{"id":31284,"date":"2020-08-14T13:18:11","date_gmt":"2020-08-14T13:18:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=31284"},"modified":"2021-08-11T12:26:47","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T12:26:47","slug":"sfrutta-la-regola-80-20-delle-relazioni-e-rendi-la-tua-vita-amorosa-straordinaria","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/sfrutta-la-regola-80-20-delle-relazioni-e-rendi-la-tua-vita-amorosa-straordinaria\/","title":{"rendered":"Sfrutta la regola dell'80\/20 nelle relazioni e rendi la tua vita amorosa straordinaria"},"content":{"rendered":"

Understanding the concept of the 80\/20 rule of relationships can be a bit confusing or even unknown to some people, so let\u2019s start at the beginning and explain what it is exactly and then continue on to have you spin it and make your love life amazing.<\/p>\n

To put it simply, the 80\/20 rule of relationships states that in a healthy relationship, you only get 80 percent of the things you want and 20 percent of the things you don\u2019t like about the person you are with.<\/em><\/p>\n

It\u2019s like a fatal flaw in human DNA that makes us think that the grass is greener on the other side, so we crave more the 20 percent we don\u2019t have and take for granted all the rest.<\/p>\n

Litighiamo con il nostro partner, ci sembra che ci dia di meno, ci lasciamo persino per quel 20%, senza considerare la parte principale, che in genere \u00e8 ottima.<\/p>\n

To transfer things into a real-life situation, let\u2019s say you are dating someone che \u00e8 fedele<\/span><\/a>Qualcuno che si impegna e si assicura che tu sappia che ci tiene.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, he does really stupid little things that make you feel neglected, like spending too much time playing games, falling asleep really fast or he doesn\u2019t like to socialize as much as you do.<\/p>\n

Cos\u00ec, invece di concentrarvi sulla parte pi\u00f9 importante e sul fatto che avete l'80% delle cose che volete, vi ossessionate sulla parte che vi manca e gliela rinfacciate, tanto che i vostri problemi diventano sempre pi\u00f9 profondi e grandi.<\/p>\n

Then you hear your friends talking about the 20 percent you don\u2019t have and you feel envious. You see it exists and you wonder why your significant other can\u2019t be more like that.<\/p>\n

Ma se vi prendeste un momento per respirare e riflettere, riflettere davvero, vedreste che a loro manca il 20% delle cose che avete voi.<\/p>\n

Una cosa simile accadrebbe se incontraste qualcuno di nuovo, qualcuno che possiede quella piccola percentuale che bramate e che vi sembra cos\u00ec ideale e attraente.<\/p>\n

But your mind is so clouded by that 20 percent that you don\u2019t see that they don\u2019t have all the other things you want. They don\u2019t have the 80 percent your partner already has.<\/p>\n

Remember what I told you about the grass looking greener on the other side? That\u2019s the point if something looks a certain way, it doesn\u2019t necessarily mean it actually is.<\/p>\n

Come sfruttare la regola 80\/20 delle relazioni per risolvere la situazione in cui vi trovate e migliorare la vostra vita sentimentale? <\/b><\/p>\n

# smettete di pretendere che il vostro partner sia perfetto<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Apprezzate ci\u00f2 che avete invece di piangere sulle piccole cose che vi mancano. L'altra persona importante isn\u2019t perfect<\/span><\/a> e non dovrebbero esserlo.<\/p>\n

They can\u2019t do things like you imagined them in your head, they can\u2019t behave in every situation like you would like them to, they are not in your mind and they see things differently than you do.<\/p>\n

Admit to yourself that you are not perfect either, maybe you don\u2019t have 20 percent of what your partner wants but you surely have 80 percent they can\u2019t live without.<\/p>\n

You wouldn\u2019t like them holding that small percentage over your head, now would you?<\/p>\n

# smettere di confrontare<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"Donna<\/p>\n

They are your boyfriend or girlfriend, not your friend\u2019s. They can\u2019t behave in the same way or do things you think are great in your friend\u2019s relationship.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s important you realize you are two completely separate individuals who are totally unlike your friend and their partner and that there is no way you would want the same things or react to certain situations the same way.<\/p>\n

Most importantly, you only get your friend\u2019s side of the story, which might be blown out of proportion or at least a bit embellished and you don\u2019t know what\u2019s under the perfect surface.<\/p>\n

Ricordate che nessuno ha tutto il 100 per cento, niente \u00e8 mai cos\u00ec perfetto e tutti hanno almeno quel 20 per cento che mancher\u00e0 sempre.<\/p>\n

So start concentrating more on your own relationship and stop wasting your time on comparisons, it\u2019s irrelevant and useless and you are only doing more harm to your relationship than good.<\/p>\n

# iniziate da voi stessi<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Molte persone vedono sempre il problema nel proprio partner, senza nemmeno prendere in considerazione il fatto che potrebbero essere loro stessi a essere colpevoli o meno che perfetti in certe situazioni.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t be one of those people. Be a realist and understand that none of us are saints. We are all flawed in our own way.<\/p>\n

