{"id":3179,"date":"2020-08-03T08:57:20","date_gmt":"2020-08-03T08:57:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=3179"},"modified":"2022-03-17T01:33:57","modified_gmt":"2022-03-17T01:33:57","slug":"ecco-come-ho-sposato-il-mio-ex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/ecco-come-ho-sposato-il-mio-ex\/","title":{"rendered":"Ecco come ho sposato il mio ex"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ho deciso di chiamare il mio ex dopo tre anni di silenzio radio.<\/b> Ho pensato che fosse il momento giusto per darci la giusta chiusura che non abbiamo mai avuto.<\/p>\n

Ci siamo lasciati in modo strano e non siamo mai riusciti ad andare avanti. Per tre anni non sono uscita con nessun altro. Lui ha avuto relazioni che si \u00e8 rifiutato di etichettare<\/a> perch\u00e9 usava quelle ragazze per sfogarsi e sbollire la rabbia che aveva dopo la rottura.<\/p>\n

Until he found a girl that made him forget about me\u2014or that\u2019s what I thought at first.<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t even have his number<\/b>Cos\u00ec chiesi al nostro amico comune di darmi il suo numero. Volevo chiamarlo e parlare di quello che c'era stato tra noi.<\/p>\n

I wanted him to tell me why was he angry all the time and why couldn\u2019t we manage to work it out.<\/p>\n

Cos\u00ec ho chiamato e lui ha lasciato squillare. <\/b>That night he didn\u2019t pick up and I broke into million pieces. I thought he\u2019d be happy to hear from me\u2014the emotions should be cooling off by now.<\/p>\n

My phone call wasn\u2019t answered and I went to sleep beating myself up for thinking I meant something to him. I was hurt.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

My heart was broken one more time and my ego\u2026 well, my ego was devastated. I thought I\u2019d feel better if I\u2019d just sleep it off.<\/p>\n

Vedi anche:<\/strong> Grazie per non aver risposto al telefono quando ho chiamato<\/a><\/p>\n

La mattina dopo i miei sentimenti erano gli stessi della sera precedente. Mi odiavo per aver chiamato. <\/b><\/p>\n

I hated myself for thinking he\u2019d still smile upon seeing my name on the screen of his phone. Well, he was, but it turned out that I called at the wrong moment. <\/b><\/p>\n

His fiance had his phone and she didn\u2019t appreciate my call. That\u2019s why it was left unanswered. <\/b><\/p>\n

The moment he got a chance he wrote me a message. I felt he was mad but happy at the same time. That\u2019s what we did to each other.<\/p>\n

He was happy to see my name on the screen of his phone, but he was so mad to see it only after three years. I had no explanation for that\u2014although, it\u2019s not like my phone died from his missed calls.<\/p>\n

\"Giovane<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: Quando il vostro amore pi\u00f9 grande sposa il suo amore pi\u00f9 grande<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

It was the most awkward talk I had until it wasn\u2019t anymore.<\/b> Una volta svanita la rabbia, sono entrate le emozioni felici. E Dio, era cos\u00ec bello ricordare ci\u00f2 che avevamo.<\/p>\n

Abbiamo parlato per quasi un'ora, finch\u00e9 non ha deciso di guidare per 112 miglia per vedermi. <\/b>It was already night. I\u2019d be lying if I said that I had seen this coming, but I\u2019d be lying as well if I said I was surprised.<\/p>\n

Facevamo cose folli come questa l'uno per l'altra. Non c'era modo di convincerlo a non farlo, cos\u00ec ho seguito la corrente.<\/p>\n

At first I couldn\u2019t believe he drove all that distance just to see me<\/b>. At some point, I thought he was just playing me. But he wasn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

Non siamo mai stati noi. Ero cos\u00ec nervosa, anche se ho fatto del mio meglio per apparire pi\u00f9 carina possibile.<\/p>\n

We both knew there wouldn’t be anything but the talk happening that night and yet, I had the need to look the best I could. I still don\u2019t know if it was for me or for him.<\/p>\n

\"Una<\/p>\n

Nel momento in cui l'ho visto il mio cuore si \u00e8 fermato.<\/b> I couldn’t believe it was him before my eyes. It was so real and I just wasn’t ready for it.<\/p>\n

Ero pronto e ho avuto le palle di chiamarlo per parlare al telefono, ma lui ha avuto il coraggio di presentarsi di persona. Era in forma come sempre.<\/p>\n

It didn’t surprise me at all\u2014what is your ex going to do after a breakup other than get better looking.<\/p>\n

