{"id":31145,"date":"2019-01-11T08:48:31","date_gmt":"2019-01-11T08:48:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=31145"},"modified":"2022-02-10T02:13:52","modified_gmt":"2022-02-10T02:13:52","slug":"devi-smetterla-di-incolparti-per-la-sua-incapacita-di-amarti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/devi-smetterla-di-incolparti-per-la-sua-incapacita-di-amarti\/","title":{"rendered":"Devi smettere di incolparti per la sua incapacit\u00e0 di amarti"},"content":{"rendered":"

Non sto dicendo che siete perfetti, perch\u00e9 la verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che avete i vostri difetti, proprio come tutti noi. Ma per l'uomo giusto, sarete perfettamente imperfette esattamente come siete e, alla fine della giornata, questa \u00e8 l'unica cosa che conta davvero.<\/p>\n

Clearly, this guy we are talking about isn\u2019t the right one for you. And you know why that is so?<\/p>\n

Because he obviously can\u2019t seem to give you back all the love he\u2019s been getting from you. Because he obviously can\u2019t love you the way you love him and the way you deserve to be loved.<\/b><\/p>\n

Well, it\u2019s time for you to understand that this unrequited love is anything but your fault. His lack of emotions and the way he\u2019s been treating you are not things you are responsible for in any way whatsoever.<\/b><\/p>\n

\u00c8 necessario capire che ci sono persone che sono semplicemente non \u00e8 capace di amare<\/span><\/a> e non c'\u00e8 nulla che si possa fare, per quanto ci si provi. E questo ragazzo \u00e8 ovviamente una di quelle persone.<\/p>\n

Potete dargli tutto l'amore di questo mondo e aspettarvi che questo amore finisca per fargli cambiare strada, ma purtroppo non succeder\u00e0 mai. Perch\u00e9 quest'uomo non vi dar\u00e0 mai ci\u00f2 di cui avete bisogno, per quanto vi sforziate di conquistare il suo cuore.<\/p>\n

Quindi, per favore, smettete di dubitare di voi stessi e del vostro valore.<\/b> Smettete di confrontarvi con le altre ragazze<\/a>, including his ex-girlfriends, and wondering what it was that they had and you don\u2019t.<\/p>\n

Smettete di permettergli di alimentare le vostre insicurezze, di abbassare la vostra autostima e di trasformarvi in qualcuno che non siete. Smettete di mettere in discussione e dubitare di s\u00e9<\/span><\/a> e il vostro valore, perch\u00e9 queste sono le ultime cose che dovreste fare.<\/p>\n

Smettete di chiedervi se siete voi la cattiva di questa storia o se avreste potuto fare di pi\u00f9 per far s\u00ec che lui si interessasse a voi. Smettete di cercare di cambiare voi stesse solo per poter piacere di pi\u00f9 a questo ragazzo e di pensare che questo sia il modo per ottenere il suo affetto.<\/p>\n

Smettete di rileggere i vostri vecchi messaggi, cercando di capire se avete detto qualcosa di sbagliato che lo ha allontanato da voi. Smettete di rivedere tutta la vostra relazione, cercando di ricordare quando e perch\u00e9 le cose sono precipitate.<\/p>\n

Smettete di cercare la convalida e l'accettazione di quest'uomo. Smettete di pensare che lui debba approvare il vostro valore perch\u00e9 sia reale e perch\u00e9 voi possiate vederlo.<\/b><\/p>\n

Stop seeing yourself through his eyes because he\u2019ll never see all of your qualities. Stop asking yourself if you are enough because this is something the right guy would never make you wonder.<\/p>\n

And most importantly\u2014stop waiting for this guy to change and to become the man you need him to be. Face the harsh truth and finally accept that you can\u2019t save him and that he\u2019ll always remain the same selfish douchebag he\u2019s always been.<\/p>\n

Quindi, invece di accontentarvi delle briciole del suo amore e di sperare che le cose vadano diversamente in futuro, salvatevi allontanandovi da questa relazione distruttiva. Cominciate a essere consapevoli di meritare molto di pi\u00f9 e aspettate che questo di pi\u00f9 arrivi.<\/b><\/p>\n

Remember that you are in no way to blame for everything that\u2019s been going on in your relationship. It is not your fault that this guy never managed to see your true beauty and all the qualities you have as a person.<\/p>\n

You are not to blame for choosing him and for not knowing better because we all make mistakes. You are not guilty of trying to find love where it clearly doesn\u2019t exist. And you are definitely not to blame for this man never being able to love you back the way you deserve.<\/p>\n

But I have to tell you something that you probably don\u2019t want to hear\u2014you will be responsible for your own destruction if you consciously choose to stay next to this man, knowing all of this. You will be to blame if you choose to waste more years of your life waiting to get all the love you keep giving him back.<\/p>\n

Because sadly, that will never happen. And it\u2019s about time you understand this.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s about time you walk away from this man and give your best to move on from all of this pain he\u2019s been causing you. To understand that you don\u2019t need him and never did.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s about time you iniziare ad amare se stessi<\/span><\/a> more than you ever loved him. And most importantly\u2014for you to start respecting the woman you are, without allowing this guy or anyone else to diminish your worth anymore.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I am not saying that you are perfect because the truth is that you have your flaws, just like the rest of us. But to the right guy, you will be perfectly imperfect exactly the way you are and at the end of the day, that is the only thing that really matters. Clearly, this…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":31150,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-31145","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/jayson-hinrichsen-713147-unsplash.jpg",800,535,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31145","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=31145"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31145\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/31150"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=31145"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=31145"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=31145"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}