{"id":31552,"date":"2020-04-21T11:55:47","date_gmt":"2020-04-21T11:55:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=31552"},"modified":"2022-02-27T13:55:21","modified_gmt":"2022-02-27T13:55:21","slug":"una-lettera-aperta-al-mio-ex-grazie-per-avermi-tradito","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/una-lettera-aperta-al-mio-ex-grazie-per-avermi-tradito\/","title":{"rendered":"Lettera aperta al mio ex: grazie per avermi tradito"},"content":{"rendered":"

Anche se il tradimento \u00e8 diventato tristemente comune negli appuntamenti moderni, essere traditi dalla persona amata \u00e8 ancora una delle cose pi\u00f9 devastanti che si possano provare.<\/p>\n

Dovrei saperlo perch\u00e9 l'ho provato sulla mia pelle.<\/p>\n

Quando tu, che pensavo fossi il l'amore della mia vita <\/a>mi ha tradito, mi sono sentita tradita, umiliata e delusa, oltre ad avere il cuore spezzato.<\/p>\n

I felt like the person I trusted the most backstabbed me in the most awful way. Also, I couldn\u2019t help but wonder how come I didn\u2019t see it before.<\/p>\n

Come mai sono stata cos\u00ec sciocca da permettere che una cosa del genere continuasse ad accadere proprio davanti ai miei occhi, senza che io mi accorgessi di nulla?<\/p>\n

In questo modo, il mio senso di autostima \u00e8 scomparso da un giorno all'altro.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

I asked myself what you missed in our relationship that you had to search for in someone else. What did this girl have that I didn\u2019t?<\/p>\n

Every single one of these thoughts and questions ran through my head the moment I found out that you weren\u2019t faithful.<\/p>\n

Even though staying by your side was never an option, leaving you didn\u2019t ease my pain.<\/p>\n

Mi sentivo come se volessi morire e come se niente e nessuno potesse aiutarmi a stare meglio. Come se fosse la fine del mondo e come se non mi sarei mai ripresa da tutto quello che mi hai fatto.<\/p>\n

Mi sono chiesto come ho potuto sprecare tanti anni della mia vita vivendo nella menzogna. <\/b><\/p>\n

Obviously, you never loved nor respected me the way you should have because you don\u2019t do a thing like this to someone you love.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Capirei se tu fossi abbastanza onesto da dirmi che ti sei disinnamorato di me.<\/p>\n

Ma quello che non sono mai riuscita a capire e a perdonare \u00e8 stato il fatto di aver violato la mia fiducia e di avermi tenuto come piano di riserva pur avendo una relazione e convincendomi che mi amavi pi\u00f9 di ogni altra cosa.<\/p>\n

After some time spent grieving, I\u2019ve decided it is time to rimettermi in sesto<\/a> in un modo o nell'altro.<\/p>\n

Dopo tutto, voi eravate da qualche parte l\u00e0 fuori a vivere la vostra vita, come se non fosse successo nulla, e io ero qui, aggrappata a questo dolore e a permettere che il mio cuore spezzato mi definisse.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve decided that I wasn\u2019t to blame for everything that went on and that you are the only one responsible for your barare <\/a>.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: Una lettera al mio ex fidanzato<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Sapevo di aver fatto del mio meglio per far funzionare la nostra relazione, e se c'era qualcosa che ti infastidiva, avresti dovuto parlarne apertamente invece di scherzare alle mie spalle.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve decided that hating the girl you had an affair with was pointless, as well.<\/p>\n

Yes, my first instinct was to blame her for everything, but then it hit me\u2014she wasn\u2019t the one who promised commitment to me.<\/b><\/p>\n

She wasn\u2019t the one who would lay in bed next to me every night as if everything was alright, the one who continued to make future plans with me, knowing what was happening, and the one who kept on swearing that she loved me, even though the truth was completely different.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, despite all of this, I learned that I shouldn\u2019t be hating you either. I\u2019ve realized that holding grudges and being bitter was only impacting me negatively.<\/p>\n

My desire for revenge was only making me a prisoner of my own pain, and it didn\u2019t affect you in any way whatsoever.<\/p>\n

So, this is not me cursing you or wishing you all the worst. This is not me resenting you or swearing that I\u2019ll never forgive you for everything you\u2019ve done.<\/p>\n

No, this is me thanking you. Yes, you\u2019ve heard it right: I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for cheating on me. <\/b><\/p>\n

Because if you hadn\u2019t done it, I wouldn\u2019t be the person I am today. I wouldn\u2019t know how strong of a woman I am, and I wouldn\u2019t know how much I could take.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

I wouldn\u2019t know that a simple heartbreak can\u2019t break me completely. That time really does heal all wounds and that every pain is temporary, no matter how devastating it might feel.<\/p>\n

I wouldn\u2019t know that I could make it without you or without anyone else to hold my hand. If you hadn\u2019t cheated on me, I wouldn\u2019t have become my own hero and savior.<\/p>\n

I wouldn\u2019t understand some verit\u00e0 illuminanti sull'amore <\/a> e le persone in generale.<\/p>\n

I wouldn\u2019t know that there are some insensitive and toxic people, such as yourself, who don\u2019t give a damn about hurting others and that my love can\u2019t change those people, as much as I would like it to.<\/p>\n

Ma soprattutto, if you hadn\u2019t cheated on me, I wouldn\u2019t have loved and respected myself the way I do now.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

I wouldn\u2019t know how much I deserve, what love isn\u2019t or what to expect from a healthy relationship.<\/p>\n

I wouldn\u2019t be this proud of my strength and my capacity to overcome all miseries.<\/b><\/p>\n

I wouldn\u2019t have known better than not to let people who don\u2019t deserve me into my life, and I would continue thinking that there is nothing wrong with settling for less.<\/b><\/p>\n

Quindi, grazie per avermi spezzato il cuore<\/a>. Thank you for cheating on me because if you hadn\u2019t done it, I would have never learned a valuable life lesson.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"Lettera<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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