{"id":29824,"date":"2018-12-12T09:06:32","date_gmt":"2018-12-12T09:06:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=29824"},"modified":"2022-10-23T09:00:40","modified_gmt":"2022-10-23T09:00:40","slug":"7-semplici-trucchi-per-mantenere-sempre-viva-la-conversazione-con-lui","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/7-semplici-trucchi-per-mantenere-sempre-viva-la-conversazione-con-lui\/","title":{"rendered":"7 semplici trucchi per mantenere sempre viva la conversazione con lui"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>One of the most uncomfortable things you can face when meeting a new guy is an awkward silence. There is nothing that terrifies you more. Sometimes, you\u2019ll actually avoid meeting anyone new for a while, as you\u2019re so scared of running out of things to say.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t worry, you\u2019re not alone in this. There are so many of us who are terrified of running out of things to say, or even worse, saying the wrong thing due to self-inflicted pressure and making a fool of yourself. That is no way to leave a good impression.<\/p>\n<p>I used to be convinced that there was something wrong with me for just not being able to find the right words at the right time and ruining a potentially good thing. But what I\u2019ve come to realize is that there is a solution to every problem\u2014as is the case with this!<\/p>\n<p><b>Tutti hanno a che fare con silenzi imbarazzanti e sono alla ricerca di un ottimo spunto di conversazione, ma non molti ci riescono. Ma voi potete riuscirci. C'\u00e8 un modo per risolvere questo problema. Seguitemi!<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Non sapere cosa dire pu\u00f2 danneggiare seriamente la vostra vita sociale e le vostre future prospettive di incontri. Ma una volta imparato a mantenere la conversazione in ogni momento, arricchirete la vostra vita sociale, aumenterete la vostra fiducia in voi stessi e probabilmente troverete un nuovo partner romantico pi\u00f9 presto che mai!<\/p>\n<p><b>In primo luogo, \u00e8 necessario sapere che cosa vi porta a esaurire le cose da dire.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>After researching this thoroughly, I\u2019ve come to see that it\u2019s not a lack of things to say that is harming your conversational skills, it\u2019s the things you are <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/le-cose-che-il-tuo-ex-ha-paura-di-dirti-in-base-al-tuo-segno-zodiacale\/\">paura di dire<\/a>perch\u00e9 c'\u00e8 un filtro dentro di voi che vi impedisce di dirle! Ha senso, eh?<\/p>\n<p>In questo modo, si controlla inconsciamente tutto prima di tutto con se stessi, assicurandosi che quello che si vuole dire sia bello, interessante e impressionante e che valga davvero la pena di dirlo. E come influisce questo sulle vostre capacit\u00e0 di conversazione? Le uccide!<\/p>\n<p>By not allowing yourself to be spontaneous and always thinking twice before saying something, because you don\u2019t want him to think you\u2019re ignorant, you\u2019re ruining the natural flow and progression of the conversation.<\/p>\n<p>Think about it.; how many times have you stopped yourself from saying something that is really totally okay and harmless but you just weren\u2019t 100% sure of it, so you held back.<\/p>\n<p><b>Stop doing that. Let yourself say whatever comes to your mind, because if you keep filtering yourself, he is never going to get to know the real you. And what\u2019s the point in that?<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Un'altra cosa che causa problemi \u00e8 l'impossibilit\u00e0 di staccare completamente la spina dalle cose legate al lavoro o dalle cose che vi preoccupano in quel giorno. Quando si ha sempre in mente qualcosa e non si \u00e8 disposti a lasciarla andare, questa rimarr\u00e0 sempre nella nostra testa e ci distrarr\u00e0 dal goderci appieno le cose e dal lasciarci andare.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019ve had a difficult day at work, or somebody is annoying you, deal with it in due time, so that when it\u2019s time for your date or a social gathering, you can be fully invested and without any unnecessary diversions.<\/p>\n<p><em>Tutto questo pu\u00f2 sembrare troppo da affrontare in questo momento, ma dopo aver letto attentamente le 7 soluzioni al problema che seguono, sar\u00e0 molto pi\u00f9 facile adattarsi e migliorare sostanzialmente le proprie capacit\u00e0 di conversazione!<\/em><\/p>\n<h2>1. Sometimes, you\u2019re just not compatible conversationally and that\u2019s okay<\/h2>\n<p>Sometimes in life, there is just no chemistry between two people and there\u2019s no point in forcing something that feels wrong. The same goes for making the conversation flow.<\/p>\n<p>Quando si incontra <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/sono-abbastanza-forte-da-aspettare-luomo-giusto\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">l'uomo giusto<\/span><\/a>, you will feel that chemistry and you\u2019ll also know when you have to fake it, which is a red flag from the get-go. So, first make sure that you have that click with him that makes it worth going through all this trouble to make a good conversation with him.<\/p>\n<p><b>If there is no conversational chemistry, you probably won\u2019t be compatible in other ways either.