{"id":29370,"date":"2020-09-14T14:26:01","date_gmt":"2020-09-14T14:26:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=29370"},"modified":"2021-12-20T18:12:34","modified_gmt":"2021-12-20T18:12:34","slug":"se-devi-piegarti-allindietro-per-stare-con-lui-non-e-luomo-giusto","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/se-devi-piegarti-allindietro-per-stare-con-lui-non-e-luomo-giusto\/","title":{"rendered":"Se dovete piegarvi all'indietro per stare con lui, non \u00e8 quello giusto"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u00c8 cos\u00ec difficile essere sempre quello che si impegna al massimo mentre l'altra parte non fa assolutamente nulla.<\/p>\n

You bend over backward for someone, you do the impossible to make things between the two of you work even though you know deep down it\u2019s pointless but you can\u2019t seem to help yourself.<\/p>\n

Ci tenete cos\u00ec tanto a loro che continuate a provarci nella speranza che vi vengano incontro. Purtroppo, non lo fanno quasi mai.<\/p>\n

Your emotions shouldn\u2019t exhaust you. <\/b><\/p>\n

Sure, relationships demand investments but they have to go from both sides. They re about give and take and you can\u2019t just keep on giving without getting anything in return.<\/p>\n

Esaurirete ogni atomo della vostra forza. Vi mancher\u00e0 il calore. Vi mancher\u00e0 avere qualcuno su cui appoggiarvi. Vi mancher\u00e0 tutto ci\u00f2 che continuate a dare in modo cos\u00ec disinteressato.<\/p>\n

Vi mancherete perch\u00e9, prima che ve ne accorgiate, sarete emotivamente svuotato <\/a> senza pi\u00f9 nulla da dare, n\u00e9 a se stessi n\u00e9 agli altri.<\/p>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

You shouldn\u2019t take the role of a martyr in your relationship. True love doesn\u2019t need sacrifices to that extent.<\/p>\n

Avete dato cos\u00ec tanto a lui che non avete pi\u00f9 nulla da dare a voi stessi. <\/b><\/p>\n

He shouldn\u2019t behave like he is entitled to your heart. He shouldn\u2019t expect your call or text when he hasn\u2019t reached out for hours or even days. He shouldn\u2019t rely on you to make plans and go above and beyond so you guys could meet.<\/p>\n

He shouldn\u2019t take for granted the fact that you are always there for him when he needs you. He shouldn\u2019t come and go from your life and assume that you can flip the switch on your heart.<\/p>\n

You might be used to all of that but that\u2019s not how things should work. <\/b><\/p>\n

You will probably come to a point where everything starts to feel normal even though it\u2019s far from it. You are just used to things being bad that you have made peace with it.<\/p>\n

This is your wake up call. It\u2019s time to stop fighting for someone who isn\u2019t right for you. It\u2019s time to stop being a doormat he walks on.<\/p>\n

Dovete essere la luce del suo mondo e non qualcosa che lui pu\u00f2 calpestare.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"il<\/p>\n

Dovete diventare consapevoli di meritare di meglio. Meritate l'amore che continuate a dare. Meritate qualcuno su cui poter contare.<\/p>\n

Someone you can call or wake up in the middle of the night because you just had a nightmare you can\u2019t snap out of. Someone who makes you laugh and enjoys your smiling face.<\/p>\n

Qualcuno che ti rispetta. Qualcuno che fa tutte quelle piccole grandi cose come mandare regolarmente messaggi (invece di ignorare i vostri messaggi<\/a>) e pianificare le date in anticipo. Qualcuno che sia coinvolto e investito nella relazione tanto quanto voi.<\/p>\n

Everything else is too little. Everything else is just crumbs. Everything else is forcing a relationship that isn\u2019t meant to be.<\/p>\n

The bad shouldn\u2019t outweigh the good. <\/b><\/p>\n

Your emotions shouldn\u2019t jump up and down from happiness to sadness based on his mood of that day. Sure everyone has their bad days but that doesn\u2019t mean you can take it off out another person or treat her like crap.<\/p>\n

L'amore \u00e8 gentile e non dovrebbe mai ferirvi. Non dovrebbe mai farvi sentire piccoli e non apprezzati. Non dovrebbe mai farvi sentirsi soli <\/a> .<\/p>\n

True love doesn\u2019t tolerate onesidedness.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

It needs balance. It needs equal investments. It needs to flow from one person to the other. It needs reciprocity. Without it, it can\u2019t survive.<\/p>\n

You know that well. Just peak into your heart and see that it isn\u2019t full anymore. It lacks affection and attention and, more importantly, it lacks self-love.<\/p>\n

If he truly was the one you wouldn\u2019t have to bend over backward to be with him. <\/b><\/p>\n

You shouldn\u2019t have to work so hard to keep him in your life. You shouldn\u2019t go to all the lengths to make him treat you properly. You shouldn\u2019t read his mixed signals and be the one who always tries and gives more.<\/p>\n

He should be there, too. He should give back all that he is taking. He should be there through thick or thin. He should be in this relationship with you. And that’s the only truth.<\/p>\n

In fin dei conti, l'amore \u00e8 fatto per due. Due persone che si amano profondamente e che farebbero di tutto per stare insieme.<\/p>\n

\"Se<\/p>\n

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It\u2019s so hard to always be the one who\u2019s putting in all the effort while the other side does absolutely nothing. You bend over backward for someone, you do the impossible to make things between the two of you work even though you know deep down it\u2019s pointless but you can\u2019t seem to help yourself….<\/p>","protected":false},"author":42,"featured_media":117449,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29648],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-29370","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating-tips"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29648,"label":"dating tips"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/If-You-Have-To-Bend-Over-Backward-To-Be-With-Him-Hes-Not-The-One-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Selma June","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/selmajune\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29648,"name":"dating tips","slug":"dating-tips","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29648,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn to date like a pro and avoid making some of the biggest mistakes in texting, flirting, winning a man's heart, and commitment. ","parent":29643,"count":442,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29648,"category_count":442,"category_description":"Learn to date like a pro and avoid making some of the biggest mistakes in texting, flirting, winning a man's heart, and commitment. ","cat_name":"dating tips","category_nicename":"dating-tips","category_parent":29643}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/29370","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/42"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=29370"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/29370\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/117449"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=29370"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=29370"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=29370"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}