{"id":30846,"date":"2020-06-08T11:51:40","date_gmt":"2020-06-08T11:51:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=30846"},"modified":"2021-08-12T07:45:55","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T07:45:55","slug":"alla-ragazza-che-ha-paura-di-avvicinarsi-a-qualcuno","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/alla-ragazza-che-ha-paura-di-avvicinarsi-a-qualcuno\/","title":{"rendered":"Alla ragazza che ha paura di avvicinarsi a qualcuno"},"content":{"rendered":"

So che avete paura. In realt\u00e0, siete terrorizzati dall'idea di incontrare nuove persone e di far entrare qualcuno. <\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s not just that you are scared of tearing down your walls and getting close to new people; your heart trembles at the mere thought of allowing someone to break it all over again.<\/span><\/p>\n

E lo capisco perch\u00e9 ero come voi. Tutto ci\u00f2 che stai provando ora ha un background profondo e ottime ragioni. E io ho provato le stesse cose.<\/b><\/p>\n

The truth is that you\u2019ve been hurt more times than you can count. Your soul has been shattered into pieces, you\u2019ve been betrayed, humiliated and disappointed. <\/span><\/p>\n

Hai dato il tuo cuore e il tuo <\/span>energia a persone sbagliate<\/span><\/a> e tutto ci\u00f2 che hanno fatto \u00e8 stato usarti in ogni modo possibile.<\/span><\/p>\n

And after a while, you reached breaking point. You saw that you couldn\u2019t continue living like that.<\/span><\/p>\n

Dopo l'ultimo colpo di fulmine, ne avete avuto abbastanza e avete capito che dovevate salvarvi se volevate sopravvivere. <\/span><\/p>\n

E in quel momento avete pensato che l'unico modo per farlo fosse quello di diventare guardinghi.<\/span><\/p>\n

Volevate solo che tutto il dolore sparisse e pensavate di dover costruire un giubbotto antiproiettile intorno alla vostra anima sfregiata per tenere fuori chiunque avesse l'intenzione di farvi del male. Pensavate che l'unico modo per <\/b>proteggere il cuore<\/b><\/a> era di iniziare a comportarsi senza cuore.<\/b><\/p>\n

All that you\u2019ve been through left enormous consequences on you. It changed the essence of who you were as a person and it made you become bitter and sarcastic when it comes to love.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ti ha fatto perdere la fiducia nell'amore e ti ha fatto smettere di credere nelle persone. <\/span><\/p>\n

After everything you went through, now you are left convinced that everyone will treat you the same and that there doesn\u2019t exist a man who deserves for you to open up to him and for you to love him.<\/span><\/p>\n

Con il tempo, avete abbracciato la vostra vita da single. <\/span>Your walls became your comfort zone and the armor around your heart became something you couldn\u2019t imagine living without.<\/b><\/p>\n

With time, you\u2019ve mastered the art of putting a brave girl mask on your face. You caged your vulnerable heart because you thought it was the only way to protect yourself from going through another emotional breakdown.<\/span><\/p>\n

Even though I completely understand everything you\u2019re feeling right now, I have to tell you that you are wrong. Because this, what you are doing, won\u2019t bring you any good.<\/span><\/p>\n

Being guarded and closed will only cause you harm. You won\u2019t affect the people who have hurt you and you won\u2019t heal your broken heart.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ci\u00f2 che farete \u00e8 privarvi della possibilit\u00e0 di trovare l'amore. Perderete la possibilit\u00e0 di incontrare qualcuno che sia degno del vostro tempo, delle vostre energie e dei vostri sforzi. Perderete voi stessi.<\/b><\/p>\n

E quando questo accadr\u00e0, tutti coloro che vi hanno portato a questo punto vinceranno. Significher\u00e0 che siete diventati proprio come loro e questa sar\u00e0 la loro pi\u00f9 grande vittoria.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong<\/span>\u2014<\/span>I don\u2019t expect you to change your ways overnight because that would be impossible. <\/span><\/p>\n

I know that opening your heart to someone new seems frightening after everything you\u2019ve been through.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ma per favore, almeno provateci. Fate dei piccoli passi e provate a tornare la persona che eravate prima di vivere tutti questi strazi.<\/b><\/p>\n

Dopo tutto, ora siete molto pi\u00f9 intelligenti. Tutto ci\u00f2 che vi \u00e8 successo pu\u00f2 e deve servire come esperienza e come lezione preziosa ma dura.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tutte le vostre relazioni fallite vi hanno insegnato a essere pi\u00f9 forti.
\nYou know better now and your gut won\u2019t allow you to repeat the same mistakes. You\u2019ve had some toxic people in your life and trust me<\/span>\u2014<\/span>you won\u2019t let in anyone similar to them ever again.<\/span><\/p>\n

Non vi sto chiedendo di iniziare a credere nell'amore in questo momento. Vi chiedo solo di avere fede in voi stessi e tutto il resto seguir\u00e0.<\/span><\/p>\n

I am asking you to believe in your judgment-making skills and in your intuition. To have faith that destiny will send you someone who won\u2019t be like those who have done you harm.<\/span><\/p>\n

Perch\u00e9 quell'uomo arriver\u00e0 quando meno ve lo aspettate. Guarir\u00e0 tutte le vostre ferite e vi restituir\u00e0 la fiducia nell'amore. <\/span><\/p>\n

And when he comes along, you\u2019ll be happy that you didn\u2019t miss out on him just because you were too scared of putting yourself out there.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Alla <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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