{"id":30000,"date":"2018-12-14T13:13:00","date_gmt":"2018-12-14T13:13:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=30000"},"modified":"2022-02-27T10:58:04","modified_gmt":"2022-02-27T10:58:04","slug":"5-cose-che-non-dovete-mai-dire-al-vostro-partner-se-volete-mantenerlo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/5-cose-che-non-dovete-mai-dire-al-vostro-partner-se-volete-mantenerlo\/","title":{"rendered":"5 cose che non dovreste mai dire al vostro partner se volete mantenerlo"},"content":{"rendered":"

Quando si inizia a frequentare qualcuno, si sta sempre attenti a ci\u00f2 che si dice e a come ci si comporta, per lasciare una buona impressione e per non ferire involontariamente i suoi sentimenti.<\/p>\n

But when you\u2019ve been with your man for a while, things you wouldn\u2019t dream of saying at the beginning are now things you will say without thinking twice. And that\u2019s okay, to an extent.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s normal to get so comfortable around your partner where you don\u2019t have to watch your every word and knowing they\u2019ll get it either way.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ma a volte si supera il limite. A volte i sentimenti vengono feriti e per una buona ragione.<\/b><\/p>\n

If you feel like your partner can endure whatever insult you jokingly throw at him, without explaining yourself, you\u2019re actually wrong.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ci sono cose che dovreste evitare di dire regolarmente se volete tenervelo stretto ed ecco alcune frasi da cui dovreste astenervi se volete che la vostra relazione duri.<\/span><\/p>\n

1.  \u201cTold you so!\u2019\u2019<\/h2>\n

Questa affermazione \u00e8 l'epitome dell'immaturit\u00e0 e solo i bambini piccoli dovrebbero dirla, in tutta onest\u00e0.<\/span><\/p>\n

Dimostra la vostra mancanza di compassione e di rispetto nei confronti di <\/span>il vostro partner<\/span><\/a> e lo fa sembrare e sentire stupido. E questa non dovrebbe mai essere la vostra intenzione!<\/span><\/p>\n

Evitate di dirlo, perch\u00e9 non ne verrebbe fuori nulla di positivo, ma il risentimento potrebbe invece significare presto la fine della vostra relazione.<\/span><\/p>\n

La strada da percorrere \u00e8 quella dell'empatia e della compassione.<\/span><\/p>\n

2. \"Non puoi farlo!\".<\/h2>\n

Un partner romantico non dovrebbe mai usare la parola \"non posso\" quando parla con la persona amata.<\/span><\/p>\n

There are going to be times when you will wish your partner didn\u2019t do a certain thing, like spending too much money on a pair of kicks or staying out until the early hours of the morning.<\/span><\/p>\n

But telling him that he \u2018can\u2019t\u2019 do something makes you look controlling and kind of like his parent and you don\u2019t want that.<\/span><\/p>\n

As much as you want to tell him that, don\u2019t, as you really shouldn\u2019t tell him what he can or cannot do. He is a grown-up and he should know how to make good, smart decisions himself.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. \"Calmati\" o \"Rilassati\".<\/h2>\n

Saying this to your partner is acceptable literally only if you want him to get ten times as upset as he already is. This usually does the opposite of what it\u2019s supposed to.<\/span><\/p>\n

Cercate di convalidare i suoi sentimenti<\/a> at all times. If you don\u2019t understand where he\u2019s coming from, ask!<\/span><\/p>\n

But don\u2019t make him seem irrational for having feelings and openly expressing them. Act like a mature adult and talk without judging or diminishing his feelings.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"5<\/p>\n

4. \"Fai sempre questo\/quello\".<\/h2>\n

Quando si inizia una discussione con questo, lo si accusa immediatamente di qualcosa, sottintendendo che fa sempre qualcosa di sbagliato.<\/span><\/p>\n

Non \u00e8 questo il modo di avere una conversazione sana e gli far\u00e0 scegliere solo la via della difesa.<\/span><\/p>\n

Instead of making sweeping accusations, focus on the thing in question and the present. If he has to defend himself all the time, he\u2019s just not going to take it that much longer.<\/span><\/p>\n

5. \"Se mi amassi, faresti questo per me\".<\/h2>\n

Se continuate a chiedergli di dimostrare il suo amore per voi facendo determinate cose, questo \u00e8<\/span> non amore<\/span>. It\u2019s a dysfunctional partnership.<\/span><\/p>\n

A nessuno piace essere ricattato per fare qualcosa. \u00c8 chiaro che ti ama.<\/span><\/p>\n

But don\u2019t make him do something to prove that. That is a childish thing to do and your partner won\u2019t stand for it.<\/span><\/p>\n

You wouldn\u2019t like having to prove your love for him by doing this and that, so don\u2019t make him go through the same thing; it\u2019s as simple as that.<\/span><\/p>\n

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When you first start dating someone, you always watch what you say and how you behave, to leave a good impression and to not unintentionally hurt his feelings. But when you\u2019ve been with your man for a while, things you wouldn\u2019t dream of saying at the beginning are now things you will say without thinking…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":30003,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29622],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-30000","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship-advice"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29622,"label":"relationship advice"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/StockSnap_XE6KTUQ1SX.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29622,"name":"relationship advice","slug":"relationship-advice","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29622,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","parent":29620,"count":544,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29622,"category_count":544,"category_description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","cat_name":"relationship advice","category_nicename":"relationship-advice","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30000","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=30000"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30000\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/30003"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=30000"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=30000"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=30000"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}