{"id":31705,"date":"2020-06-23T10:26:07","date_gmt":"2020-06-23T10:26:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=31705"},"modified":"2022-08-12T08:05:10","modified_gmt":"2022-08-12T08:05:10","slug":"i-motivi-piu-sorprendenti-per-cui-torniamo-dalle-persone-che-ci-hanno-fatto-del-male","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/i-motivi-piu-sorprendenti-per-cui-torniamo-dalle-persone-che-ci-hanno-fatto-del-male\/","title":{"rendered":"Motivi sconvolgenti per cui torniamo dalle persone che ci hanno fatto del male"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Le persone sono creature abitudinarie e una volta che si creano una routine e vi si attengono per molto tempo, diventa molto difficile uscirne.<\/p>\n<p>Per quanto possa sembrare contorto, essere <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/10-segnali-di-allarme-di-una-relazione-tossica\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">in una relazione tossica<\/span><\/a> where things are always a certain way and which allows you to know the endgame is a source of comfort and security for some people, and they just aren\u2019t ready to break out of it.<\/p>\n<p><b>Avere a che fare con qualcosa di familiare, con un rischio minimo, \u00e8 qualcosa da cui alcune persone sono estremamente attratte e, a causa di questa sensazione di familiarit\u00e0, si ritrovano in un ciclo infinito di dolore e sofferenza.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Everyone\u2019s pain stems from somewhere, be that from a traumatic childhood experience, a bad relationship that is haunting them to this day or any kind of abuse.<\/p>\n<p>E poich\u00e9 quel dolore \u00e8 tutto ci\u00f2 che conoscono e che gli \u00e8 stato insegnato ad accettare, trovano conforto nell'instabilit\u00e0 che il loro partner tossico fornisce loro.<\/p>\n<p>Quando il dolore \u00e8 tutto ci\u00f2 che si pensa di meritare, \u00e8 difficile cercare qualsiasi altro tipo di trattamento.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-91332\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/depressed-woman-with-hair-above-her-head.jpg\" alt=\"donna depressa con i capelli sopra la testa\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/depressed-woman-with-hair-above-her-head.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/depressed-woman-with-hair-above-her-head-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/depressed-woman-with-hair-above-her-head-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/> <b>Un altro esempio \u00e8 la dipendenza cieca da una persona che sappiamo non essere buona per noi.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>It is way too easy to get lost in a relationship when we are blinded by \u2018\u2019love\u2019\u2019 that is merely an unhealthy addiction to the wrong person.<\/p>\n<p>In order to justify going back, we tell ourselves: \u2018\u2019Maybe this time he\u2019s really going to change\u2019\u2019 or \u2018\u2019It was me who made him react that way\u2019\u2019, so we would feel less shameful for not being able to say \u2018\u2019No\u2019\u2019 when it\u2019s the only right thing left to do.<\/p>\n<p>Di recente un'amica mi ha raccontato di aver deciso di riprendersi il suo ex dopo essere stata ferita numerose volte da lui, perch\u00e9 si era convinta che lui avesse bisogno di rimediare a tutte le volte che l'aveva maltrattata.<\/p>\n<p>Le persone si raccontano tutto quello che hanno bisogno di sentirsi dire e si inventano le ragioni pi\u00f9 strane e inquietanti per tornare da coloro da cui sono state ferite, perch\u00e9 hanno bisogno di credere che stanno facendo <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/life\/stop-allowing-your-happy-memories-with-him-to-keep-you-from-doing-the-right-thing\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">la cosa giusta<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><b>Un altro motivo <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/4-motivi-per-cui-stai-tornando-da-lui-quando-sai-di-meritare-di-meglio\/\">Perch\u00e9 le persone tornano dai loro partner tossici<\/a> is because it\u2019s easier than opening up to someone new and making yourself vulnerable for new potential heartbreak.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-91333\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/young-couple-hugging-on-the-nature.jpg\" alt=\"giovane coppia che si abbraccia nella natura\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/young-couple-hugging-on-the-nature.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/young-couple-hugging-on-the-nature-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/young-couple-hugging-on-the-nature-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Being in a long-term relationship and investing so much of your soul, energy and time into this one person is a lot to give up, so it\u2019s easier for some people to go back over and over again, hoping it will be better, than to start something brand new.