Quindi, prima di attaccare il partner e di fargli ricadere tutte le colpe, prendetevi un po' di tempo per riflettere e rivalutare i vostri pensieri, desideri e azioni.<\/p>\n

Siete impulsivi, dovete contare fino a dieci prima di reagire? Ci sono cose che potreste fare in modo sbagliato?<\/p>\n

# determinare ci\u00f2 che si vuole<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

La causa di tutti i nostri problemi con quel 20% che percepiamo come difettoso nel nostro partner potrebbe risiedere nella nostra incapacit\u00e0 di essere onesti con noi stessi su ci\u00f2 che vogliamo.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s time you do just that. Literally take a pen and paper and write down all the things you want from your partner and your relationship.<\/p>\n

Scrivete tutte le cose che ritenete di apportare al tavolo. Scrivete anche tutte le cose che ritenete siano un vostro difetto o che potreste migliorare.<\/p>\n

Now take a really close look, are you getting most of the things you want from your partner and do they make up for the part that\u2019s missing? If you were him looking at your list, would you like him to ignore the negative and concentrate on the positive?<\/p>\n

Se la risposta \u00e8 s\u00ec, non manca molto al 20%, giusto?<\/p>\n

# trovare se stessi<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

This is the reason why most of us don\u2019t know what we want, we simply forget to ask ourself, we forget to get to know our wishes, preferences, and goals and actually dream our dreams.<\/p>\n

Per avere una relazione sana e funzionante, dovete amare voi stessi. Bisogna amare la propria vita e viverla davvero.<\/p>\n

Nessuno pu\u00f2 rendere la vostra vita completa se non voi stessi. L'altra persona non fa altro che completare la vostra vita e aggiungervi qualcosa. Assicuratevi quindi di avere ben chiaro questo punto.<\/p>\n

# determinare il motivo per cui avete iniziato la vostra relazione.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

To expand on the previous note, it\u2019s important to say that people have a habit of entering a relationship hoping (sometimes even unconsciously) they will get something from it.<\/p>\n

Mainly they are looking for somebody who will make them happy. Don\u2019t fall into that trap, there\u2019s nobody who can make you happy, at least not long-term, if you don\u2019t make yourself happy first.<\/p>\n

Tenete presente che le relazioni sono fatte di dare e ricevere e che entrambi i segmenti devono essere incorporati. L'amore fluisce quando entrambe le persone sono ugualmente coinvolte l'una nell'altra.<\/p>\n

# ascoltare di pi\u00f9 e presumere di meno<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

The way in which you interpret somebody\u2019s words or actions might have nothing to do with what they said and everything to do with negative experiences you had in the past.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let the bagaglio emotivo<\/span><\/a> che portate dentro di voi rovinano una relazione potenzialmente buona. Il vostro attuale partner non \u00e8 colpevole di nessuna delle cose che il vostro ex o i vostri ex hanno fatto.<\/p>\n

Quindi, prima di agitarti per quel 20% di problemi che hai con lui, assicurati che abbiano davvero a che fare con lui.<\/p>\n

# contate le vostre benedizioni<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

Contate tutto ci\u00f2 che avete nella parte dell'80%. Cercate di vedere il quadro generale e di essere sinceri con voi stessi su ci\u00f2 di cui avete veramente bisogno.<\/p>\n

You probably have much more than you think but you are so concentrated on that 20% you don\u2019t have that you don\u2019t see how lucky you are.<\/p>\n

Spero che ora vi sia chiaro il significato della regola dell'80\/20 nelle relazioni. Scommetto che ora tutto sembra logico e abbastanza ovvio.<\/p>\n

The most important thing to remember if you want to make your love life amazing is not to sweat the small stuff. Don\u2019t make problems where there aren\u2019t any. <\/b><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t brush anything under the carpet either, so if that 20 percent contains things that undervalue all the good things, try to solve them. Talk to your partner and ask them to work on something.<\/p>\n

La cosa peggiore che si possa fare \u00e8 non comunicare ci\u00f2 che si prova, serbare rancore o accumulare insoddisfazione. Rimanere in silenzio non ha mai risolto nulla.<\/p>\n

Dopo aver letto queste righe, spero che la prossima volta che vorrete lamentarvi del vostro interlocutore, vi prenderete un momento per respirare e pensare e la cosa pi\u00f9 ovvia che ricorderete \u00e8 quel prezioso 80 percento che avete ogni giorno. <\/b><\/p>\n

The other 20 percent is something you should erase from your memory because all in all, it really isn\u2019t that important.<\/p>\n

Acknowledge the fact that you also give 80 percent that your partner wants and 20 percent they don\u2019t want but accept.<\/p>\n

Isn\u2019t life better when you concentrate on all the good stuff rather than spend your time dwelling on the things that aren\u2019t so important?<\/p>\n

So don\u2019t be petty by giving more value to something as small and insignificant as the 20 percent.<\/p>\n

Enjoy the good days and storm through the bad ones without reflecting too much about them. As I said, don\u2019t create problems where there aren\u2019t any.<\/p>\n

Time flies so quickly and it\u2019s important we seize as many great, breathtaking, sweet moments as we possibly can.<\/p>\n

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