just leave.<\/p>\n
But after you\u2019ve hit rock bottom, after you were robbed of your self-esteem and self-love, you realize you have nothing else to lose. He has taken everything from you.<\/p>\n
Cos\u00ec decidete di andarvene. Decidete di riprendere in mano la vostra vita e di farne ci\u00f2 che volete. Buon per voi!<\/p>\n
But the battle doesn\u2019t end there, not for you. <\/i><\/p>\n
This is an exciting time for you. You\u2019ve made a big decision.<\/p>\n
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You\u2019ve made the right decision. But the road ahead of you is full of bumps. You have to be ready to take them.<\/p>\n
Dovete essere preparati mentalmente ed emotivamente al processo di guarigione che sta per avvenire.<\/p>\n
Breakups are awful, but breaking up with a narcissist is especially hard. You\u2019re going to have mixed feelings, and your mood will change rapidly.<\/p>\n
In order to face the changes that are going to happen, it\u2019s better if you know what to expect and what is waiting for you.<\/p>\n
Here are some of the things you\u2019re going to experience after breaking up with a narcissist.<\/p>\n
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Breaking up with a narcissist doesn\u2019t have a happy end. Either he is going to discard you or you\u2019re going to leave him, but he will keep coming back, using all kinds of tattica dell'aspirapolvere <\/a> per riavervi indietro.<\/p>\n Either way, it\u2019s not going to be pretty.<\/p>\n You\u2019re not going to be okay. Breakups are bad, especially this one.<\/p>\n You know you won\u2019t get any closure ever, and you get nervous because you know he won\u2019t leave you alone.<\/p>\n You know he will disturb you in some way\u2014it doesn\u2019t even have to include contact.<\/p>\n Questo vi fa impazzire e vi costringe a vivere in ansia, con la paura di quello che succeder\u00e0 dopo.<\/p>\n Cosa fare?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Make sure that it\u2019s really over. Try to go no contact with him.<\/p>\n If it doesn\u2019t work, just be as unappealing as you possibly can. Even if he is bothering you, once he realizes that you\u2019re no longer interested, he\u2019ll leave you alone.<\/p>\n Una volta sistemate le cose al loro posto, anche l'ansia si attenuer\u00e0. Basta dare un po' di tempo.<\/p>\n Vedi anche: Come far sentire la propria mancanza a un narcisista: 9 modi segreti<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n You won\u2019t let go that easily. There are a million questions you want to know the answer to.<\/p>\n Vuoi sapere se ti ha mai amato davvero? Gli importava di te anche solo un po'? Come ha potuto farti questo? Come ha potuto dimenticarsi di te cos\u00ec in fretta?<\/p>\n The ghost of your diciest relationship will haunt you because you didn\u2019t get closure and you never will.<\/p>\n You will hang on to the bits of the relationship you have left because you aren\u2019t still at ease with what happened.<\/p>\n Cosa fare?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n You\u2019ll try to find answers to the questions that are bothering you, but eventually, you\u2019ll let go because you\u2019ll never understand what happened.<\/p>\n You are not a psycho like he is. You can\u2019t understand how his mind works and why he did what he did.<\/p>\n To be able to accept what has happened to you, you\u2019ll try to rationalize his behavior.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll try to find excuses for the name-calling, for the giochi mentali <\/a> and the abuse you\u2019ve experienced while you were with him.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll try to give yourself a good enough reason why you stayed with him, and that\u2019s why you\u2019re going to make excuses for his behavior\u2014to make that experience a less painful one.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll come to the point when you start missing him, so you\u2019ll start doing the same thing all over again.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll defend him and think that maybe he wasn\u2019t so bad after all. Don\u2019t fall for this. It\u2019s just your reason, trying to make it hurt a bit less.<\/p>\n Cosa fare? <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Don\u2019t fall for the tricks your mind plays on you. The truth is, you don\u2019t miss him; you never did.<\/p>\n Siete stati catturati dal suo incantesimo per cos\u00ec tanto tempo che vi siete abituati all'ambiente tossico circostante. Pensavate che fosse un ambiente normale in cui vivere.<\/p>\n That\u2019s why you crave it. Ignore those feelings, and just remember all the horrible things he has done to you. If you take him back, he will do it again.<\/p>\n When you are with a narcissist, you\u2019re used to all the drama happening around you.<\/p>\n C'\u00e8 sempre qualcosa in ballo e ora che siete finalmente in pace, vi manca qualcosa.<\/p>\n It\u2019s a cruel thing to say, but actually, you miss your narcissist. You don\u2019t miss him for the love or the way he treated you.<\/p>\n You miss him because now that he\u2019s gone, there is no more craziness around you.