<\/p>\n<p>Mettersi di nuovo in gioco \u00e8 spaventoso, scoraggiante e rischioso, poich\u00e9 ci si apre a nuove possibilit\u00e0 di finire feriti e delusi.<\/p>\n<p><b>Dopo aver permesso a noi stessi di essere vulnerabili di fronte a qualcuno e quindi averlo reso il nostro porto sicuro, \u00e8 difficile renderlo insicuro.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>They are what\u2019s familiar to you, and they know you best. And after distancing yourself for a little while, you romanticize what you had and make it seem better in your head than it actually was, which justifies going back to that endless cycle of pain.<\/p>\n<p>Il ritorno a persone che ci hanno fatto soffrire \u00e8 spesso collegato a problemi di autostima. Cercare di uscire da una relazione malsana per poi cedere e riviverla per la miliardesima volta contribuisce a<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/sono-inutile\/\"> sentimenti di inutilit\u00e0.<\/a><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-91334\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/lonely-woman-in-park.jpg\" alt=\"donna sola nel parco\" width=\"800\" height=\"544\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/lonely-woman-in-park.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/lonely-woman-in-park-300x204.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/lonely-woman-in-park-768x522.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Questi sentimenti ci fanno credere di non essere degni di amore e che il trattamento che riceviamo \u00e8 quello che ci meritiamo.<\/p>\n<p>L'idea che qualcuno non si senta come se fosse <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/alla-ragazza-che-ha-bisogno-di-sapere-che-e-piu-che-sufficiente-2\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">abbastanza buono<\/span><\/a> o anche solo degno di un tipo di amore vero, gentile e genuino \u00e8 straziante e dimostra quanto facilmente possiamo essere manipolati per avere un'immagine sbagliata di noi stessi.<\/p>\n<p>Credere che il dolore a cui torniamo sia la misura di ci\u00f2 che ci meritiamo \u00e8 sbagliato a tanti livelli, perch\u00e9 \u00e8 solo una tattica usata per farci tornare al dolore e all'abbandono.<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t need validation from anyone that you are worthy of love. When he tells you he\u2019s the best you\u2019ll ever have, know that he is wrong! When he manipulates you into coming back, be brave to say \u2018\u2019No\u2019\u2019 and walk away from his web of deceit.<\/p>\n<p><b>Siete belli, forti, gentili e meritevoli del miglior tipo di amore che esista. Uscirne non \u00e8 mai facile, ma c'\u00e8 sempre speranza quando si decide che quando \u00e8 troppo \u00e8 troppo.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s never too late to walk away from pain and decide to find someone who loves you and makes you feel safe. We are all deserving of love, and you are no exception.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-91331\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/Mind-blowing-Reasons-Why-We-Go-Back-To-People-Who-Hurt-Us-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Motivi sconvolgenti per cui torniamo dalle persone che ci hanno fatto del male \" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/Mind-blowing-Reasons-Why-We-Go-Back-To-People-Who-Hurt-Us-Pinterest.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/Mind-blowing-Reasons-Why-We-Go-Back-To-People-Who-Hurt-Us-Pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>People are creatures of habit, and once they create a routine for themselves and stick to it for the longest time, it becomes very difficult to get out of it. As twisted as it sounds, being in a toxic relationship where things are always a certain way and which allows you to know the endgame&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":91330,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29628],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-31705","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dealing-with-breakup"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29628,"label":"dealing with breakup"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/Mind-blowing-Reasons-Why-We-Go-Back-To-People-Who-Hurt-Us.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"April Callaghan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/april\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29628,"name":"dealing with breakup","slug":"dealing-with-breakup","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29628,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Breakups are painful but worry not; you don't need to go through all of it alone. 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