{"id":29691,"date":"2018-12-10T08:59:02","date_gmt":"2018-12-10T08:59:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=29691"},"modified":"2021-08-11T10:09:59","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T10:09:59","slug":"10-consigli-su-come-smettere-di-essere-gelosi-nelle-relazioni-di-coppia","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/10-consigli-su-come-smettere-di-essere-gelosi-nelle-relazioni-di-coppia\/","title":{"rendered":"10 consigli su come smettere di essere gelosi nelle relazioni di coppia"},"content":{"rendered":"

Jealousy is a real pain in the ass when it comes to relationships. There\u2019s not a single person who hasn\u2019t felt jealous about their partner in one way or another, and the question is: Why is it so?<\/p>\n

Perch\u00e9 ci sentiamo gelosi anche quando ci fidiamo ciecamente del nostro partner? Perch\u00e9 abbiamo quella sensazione di bruciore quando vediamo che il nostro partner si diverte a conversare con un'altra donna o un altro uomo?<\/p>\n

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I motivi della gelosia sono diversi e, che ci crediate o no, partono tutti da voi stessi. Dovete capire che siete voi i promotori della vostra gelosia e che, nella maggior parte dei casi, non ha nulla a che fare con il vostro partner.<\/p>\n

Essere gelosi di qualcosa significa avere paura di qualcosa.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

I know it\u2019s difficult to understand, but when you\u2019re being jealous of your partner, you\u2019re actually experiencing fear. And in most cases, it is a fear of being abandoned. It is a fear that your partner is going to find someone better, prettier, smarter or sexier than you.<\/p>\n

And what does this tell you about yourself? It is a sure indicator that the reason for jealousy is a lack of self-confidence. But, this shouldn\u2019t be so because you are an amazing woman\/man, and you don\u2019t deserve to leave in fear of being abandoned.<\/p>\n

Una volta capito questo, \u00e8 di fondamentale importanza iniziare a lavorare su se stessi. Dovete ricordare qual \u00e8 stato il fattore scatenante che vi ha fatto sentire cos\u00ec.<\/p>\n

Non dovete mai tenervelo dentro perch\u00e9 non \u00e8 salutare per la vostra salute mentale e fisica. Sopprimere qualcosa significa ritardare una bomba atomica.<\/p>\n

At first, it will not seem like a problem, but eventually, it will explode, and this might irreversibly ruin your relationship. Never suppress anything because that\u2019s the worst thing you could ever do for yourself and your partner.<\/p>\n

Cercate invece di capire il vostro problema e di ottenere la comprensione del vostro partner. In questo modo vi sentirete molto pi\u00f9 a vostro agio nella situazione e potrete preservare una relazione sana.<\/p>\n

Tenete sempre presente l'effetto che la vostra gelosia avr\u00e0 sul vostro partner e su di voi e se ne vale la pena. Siate perseveranti e seguite i consigli che seguono, che vi aiuteranno a liberarvi di questa fastidiosa sensazione di gelosia nelle vostre relazioni.<\/p>\n

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COME SMETTERE DI ESSERE GELOSI NELLE RELAZIONI DI COPPIA<\/h2>\n

1. Pensare al motivo della propria gelosia<\/h2>\n

The first thing that you need to do is to think about the reason of your jealousy. Have they done something to you before so that you simply don\u2019t trust them anymore? Have you always had problems with jealousy? If yes, think about the things that you\u2019ve been jealous of.<\/p>\n

Think of every single situation in which you\u2019ve been jealous, and you will have a clear insight into your situation. When it comes to jealousy, the most important thing is to understand what is going on in your head. If you\u2019re not in touch with yourself, you will never be able to get rid of it.<\/p>\n

And that is why it is never a good choice to yell at your partner when you haven\u2019t contemplated it beforehand. If you yell, you will only make things worse, and your partner will be confused.<\/p>\n

And you\u2019ll get even madder when you realize that your jealousy is not valid. Breathe out, breathe in, and take some time to think about it.<\/p>\n

2. Pensare alle proprie paure<\/h2>\n

Next step is to think about your biggest fears. When you\u2019re jealous, what is going through your head? Do you start thinking that you\u2019re not good enough, and your partner will leave you when they find someone better?<\/p>\n

