{"id":30970,"date":"2019-01-09T08:06:26","date_gmt":"2019-01-09T08:06:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=30970"},"modified":"2021-08-11T09:16:57","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T09:16:57","slug":"se-volete-smettere-di-attrarre-ragazzi-tossici-smettete-di-fare-queste-6-cose","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/se-volete-smettere-di-attrarre-ragazzi-tossici-smettete-di-fare-queste-6-cose\/","title":{"rendered":"Se volete smettere di attrarre ragazzi tossici, smettete di fare queste 6 cose"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>For so many years, I was in this weird loop where I kept dating these horrible guys who took much more than they actually gave. It was such a toxic environment and I honestly didn\u2019t know what the hell was wrong with me to keep attracting all the wrong men into my life.<\/p>\n<p>Ho continuato a pensarci e sapevo che doveva esserci una ragione valida per questo, cos\u00ec ho fatto un po' di esame di coscienza e sono arrivata a capire che il mio comportamento era la ragione principale per cui finivo sempre con <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/per-tutte-le-ragazze-che-pensano-di-non-poter-smettere-di-amare-il-ragazzo-sbagliato\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">l'uomo sbagliato<\/span><\/a>!<\/p>\n<p><b>Ho manifestato inconsciamente alcuni tratti malsani che mi hanno impedito di avere gli uomini che meritavo e che invece hanno portato nella mia vita un mare di ragazzi tossici.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>If you don\u2019t want to repeat my mistakes and get your dating life back on track, read these 6 things I did wrong and save yourself years of regret.<\/p>\n<h2>1. Ero attratta da ragazzi oscuri e misteriosi con un passato losco.<\/h2>\n<p>Ero cos\u00ec sciocca da credere che sarei stata in grado di incrinare la loro scorza dura e di farli aprire con me come non avevano mai fatto prima. Chiaramente, mi sbagliavo, e questo si \u00e8 sempre ritorto contro di me!<\/p>\n<p>Questi ragazzi possono sembrare attraenti e affascinanti solo in superficie, ma in realt\u00e0 sono anime danneggiate che non sono in grado di amare se stesse, figuriamoci gli altri. State alla larga!<\/p>\n<h2>2. Mi piaceva segretamente quando erano un po' cattivi con me<\/h2>\n<p>This is a messed up thing to admit and it probably goes back to my childhood when I was told that if a boy was mean or teased me, it meant he liked me! That is a crazy concept and I can\u2019t believe anyone would ever be told that!<\/p>\n<p>So it translated back to my adult years, where I believed that if he yelled at me, it must\u2019ve meant he really cared! What a shitty thing to be made believe.<\/p>\n<h2>3. I wasn\u2019t interested in nice guys<\/h2>\n<p>Nice guys just always somehow seemed boring. I am aware that one can\u2019t judge a book by its cover and now I don\u2019t anymore but I used to believe that I could get no thrill by being with a <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/la-bellezza-di-incontrare-un-bravo-ragazzo-dopo-una-relazione-tossica\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">bravo ragazzo<\/span><\/a>, as it just seemed too ordinary. And now, I would kill for that \u2018ordinary\u2019 type of love! Stability over unpredictability.<\/p>\n<h2>4. Mi piacevano gli uomini che erano appena usciti da una relazione<\/h2>\n<p>Per ragioni a me ancora sconosciute, mi sono sempre innamorata di ragazzi che erano appena usciti da una relazione o che portavano con s\u00e9 un bagaglio emotivo derivante da relazioni passate.<\/p>\n<p>Credevo stupidamente di poter essere la persona con cui avrebbero trovato il loro \"vissero per sempre felici e contenti\" e che li avrei riportati sulla retta via! Raramente \u00e8 andata cos\u00ec e per lo pi\u00f9 \u00e8 stato solo un dolore, perch\u00e9 mi sono sempre sentita una seconda scelta.<\/p>\n<p>Now I see that I should\u2019ve waited for them to get over their past love before I started anything with them.<\/p>\n<h2>5. Continuavo a lasciare uomini senza una vera ragione<\/h2>\n<p>Mi piaceva un po' troppo avere ragione, cos\u00ec, invece di risolvere le cose, finivo per scaricarli per non dover litigare con loro. Era un circolo davvero tossico che non era salutare per entrambi ed era tutta colpa mia.<\/p>\n<p>I couldn\u2019t accept that I wasn\u2019t right all the time so it was easier to end it and find another <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/7-reasons-many-toxic-guys-drawn\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ragazzo tossico<\/span><\/a> con cui sostituirlo. Sono stata davvero egoista e non me ne sono mai resa conto.<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t really think they were that bad in the first place, I somehow made them act that way due to my twisted way of thinking and acting toward them.<\/p>\n<h2>6. I would act crazy if I didn\u2019t have my way<\/h2>\n<p>If things didn\u2019t work out how I wanted them to, I would blame it all on the guy. I always had to have it my way and I made myself believe that if a guy couldn\u2019t conform to that, he was not the guy for me and there had to be something wrong with him. And all this time, it was me who messed everything up.<\/p>\n<p>Ero troppo testarda per ammettere di aver sbagliato e ne ho pagato il prezzo. Grazie a Dio, ora capisco che una relazione \u00e8 una strada a doppio senso e che entrambe le parti meritano di essere ascoltate e riconosciute allo stesso modo. Qualsiasi altra cosa non \u00e8 giusta e ora finalmente l'ho capito.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-30972 size-large\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/In-2019-Im-Choosing-Happiness-2-683x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Se volete smettere di attrarre ragazzi tossici, smettete di fare queste 6 cose\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/In-2019-Im-Choosing-Happiness-2-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/In-2019-Im-Choosing-Happiness-2-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/In-2019-Im-Choosing-Happiness-2.jpg 467w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>For so many years, I was in this weird loop where I kept dating these horrible guys who took much more than they actually gave. It was such a toxic environment and I honestly didn\u2019t know what the hell was wrong with me to keep attracting all the wrong men into my life. 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