{"id":29752,"date":"2018-12-11T10:41:38","date_gmt":"2018-12-11T10:41:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=29752"},"modified":"2022-09-06T11:15:10","modified_gmt":"2022-09-06T11:15:10","slug":"6-modi-a-prova-di-bomba-per-affrontare-il-ghosting","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/6-modi-a-prova-di-bomba-per-affrontare-il-ghosting\/","title":{"rendered":"6 modi a prova di bomba per affrontare il ghosting"},"content":{"rendered":"

You know how the story goes – you meet a guy, he\u2019s wonderful. You think that you\u2019ve found the one because you click instantly. Your interests are the same, he acts normal, he does not look like a total douche.<\/p>\n

You go on a couple of dates and finally, you sleep with him. Now, this would be a perfectly normal story with a happy ending if it weren\u2019t for this last activity or better said the lack of one.<\/p>\n

After he sleeps with you, you begin to hear less and less from him. In time, your phone doesn’t ring as much, you never get to see him. You begin to feel invisible and the truth is, in his eyes you are invisible.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re being ghosted for the simplest reason ever. He took what he needed from you and he rejected you.<\/p>\n

Sarebbe cos\u00ec facile mantenere la calma in queste situazioni e ignorarle, ma le emozioni non sono mai facili da gestire.<\/p>\n

Your brain is telling you what you should do, the right thing to do and that is to let go and move on, but your heart is still stuck on him because you\u2019re not an emotionless robot who can move on from one person to another with no strings attached.<\/p>\n

Well, this is the harsh reality of modern dating and it\u2019s called ghosting. A guy hooks up with you and then he just disappears with no explanations whatsoever, like nothing ever happened between you two.<\/p>\n

What to do in those situations? How to act when you\u2019re being ghosted?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

1. Accettare il dolore<\/h2>\n

You didn\u2019t even have to care about the person who ghosted you, but your feelings were hurt. You thought that something is going to evolve from your relationship. But instead, you were humiliated and played.<\/p>\n

Probabilmente avete raccontato tutto di lui ai vostri amici perch\u00e9 eravate entusiasti della vostra nuova relazione, ma dopo qualche tempo non \u00e8 successo nulla. Lui \u00e8 scomparso e ti ha dato il benservito.<\/p>\n

You felt exposed and hurt. Embrace that pain, accept it because it\u2019s real. You can easily get over him, but you can\u2019t get over the pain in a jiff.<\/p>\n

2. Interrompere ogni comunicazione<\/h2>\n

Don’t fall into the trap most women do. Don\u2019t text him or try to call him. If he doesn\u2019t text you back<\/a> after the first text, he isn’t interested in you anymore. Don\u2019t make a fool out of yourself because you still have feelings for him.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re only going to embarrass yourself and the pain and humiliation will be even worse. Cut off all communication. Don\u2019t stalk him on social media just to see what he is up to. You\u2019re only going to make it more difficult for yourself to get over being ghosted.<\/p>\n

Correlato: Ghosting dopo il primo appuntamento: Perch\u00e9 succede e come gestirlo<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

3. Don\u2019t take it personally<\/h2>\n

The fact you were ghosted says nothing about you. It\u2019s not your fault and don\u2019t look at it that way. You did nothing wrong and the silence you\u2019re getting is just a reflection of the person doing that to you.<\/p>\n

Quindi, invece di incolpare te stessa e di soffermarti sul motivo per cui ti ha abbandonato.<\/p>\n

Pensate al ghosting e cercate di analizzare cosa \u00e8 successo e come \u00e8 successo, in modo da sapere cosa non fare la prossima volta.<\/p>\n

Prendete questa esperienza dolorosa e usatela per il futuro, per il vostro bene.<\/p>\n

4. Siate gentili con voi stessi<\/h2>\n

You\u2019re experiencing pain and pain has to be horrible. You have to feel crapy, but don\u2019t let it get you down. The reason you feel that way is only the proof that you\u2019re human. It proves that you are able to feel and hear all the emotions running through you.<\/p>\n

The reason you feel this way is because you care and you\u2019re capable of love. Too bad that this time, you\u2019ve stumbled upon the wrong man to love. There are plenty of men out there ready to commit, ready to love.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t be hard on yourself because it\u2019s not your fault \u00e8 un idiota immaturo<\/a>.<\/p>\n

5. Rispettare se stessi e andare avanti<\/h2>\n

What is gone, you cannot miss. He could have done things differently. He could have left in a respectful manner with an explanation, but he didn\u2019t. He chose to leave without saying a word, he chose to hurt you.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s it, the story\u2019s done. You don\u2019t need any explanation for why things happened the way they did. What you do need to do right now is to move on. Respect yourself enough to find the strength to forget he ever existed.<\/p>\n

Siete degne di un uomo che vi ami e vi rispetti. Meriti un uomo che non sarebbe mai cos\u00ec codardo da fare una cosa cos\u00ec irrispettosa come quella che ha fatto lui.<\/p>\n

6. Tornare agli appuntamenti<\/h2>\n

You\u2019re thinking that you\u2019re done with dating. You\u2019re thinking that you don\u2019t want to go through this ever again. I don\u2019t blame you for that. But things are not as bad as they seem.<\/p>\n

At least now you can recognize a ghoster. You\u2019ve gone through that behavior pattern and it\u2019s not likely someone will do the same thing again. So, get back out there and date.<\/p>\n

This experience has made you even stronger and smarter. All the bad things that happen you should be a lesson. It is a mistake that you\u2019re never going to do again.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let the possibility of getting ghosted prevent you from creating a new and meaningful relationship. If you keep living in fear of getting hurt again, you\u2019re never going to let yourself be happy.<\/p>\n

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