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>As you go through the dating process, you will run into all kinds of guys and not all experiences will be the same. Some will be worth the trouble, others not, and that\u2019s all okay. You learn from experience, so never let bad dates discourage you from trying again.<\/p>\n<p><b>Invece di concentrarvi su tutti quegli appuntamenti in cui la conversazione era arida e non c'era nulla che valesse la pena di dire, concentratevi su tutti quelli che vi sono sembrati giusti, in cui la conversazione \u00e8 fluita.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>When you realize that with some guys, it\u2019s just not going to work, you\u2019re making it easier on yourself when you go back on the market. When there\u2019s no chemistry, don\u2019t force it. With the right guy, you won\u2019t have to try that hard.<\/p>\n<h2>2. Imparare ad ascoltare<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-29830 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/alex-holyoake-370400-unsplash.jpg\" alt=\"7 semplici trucchi per mantenere sempre viva la conversazione con lui\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/alex-holyoake-370400-unsplash.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/alex-holyoake-370400-unsplash-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/alex-holyoake-370400-unsplash-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>This is what most people can\u2019t quite grasp. The majority of a conversation is done by simply listening!<\/p>\n<p>La maggior parte delle donne si concentra sulla cosa sbagliata. Cercano tutte di pensare alle cose che LORO dovrebbero dire, invece di imparare ad ascoltare il partner e lasciare che sia la cosa che fa andare avanti la conversazione.<\/p>\n<p><b>Asking questions is a great way to start up a dialogue. Avoid questions that can simply be answered by \u2018yes\u2019 or \u2018no\u2019, and ask those intriguing ones that will make him talk a little more in depth.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Fategli domande sulle sue passioni, chiedetegli cosa lo fa alzare la mattina. Chiedetegli della sua infanzia e della sua vita familiare. Cercate di fargli parlare dei suoi lati pi\u00f9 intimi, che renderanno la conversazione scorrevole e vi aiuteranno a stabilire un legame pi\u00f9 profondo e a conoscervi meglio.<\/p>\n<p>While questions are a really good way to tickle his fancy and ignite a quality conversation, make sure you don\u2019t come off too interrogative.<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t want him to feel like he\u2019s being interrogated for the role of your husband, by prying too much too soon.<\/p>\n<p>Know your boundaries and leave those most personal and intimate questions for a later time when you\u2019re at that level of comfort with each other.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Correlato: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/cosa-prova-la-chimica-per-un-uomo\/\">Come si sente la chimica per un uomo? Una visione completa<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<h2>3. Don\u2019t let the silence scare you too much<\/h2>\n<p>Know that not every single moment has to be filled with words. There is no rule saying that you can\u2019t be quiet for a few seconds. Nobody will think less of you and chances are he\u2019s feeling the exact same pressure as you are.<\/p>\n<p><b>So, relax and realize that it\u2019s not as big of a deal as you\u2019re making it out to be. There are so many little ways how you can fill those few seconds when you don\u2019t have anything smart to say.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Potete prendere tempo masticando il cibo (nessuno trova attraente chi parla con la bocca piena) o sorseggiare il vostro drink e poi versarne dell'altro. Lasciategli un attimo di tempo per capire cosa dire; nessuno ha mai <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/life\/stop-allowing-your-happy-memories-with-him-to-keep-you-from-doing-the-right-thing\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">la cosa giusta<\/span><\/a> pronto a dire in ogni momento.<\/p>\n<p>Let him do the talking sometimes. When you\u2019re so focused on trying to think of witty things to say, you are denying him the opportunity to actually say something meaningful and nobody likes being interrupted.<\/p>\n<p>Quindi, ascoltate di pi\u00f9 e parlate di meno. A volte basta questo.<\/p>\n<h2>4. Ripetere l'ultima cosa che ha detto<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-29831 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/christin-hume-316554-unsplash-1.jpg\" alt=\"7 semplici trucchi per mantenere sempre viva la conversazione con lui\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/christin-hume-316554-unsplash-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/christin-hume-316554-unsplash-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/christin-hume-316554-unsplash-1-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>This is a great way to keep the conversation going when there\u2019s a lull, and you just can\u2019t take it\u2014repeat his last statement!