<\/p>\n It\u2019s all too quiet, and after dating a narcissist this may come as a surprise: You\u2019re not used to having things in order.<\/p>\n Cosa fare?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Trovare qualcosa da fare. Trovate un hobby. Trovate la passione che manca nella vostra vita.<\/p>\n Start doing anything that makes you happy, even if it\u2019s the most trivial thing. It\u2019s one step further to actually being happy.<\/p>\n What happened to you is not that common. It\u2019s not like a regular breakup.<\/p>\n A lot of people who have just gone through a regular breakup can relate to each other, but there aren\u2019t a lot of people who\u2019ve escaped narcissistic claws, so you don\u2019t have a lot of people to relate to.<\/p>\n That makes you lonely like you\u2019re the only one out there. That makes you ask questions such as: Why me? But, you\u2019re not alone.<\/p>\n There are so many people around you who\u2019ve been through the same as you and are quiet, the same as you.<\/p>\n Cosa fare?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Join support groups, and talk about your problem. Don\u2019t keep things to yourself because you\u2019ll crack open.<\/p>\n You can\u2019t keep those emotions inside and deal with them alone.<\/p>\n Parlate con i vostri amici, con i gruppi di sostegno, magari con un terapeuta. Qualunque cosa sia, scegliete qualcosa perch\u00e9 in questo momento avete bisogno di sostegno.<\/p>\n You were gaslighted in your relationship with a narcissist. You were told you\u2019re crazy; you\u2019re making things up.<\/p>\n Vi \u00e8 stato detto che reagite in modo eccessivo e che siete la causa di tutti i problemi, persino il motivo principale per cui la relazione \u00e8 andata in pezzi.<\/p>\n Cos\u00ec, quando ci si trova in momenti di solitudine, ci si mette a pensare. Si diventa dubbiosi su se stessi. Iniziate a pensare che forse il vostro narcisista aveva ragione.<\/p>\n Maybe you really overreacted to some things. Maybe you should have been more understanding. Maybe it\u2019s your fault you broke up.<\/p>\n Cosa fare?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Can\u2019t you see? He is still manipulating you in your mind even though you broke up. This is just the result of all the abuse and mind games you\u2019ve been through.<\/p>\n La mentalit\u00e0 che lui ha piantato in voi \u00e8 ancora in grado di farvi uscire di tanto in tanto, e vi alimenta i pensieri ridicoli che vi girano per la testa.<\/p>\n Ora che finalmente e chiaramente vedete che persona terribile era, ora che vedete tutte le cose orribili che vi ha fatto, vi vergognate di non esservi allontanati prima.<\/p>\n You feel like a fool because you didn\u2019t leave a long time ago, but no one who was in your situation left right away.<\/p>\n Tutti pensiamo di poter aiutare qualcuno, di poterlo cambiare perch\u00e9, nel profondo del nostro cuore, crediamo che ci sia del buono in tutti.<\/p>\n Purtroppo, questo non \u00e8 il caso delle persone che hanno un disturbo della personalit\u00e0. Non possono essere guarite.<\/p>\n They cannot be convinced to do anything different than what they\u2019ve imagined.<\/p>\n Cosa fare?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Just let go. It\u2019s not your fault. His manipulations were designed to completely obliviate you.<\/p>\n Il suo obiettivo era far rimanere la sua vittima il pi\u00f9 a lungo possibile con l'impressione che le cose sarebbero migliorate.<\/p>\n Dopo qualche tempo, la tristezza e la sofferenza iniziano a svanire e tutto si trasforma in risentimento e odio. Si incanala il dolore nell'odio.<\/p>\n You couldn\u2019t do this while you were in a relationship, so you\u2019re doing it now when you\u2019re finally free to think by yourself and act the way you feel.<\/p>\n Cosa fare?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Be angry. Let it all out because you will feel better. After some time, you\u2019ll realize that hatred is not going to get you anywhere, and you\u2019ll calm down.<\/p>\n Fate solo attenzione a non cercare la vendetta.<\/p>\n Dovete sapere che non c'\u00e8 modo di sconfiggere un narcisista<\/a>. L'unico modo per ferire un uomo narcisista<\/a> \u00e8 tagliare i suoi rifornimenti.<\/p>\n Ignoratelo completamente e rendetevi irreperibili.<\/p>\n Just don\u2019t do something stupid in the attempt to hurt him because he will use it against you, and you\u2019ll end up being the hurt one.<\/p>\n Living with a narcissist is painful and exhausting. It\u2019s a situation in which you\u2019ve entangled yourself, and no matter how bad you want out, it\u2019s not that easy to just leave. But after you\u2019ve hit rock bottom, after you were robbed of your self-esteem and self-love, you realize you have nothing else to lose. 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<\/p>\nYou\u2019re defending him<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nYou don\u2019t feel the excitement<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nSei solo<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nSiete dubbiosi<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nVi vergognate<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nYou\u2019re angry<\/h2>\n
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