Il mio primo istinto \u00e8 stato quello di abbracciarlo e ci siamo abbracciati. \u00c8 stato un abbraccio lungo. \u00c8 stato l'abbraccio di due persone che si sono mancate follemente. <\/b><\/p>\n

He had the same smile he always had when he saw me. Nothing had really changed. I didn’t think it would have anyways.<\/b><\/p>\n

I sat in the car and he drove us to the coffee shop out of the town. It was on top of a mountain\u2014far away from anything that could cause our attention to wander from each other.<\/p>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

It was just me and him, and that’s what we needed that night. I sat next to him because I knew he was here with me\u2014so why sit across the table?<\/p>\n

Abbiamo iniziato a parlare. Era come con le ferite di tre anni fa, come se non ci fossimo mai lasciati.<\/p>\n

Era cos\u00ec reale come se avessimo ha viaggiato nel tempo<\/a> but something in the back of my mind was telling me it wasn’t real.<\/p>\n

We talked for hours. I didn’t look at my watch\u2014not once. The time was irrelevant. It felt so good to sit next to him to talk and talk. <\/b><\/p>\n

Solo per stare l\u00ec a chiedersi cosa sarebbe successo se io fossi stata un po' meno io e lui un po' meno lui. <\/b><\/p>\n

Mi disse come lo avevo ferito. Mi disse che gli avevo spezzato il cuore scegliendo tutti gli altri invece di lui.<\/p>\n

He told me he hasn\u2019t been able to sleep peacefully all these years and that each time when he’d close his eyes, he’d see me.<\/p>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

He said that he found a girl that respects him and makes him feel he’s at home. He said he’s not mad at me anymore.<\/b><\/p>\n

He also said that he understands why I did the things I did. He knows things can’t change between us and things are really just too different at this point in our lives. He pointed out that he’s happy I called and he can’t believe his eyes.<\/p>\n

Non pensava pi\u00f9 di vederci seduti l'uno accanto all'altro in questo modo. <\/b>And then he pulled me closer and hugged me. I said I’m sorry for everything.<\/p>\n

I said how I’d punished myself and told myself not to have anybody else next to me because of the things I did to him.<\/p>\n

I thought I don’t deserve love and I don’t want to leave broken people behind me. I figured it out that I can’t love because that’s not what I was taught in life.<\/p>\n

\"bella<\/p>\n

He said he’ll never love anybody the way he loved me and he loves me now\u2014no matter how much time passes, no matter what distance and how many miles are between us. <\/b><\/p>\n

Sar\u00f2 ancora nel suo cuore e la sua persona preferita in questo mondo. \u00c8 sempre stato bravo a volermi bene<\/b>.<\/p>\n

Sceglieva sempre le parole giuste, ma a volte sceglieva di punirmi e abbattermi solo per sentirsi meglio.<\/p>\n

Avevo bisogno di dimostrare a lui e a tutti gli altri che I’m strong and that I’m independent.<\/a> Poi, abbiamo capito che ci amavamo in un momento sbagliato.<\/p>\n

I couldn’t say I loved him even though I did\u2014even though I do. I couldn’t do it because I’m still as broken as I was before.<\/p>\n

I didn’t do it because I knew nothing would change by saying those words out loud.  So, I just smiled. I smiled because I didn’t want to ruin what he had with another girl.<\/p>\n

I smiled because I knew if I said I loved him, he would try and give us another chance\u2014and we\u2019d blow that chance as well.<\/p>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

He asked me if I\u2019d marry him. He said he\u2019d leave everything in a second and run away with me. <\/b><\/p>\n

He\u2019d forget every single person in his life if I decided to stay with him. But I couldn\u2019t do it\u2014the same as I couldn\u2019t kiss him. I know I\u2019ll be sorry years from now since I\u2019m sorry already.<\/p>\n

But the girl he was with didn\u2019t deserve any of this. He didn\u2019t deserve to tie the rest of his life to a toxic person such as me.<\/p>\n

Where I grew up, the phrase \u2018I married someone\u2019 has a double meaning. One is that I am the person that got married and the second one is that I made it possible for somebody to get married. <\/b><\/p>\n

No, I wasn\u2019t the one to get married.<\/b> I wasn\u2019t the one to wear white today. It was his fiancee. By saying \u2018no\u2019 to him, I made it possible for her to say \u2018yes\u2019 to him today. That\u2019s how I married my ex.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sorry for not giving you a happy-ending. I\u2019m just not that type of a person.<\/p>\n

\"Ecco<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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