Do you fear that your partner is not in love with you anymore because he\u2019s been acting weird lately? Do you have a fear that your partner will eventually cheat on you?<\/p>\n

Now ask yourself whether your fear is valid. Has your partner told you that you\u2019re not good enough or that they will find someone better than you? Have his actions proved to you that he\u2019s about to cheat on you?<\/p>\n

In caso contrario, la vostra paura non \u00e8 valida.<\/p>\n

You need to understand that it\u2019s all in your head. And your suspicion is a part of your imagination that gets evoked when fear kicks in. The fear you feel is the fear of yourself.<\/p>\n

You fear that you\u2019re not good enough and that there are other more attractive people who could easily replace you. Understand that fear, kill that fear and you\u2019ll be halfway to your freedom of jealousy.<\/p>\n

3. Essere fiduciosi in se stessi<\/h2>\n

Per liberarsi dalla paura, \u00e8 necessario riacquistare la fiducia in se stessi<\/a> that you\u2019ve lost somehow. Write down all of the positive things about yourself on a piece of paper, and read it ten times if needed. Understand that your partner wouldn\u2019t be with you if he wasn\u2019t interested in you in the first place.<\/p>\n

Never think of yourself as a second choice because if you do, you will be treated as one. You are enough, and you matter. Be happy about all of those great achievements you have in your life, and be joyful for your friends and family. Embrace the positivity that you\u2019re experiencing with your partner instead of focusing on new reasons for jealousy.<\/p>\n

Being confident means enjoying life, and being sure in the things you choose and the things you have. It means you\u2019re not afraid of anything because you know your worth.<\/p>\n

You know what you bring to the table, and you\u2019re not afraid to eat alone. And if they don\u2019t appreciate you, make sure to get rid of them, and save yourself from unnecessary trouble.<\/p>\n

4. Non utilizzare i social media<\/h2>\n

Social media is the number one problem when it comes to jealousy. For some reason, the first thing that comes to your mind when you\u2019re jealous is to check your partner\u2019s account. You search for clues only to validate your jealousy.<\/p>\n

And when you find nothing, you simply don\u2019t stop there. You keep searching somewhere else until you find something, even if it is trivial. Just don\u2019t do this. When you feel like the feeling of jealousy is overwhelming you, don\u2019t even think about social media.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t check on him. Don\u2019t ask your partner\u2019s friends about him and don\u2019t stalk that random girl or man, seeing them as a potential threat to your relationship. The only one who is a potential threat here is unfortunately you.<\/p>\n

I recently read about the woman who smashed her now ex boyfriend\u2019s laptop because he was chatting with a female she wasn\u2019t familiar with. And it turned out that the female was his cousin. Imagine the seriousness of consequences jealousy can cause.<\/p>\n

Se non \u00e8 valida, pu\u00f2 distruggere l'intera relazione e il rispetto per se stessi, perch\u00e9 una volta che ci si rende conto della vera ragione di qualcosa, si pu\u00f2 rimanere scioccati. Non tutto \u00e8 come lo vedete.<\/p>\n

Ricordate che la gelosia \u00e8 un'illusione che vi porta a chiedervi e a mettere in discussione tutto senza un motivo apparente. E ricordate di stare lontani dai social media.<\/p>\n

5. Concentrarsi sugli aspetti positivi della relazione<\/h2>\n

Instead of focusing on your worst fears and \u2018what ifs\u2019, focus on the positive things that your relationship is giving you. Remember that you have an amazing partner who loves you and would do anything for you.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let your own insecurities change that picture about them. Your relationship should be your greatest shelter from all of the troubles and negativities of the outer world. And you should never take it for granted and destroy all the good you have for some imagined reasons.<\/p>\n

If you find it hard to focus on the positive things, simply distract yourself. Do the dishes. Go for a walk. Talk about it with someone, and you\u2019ll feel much better than if you were just sitting and waiting for the feeling to pass.<\/p>\n

Always distract yourself when you sense that the feeling of jealousy is imprisoning you. Don\u2019t let it penetrate your mind because you\u2019re stronger than that. If it helps, write down some good qualities about your partner, and remind yourself of them when necessary.<\/p>\n