<\/p>\n<p><b>If you\u2019re at a loss for words and you\u2019re struggling to keep it going, resort to this. Repeating the last phrase someone has said will very likely make him keep going, as he will take it as a nudge that you\u2019re interested in what he has to say and continue talking about it.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>And if he\u2019s a talkative person by nature, you\u2019re in luck. He probably won\u2019t even need that nudge to keep at it but you can use it for just in case.<\/p>\n<p>So if he says something like, \u201cSo as I was walking away from the scene, this guy, dressed as a clown, just jumped in front of me, out of nowhere, screamed, and then vanished in the fog\u2026\u2019\u2019 then you just need to say, \u201cA clown jumped in front you out of nowhere?!\u2019\u2019 and it will keep him going and explaining the story further.<\/p>\n<p>Other than making him keep talking and avoiding awkward silences, it will also show him that you are listening to what he has to say and that you are interested in hearing it. So, it\u2019s a win-win.<\/p>\n<h2>5. Porre ulteriori domande, a seconda delle risposte fornite.<\/h2>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>This is a great follow-up to the last one. When he gives you an answer to one question, use it as an example of what to ask next. It\u2019s a proven way to keep him going without having to intervene too much.<\/p>\n<p>If he\u2019s telling you a story and he seems to be nearing the end, just ask him about the last thing he said in the story. Make him elaborate, be interested in how things might have turned out had he not done that certain thing.<\/p>\n<p><b>He won\u2019t even realize that you\u2019re letting him do most of the talking, without sharing too much yourself. He will see that you are involved in the conversation but won\u2019t realize that he\u2019s the one doing most of the talking!<\/b><\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s a really genius way to keep things interesting, don\u2019t you think?<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re letting him talk about himself (men love that) and are therefore making him happy. At the same time, you\u2019re getting to know so much about him and the date is going smoothly!<\/p>\n<p>And when he finally has nothing left to say, you\u2019ll have plenty, as you were so busy being the great listener that you are. So you really can\u2019t go wrong with this method!<\/p>\n<p>Geniale, lo so.<\/p>\n<h2>6. Rendere il tutto pi\u00f9 divertente possibile<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-29832 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/rawpixel-423663-unsplash.jpg\" alt=\"7 semplici trucchi per mantenere sempre viva la conversazione con lui\" width=\"800\" height=\"542\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/rawpixel-423663-unsplash.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/rawpixel-423663-unsplash-300x203.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/rawpixel-423663-unsplash-768x520.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>A volte le conversazioni hanno bisogno di un po' di pepe! Quindi, aggiungere il fattore divertimento render\u00e0 la conversazione molto pi\u00f9 interessante per entrambi!<\/p>\n<p>Fate un piccolo gioco. Ponetegli domande ipotetiche come:<\/p>\n<p>\u00b7 If you were forced to eat one meal for the rest of your life, what would it be and why?<br \/>\n\u00b7 If you just won the lottery, what would be the first thing you\u2019d spend the money on?<br \/>\n\u00b7 If you were president for a week, which changes would you implement, if any?<\/p>\n<p>You can even openly just tell him how much you love playing fun games and suggest playing \u2018<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/life\/300-funny-and-dirty-would-you-rather-questions-for-guys-and-girls\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">preferiresti<\/span><\/a>?\u2019 or \u201921 questions\u2019.<\/p>\n<p><b>Chi direbbe di no? Oltre a garantire un buon tempo di qualit\u00e0 insieme senza pause imbarazzanti, vi permetter\u00e0 anche di divertirvi semplicemente l'uno con l'altro, di stare in un'atmosfera rilassante e di ridere!<\/b><\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s a major win! I honestly don\u2019t know what you\u2019re waiting for! Who doesn\u2019t want to spend a whole date laughing with a guy? It will enhance the chances of a second date and deepen the chemistry that you\u2019re already feeling.<\/p>\n<p>La cosa positiva \u00e8 che nessuna di queste domande \u00e8 di natura seria e interrogativa, quindi nessuno di voi si sentir\u00e0 obbligato a rispondere!<\/p>\n<p>Sono fatti semplicemente per alleggerire l'atmosfera e mettervi il pi\u00f9 possibile a vostro agio l'uno con l'altro. Possono dare una sensazione davvero piacevole dell'appuntamento e creare una grande conversazione. Evviva!<\/p>\n<h2>7. Fare i complimenti \u00e8 sempre un vantaggio<\/h2>\n<p>Se all'inizio il ragazzo sembra un po' a disagio e nervoso, fategli dei complimenti! Oltre a farlo sentire bene con se stesso, sar\u00e0 anche un buon rompighiaccio per il vostro appuntamento.<\/p>\n<p>Mi sembra che ci sia tanta enfasi sui complimenti degli uomini alle donne (ma senza superare i limiti di un comportamento normale e accettabile) e non abbastanza sulle donne che fanno i complimenti agli uomini!