{"id":31572,"date":"2020-04-21T11:55:50","date_gmt":"2020-04-21T11:55:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=31572"},"modified":"2021-08-12T09:24:05","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T09:24:05","slug":"il-tradimento-e-una-scelta-non-un-errore","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/il-tradimento-e-una-scelta-non-un-errore\/","title":{"rendered":"Tradire \u00e8 una scelta, non un errore"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Tutti coloro che sono stati traditi, in un modo o nell'altro, da qualcuno che amavano con tutto il cuore, capiscono il dolore che si prova quando si viene fatti a pezzi e non si riesce a respirare bene perch\u00e9 il mondo sta improvvisamente crollando.<\/p>\n<p>Capite come ci si sente a essere una seconda scelta rispetto a qualcuno che era la vostra priorit\u00e0 fin dall'inizio.<\/p>\n<p>But, there\u2019s one thing you need to understand as well: <b>Voi avete scelto loro, ma loro hanno scelto di tradirvi.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t you dare think or let them persuade you that cheating on you was just a mistake, and now they realize that they shouldn\u2019t have done it.<\/p>\n<p>Imbrogliare \u00e8 un atto di vigliaccheria e non ha nulla a che vedere con gli errori accidentali.<\/p>\n<p>It is a choice made by greediness\u2014not appreciating what you have but not being willing to let the person go. You chose to commit that sin because it makes you <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/5-heartbreaking-reasons-why-we-choose-to-stay-in-unhappy-relationships\/\">sentirsi felici<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>L'unico e solo motivo per cui l'avete fatto \u00e8 perch\u00e9 vi ha dato soddisfazione.<\/p>\n<p><b>Il tradimento \u00e8 un'azione che distrugge deliberatamente un altro essere umano per soddisfare i propri bisogni egoistici.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Cheating is not something you do by accident because you can\u2019t control yourself.<\/p>\n<p>Ogni azione che fate \u00e8 approvata dal vostro cervello, il che significa che VOI avete deciso di far sentire infelice un altro essere umano godendo del vostro momento di felicit\u00e0.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-84589\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/sad-woman-crying-1.jpg\" alt=\"donna triste che piange\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/sad-woman-crying-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/sad-woman-crying-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/sad-woman-crying-1-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><i>But, was it so hard to admit to them that you\u2019re not satisfied with how things are? Was it so hard to tell them how you feel and fix the problem or leave and spare them the pain?<\/i><\/p>\n<p>I bet, it wasn\u2019t. Then why didn\u2019t you do it? You didn\u2019t do it because you wanted to try something new.<\/p>\n<p>Ti sei stufato di quello che avevi. Ti sei stufato del loro amore e hai voluto assaggiarne un altro per soddisfare il tuo appetito.<\/p>\n<p><b>Cheating is a choice driven by your urge for a change that you\u2019re not capable of making yourself.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Quando avete deciso di tradire, avete deciso di fare qualcosa in segreto, di nascondere il vostro atto vergognoso alla persona amata perch\u00e9 sapevate che quello che stavate facendo non era giusto.<\/p>\n<p>You wanted something new, but you didn\u2019t want to lose what you already have, and that is what makes you an asshole.<\/p>\n<p><i>Quando si ama davvero qualcuno, si fanno scelte che lo proteggono, lo fanno sorridere e lo fanno sentire amato. Quando si ama davvero qualcuno, si fanno scelte che migliorano la relazione.<\/i>\u2014<i>non distruggerlo.<\/i><\/p>\n<p>But, you made a choice to fuck things up and break them, so don\u2019t you dare tell anyone that you\u2019re sorry because you\u2019re not.<\/p>\n<p><b>Hai deliberatamente, volontariamente e consapevolmente deciso di distruggere tutto ci\u00f2 che avevi solo perch\u00e9 eri incapace di amare la tua compagna come fa un vero uomo.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-84592\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/business-man-standing-in-deep-minds.jpg\" alt=\"uomo d&#039;affari in piedi nelle menti profonde\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/business-man-standing-in-deep-minds.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/business-man-standing-in-deep-minds-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/business-man-standing-in-deep-minds-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>You deliberately killed their hope just because you didn\u2019t have any. You deliberately broke their heart just because you didn\u2019t have one.<\/p>\n<p>And on top of all that, now, you probably expect them to forgive you because YOU MADE A MISTAKE. I\u2019m sorry to tell you that love doesn\u2019t tolerate mistakes.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re either committed or you\u2019re not. You\u2019re either here or you\u2019re not. There\u2019s no grey area here.<\/p>\n<p><b>Tutto ci\u00f2 che si fa in una relazione \u00e8 una questione di scelta personale.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Li fate ridere perch\u00e9 vi piace il loro sorriso.<\/p>\n<p>Li fate sentire speciali perch\u00e9 li amate.<\/p>\n<p>Li proteggete perch\u00e9 vi preoccupate davvero per loro.<\/p>\n<p><b>You hurt them because you don\u2019t give a shit about how they\u2019ll feel.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s as simple as that. You could have chosen otherwise, but you didn\u2019t because you didn\u2019t feel the burden of your own decisions.<\/p>\n<p>You decided to waste large amounts of time only to enjoy one second. You did it because you didn\u2019t give a fuck about them.<\/p>\n<p>You didn\u2019t give a fuck about people who <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/10-ways-to-stop-loving-someone-who-doesnt-love-you-back\/\">ti amo<\/a> e che darebbero la loro vita per voi.<\/p>\n<p>Li avete feriti perch\u00e9 i vostri desideri e le vostre voglie erano le vostre uniche priorit\u00e0 e dovete sapere che queste persone non sono sciocche e crederanno che si \u00e8 trattato solo di un errore.<\/p>\n<p>Vedete, forse vi hanno amato con tutto il cuore e forse vi amano ancora, ma nel momento in cui avete deciso di ferirli, hanno anche deciso di non perdonarvi MAI.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-84587\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Cheating-Is-A-Choice-Not-A-Mistake-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Tradire \u00e8 una scelta, non un errore\" width=\"724\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Cheating-Is-A-Choice-Not-A-Mistake-pinterest.jpg 724w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Cheating-Is-A-Choice-Not-A-Mistake-pinterest-212x300.jpg 212w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 724px) 100vw, 724px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>All of you who have been cheated on one way or another by someone you loved with all of your heart, you understand the pain of being broken into pieces and not being able to breathe properly because your world is suddenly falling apart. You understand how it feels to be a second choice to&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":84595,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29626],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-31572","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-affair"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29626,"label":"affair"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Cheating-Is-A-Choice-Not-A-Mistake.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29626,"name":"affair","slug":"affair","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29626,"taxonomy":"category","description":"If you want to learn more about affairs, here you'll learn about different types of infidelity, how affairs happen, how to recognize a cheater, and more.","parent":29620,"count":132,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29626,"category_count":132,"category_description":"If you want to learn more about affairs, here you'll learn about different types of infidelity, how affairs happen, how to recognize a cheater, and more.","cat_name":"affair","category_nicename":"affair","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31572","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=31572"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31572\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/84595"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=31572"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=31572"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=31572"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}