6. Don\u2019t put them on a leash<\/h2>\n

Never take away your partner\u2019s freedom because of jealousy. That is the sure recipe for disaster. Don\u2019t put them on a leash, expecting that they will dance as you play. Once you take away their freedom, the game is over.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re constantly checking on their whereabouts, asking them when they will be home, calling multiple times to make sure that they didn\u2019t lie to you, you will destroy every single bit of trust in your relationship. Your relationship will become a destructive building that is about to collapse any moment.<\/p>\n

By controlling them, you\u2019re controlling your fears. You\u2019re not checking on him repeatedly because you\u2019re worried about his intentions. You\u2019re doing it because you\u2019re worried about yourself. And you need to control yourself in order to control the situation.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t ever let yourself go to the extent of destroying your partner\u2019s freedom because it is a necessary part of every relationship. We all need some time for ourselves, and if you\u2019re going to be persistent in not letting them enjoy life, they will feel imprisoned and will try to find a way out of the labyrinth they\u2019re in.<\/p>\n

7. Parlarne con loro<\/h2>\n

When the feeling of jealousy overwhelms you, consider talking to your partner about it. Some people refuse to do this out of fear that they\u2019ll hear something they don\u2019t want to hear. And that is another form of fear that needs to be overcome.<\/p>\n

Be honest with your partner, and tell him or her what worries you. Ask them what their opinion on all of this is. And when you do that, pay attention to how they say it and what they say. If you see that s\/he\u2019s being honest, you should discard your jealousy treatment immediately because there\u2019s simply no point.<\/p>\n

But, if you think that your partner is hiding something from you, you have every right to yell at him if needed and demand that he tell you everything. You see, jealousy makes it easy for you to get mistaken and attack your partner for something they didn\u2019t do because you\u2019re driven by a powerful force and not by your reason. So, think about what your partner says, and if you feel it\u2019s true, believe it.<\/p>\n

8. Tenere un diario<\/h2>\n

Consider keeping a journal and writing down everything that comes to your mind when you feel helpless. Journaling is a great way of understanding the things you\u2019re going through because you\u2019ll have great insight on the things that bother you.<\/p>\n

And once you write it down, you will be able to judge the validity of your own thoughts. Write your thoughts when you\u2019re mad and then read them again when you feel good. You will realize that it was all in your head and that you were imagining things.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re not the writing type, record your thoughts on your phone. Listen again when you\u2019ve calmed down. Sounds a little extreme, right?<\/p>\n

You can also talk to your friends or family. I\u2019m sure they will be eager to help you. Two heads are always better than one (at least that\u2019s what they say). The other person will be the thing you lack in these situations and that is \u2013 reason.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s hard to be reasonable when you\u2019re feeling like your world is collapsing before your eyes, and there is nothing wrong in asking others for help by listening to you. It\u2019s one of the best ways of coping with jealousy.<\/p>\n

9. Lasciare andare il passato<\/h2>\n

If your partner has cheated on you in the past and now you feel like you can\u2019t trust them anymore, you should think about it in detail. Has your partner show remorse after that and told you that s\/he will never do anything like it again?<\/p>\n

If s\/he did, the chances are he\u2019s truly sorry for his behavior, and you shouldn\u2019t be worry about them cheating on you. You need to let go of the past if you want to enjoy the present. We all make mistakes because we\u2019re only humans after all.<\/p>\n

And if your partner admits and realizes their mistake, you should know that they mean it. Let go of the past if you want to let go of jealousy. It\u2019s as simple as that.<\/p>\n

10. Credere di meritare di essere amati<\/h2>\n

Ricordate sempre a voi stessi che meritate di essere amati. Se ci credete, vi comporterete di conseguenza. Se vi sentite a vostro agio nella vostra pelle e trasudate sicurezza, la gelosia non avr\u00e0 alcuna possibilit\u00e0 di distruggere questo equilibrio.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ll repeat it again: It\u2019s all in your mind, and if you believe it, your mind will believe it, too. If you believe that you are worthy of love and all the good things your relationship has to offer you, it will be so.<\/p>\n

You deserve to be loved just as you deserve the air you\u2019re breathing. You should never think differently or let anyone tell you differently. Love yourself. Show the world that you\u2019re not afraid of quirks and flaws and that your insecurities don\u2019t determine who you are.<\/p>\n

It is totally normal to feel insecure sometimes because this reminds us of being human. It reminds us that we\u2019re allowed to be imperfect, and that\u2019s the beauty of the world we live in.<\/p>\n

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