<\/p>\n<p><b>Anche ai ragazzi piace sentirsi dire che sono belli! Dopotutto, sono solo esseri umani. Per quanto sia bello sentirsi fare un complimento da lui, assicuratevi di ricambiare il favore e di fargli sapere quanto \u00e8 bello e quanto ha un buon profumo. Questo aumenter\u00e0 la sua fiducia e gli render\u00e0 pi\u00f9 facile iniziare una conversazione.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>I complimenti possono fare molta strada, lasciatemelo dire.<\/p>\n<p>Alleggerir\u00e0 immediatamente l'atmosfera, probabilmente vi far\u00e0 ridacchiare un po' (il che \u00e8 molto carino e adorabile, per entrambi!) e vi faciliter\u00e0 la conversazione.<\/p>\n<p>Potete anche complimentarvi per la scelta del ristorante, per la bont\u00e0 del cibo o semplicemente per le sue maniere e la sua gentilezza. Non c'\u00e8 davvero modo di sbagliare con nessuna di queste opzioni.<\/p>\n<p><em>Now that we\u2019ve covered what you SHOULD do to keep the conversation going, let\u2019s quickly revise what you SHOULDN\u2019T do.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><b>In primo luogo, non dovete mai parlare del vostro ex.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>While this seems like an obvious thing to say, you\u2019d be stunned at how many people still choose to mention their exes on dates.<\/p>\n<p>Sure, it\u2019s cool to bring it up after having been on at least a few dates but when you\u2019re just getting to know each other, steer clear of the ex-files.<\/p>\n<p>No guy likes to hear about the guys you slept with before him, when he\u2019s trying to woo you!<\/p>\n<p>As innocent as it may seem, always stop yourself and say something else instead. It just won\u2019t leave a good impression on your date, trust me\u2014and thank me later.<\/p>\n<p><b>Don\u2019t talk about money, either.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Another useful tip: don\u2019t mention money. Never ask him how much he makes and don\u2019t mention your financial situation.<\/p>\n<p>Sono tutte cose di cui dovrete parlare in un secondo momento, se e quando le cose si faranno pi\u00f9 serie. Ma per il momento, mantenete la calma.<\/p>\n<p>Nobody likes to talk about money on first dates; it ruins the mood and gives him the wrong impression. And if you\u2019re only looking to <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/frequentare-un-uomo-che-non-e-finanziariamente-stabile-2\/\">uscire con ragazzi di un certo successo finanziario<\/a>, you\u2019re in it for the wrong reason.<\/p>\n<p>Get to know the guy first and decide if you like him as a person. What he makes really shouldn\u2019t be a factor in whether or not you continue dating him but hey, to each their own!<\/p>\n<p><b>Non fatevi condizionare dalla politica.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re very politically oriented and you have strong opinions, that\u2019s all good but save that for your friends. Don\u2019t rant to a guy you just met at a bar.<\/p>\n<p>That is too heavy a subject for getting to know one another and it\u2019s too intense. Focus on other stuff and wait for at least three or four dates before getting all political. And even then, don\u2019t unload it all on him at once.<\/p>\n<p>Passi piccoli, come si suol dire. Iniziate la conversazione e vedete come reagisce. La sua reazione vi dir\u00e0 se dovete abbandonare l'argomento o continuare.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-29826 size-large\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/Heres-Why-You-Attract-\u2018Wrong\u2019-Guys-According-To-Your-Zodiac-Sign-8-683x1024.jpg\" alt=\"7 semplici trucchi per mantenere sempre viva la conversazione con lui\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/Heres-Why-You-Attract-\u2018Wrong\u2019-Guys-According-To-Your-Zodiac-Sign-8-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/Heres-Why-You-Attract-\u2018Wrong\u2019-Guys-According-To-Your-Zodiac-Sign-8-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/Heres-Why-You-Attract-\u2018Wrong\u2019-Guys-According-To-Your-Zodiac-Sign-8.jpg 467w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>One of the most uncomfortable things you can face when meeting a new guy is an awkward silence. There is nothing that terrifies you more. Sometimes, you\u2019ll actually avoid meeting anyone new for a while, as you\u2019re so scared of running out of things to say. Don\u2019t worry, you\u2019re not alone in this. There are&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":42,"featured_media":29825,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29648],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-29824","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating-tips"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29648,"label":"dating tips"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/rawpixel-604748-unsplash.jpg",800,537,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Selma June","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/selmajune\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29648,"name":"dating tips","slug":"dating-tips","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29648,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn to date like a pro and avoid making some of the biggest mistakes in texting, flirting, winning a man's heart, and commitment. 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