{"id":29166,"date":"2020-11-30T11:32:44","date_gmt":"2020-11-30T11:32:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=29166"},"modified":"2022-01-24T15:50:44","modified_gmt":"2022-01-24T15:50:44","slug":"avresti-potuto-lasciarmi-invece-di-tradirmi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/avresti-potuto-lasciarmi-invece-di-tradirmi\/","title":{"rendered":"Potevi lasciarmi invece di tradirmi"},"content":{"rendered":"

You didn\u2019t have to make a fool out of me. You didn\u2019t have to lie to me. You could have been honest from the start. After all, if you respected me even one bit, you would tell me it\u2019s over right away.<\/p>\n

Il cuore spezzato farebbe molto meno male del tuo tradimento. Certo, sarei arrabbiata con te, probabilmente mi risentirei per avermi lasciata, ma tutto questo passerebbe col tempo. Probabilmente ti seppellirei nel mio passato e ti ricorderei come un uomo che frequentavo.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t remember you like that now. I remember you as the man who broke my heart. A man who cheated on me.<\/b><\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t want to live in suspicion. I knew that every time you turned your phone upside down, or you took it with you to the bathroom, I knew back then that something was going on.<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t want to confirm my fears. I guess that was the mistake I made. Perhaps I wasn\u2019t ready to deal with the fact I\u2019ve been cheated on<\/a>. I didn\u2019t want to take up the role of a sucker in a relationship, a fool that has been played.<\/p>\n

So I pretended it\u2019s nothing. I didn\u2019t want to know who you\u2019re texting. I didn\u2019t want to know why you\u2019re not coming back home from work. I believed your every work emergency because I chose to believe it. Again, it was easier than imagining you with another woman.<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t want to pile more problems into my life. I didn\u2019t want cheating to be one of them. I had too many already.<\/p>\n

I wish you broke up with me right away. I would be devastated. I would be hurt, that\u2019s true,but it\u2019s so much easier to get it over with than living the rest of your life knowing that you\u2019ve gone behind my back and spent time with another woman when you\u2019re supposed to be with me.<\/p>\n

I could have survived the fact that you\u2019ve found another life with her, maybe a happier one, I don\u2019t know. I would have forgotten images with you and her after some time. Memories really fade, and it hurts less in time. But, being lied to and making me look like a fool is something I can\u2019t forget.<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t sign to be a piano di backup<\/span><\/a>. I didn\u2019t want to be your other woman. When I fell in love with you, I decided to give my whole heart to you. I decided it\u2019s going to be forever. I felt that way.
\n<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

But you didn\u2019t make me a priority. You made me the other woman. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

I should have been the only one and we would have been so happy. I\u2019m just scared that one day you\u2019ll going to look back and you\u2019ll really read these words I\u2019m writing and you\u2019ll understand them.<\/p>\n

That day, you\u2019re going to be sorry. Maybe you\u2019ll even try to come back to me. But, I won\u2019t let you back into my heart. You are to be remembered as a man who cheated on me. That\u2019s your stamp from now on.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t get to be with two women at once. You don\u2019t get to be with me during the week and with her on the weekends. You don\u2019t get to cuddle with both of us. You don\u2019t get to be kissed by two different people. You have to choose.<\/p>\n

When I only think about what you thought of choosing her over me, it gets me nauseous. It would have been so much better if you just told me to go. If you texted me that we\u2019re over it would hurt less than the idea of you even thinking about choosing someone else over me.<\/p>\n

I want to be with someone who is sure about me. I want to be with the love of my life who would never even think about replacing me. I want to be someone\u2019s first choice, someone\u2019s priority.<\/p>\n

Whether you cheated on me or left me, I would have been hurt either way. Leaving me hurts a bit less. You could have given me that. You could have pretended you care and let me go because we weren\u2019t meant for each other.<\/p>\n

Hai imbrogliato.<\/p>\n

Maria Parker \u00e8 anche l'autrice del libro Her Way \u201cOn Getting Over A Narcissist\u201d<\/a><\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

\"Potevi<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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